Mixed signals or it's just me ?

[Tkman]

This really hot chick aka "sweet booty" works across the mall from me, has been showing really high interest by following me, flirting with me, and asking some personal questions .......

The other day, I walked over to her location and we were just talking, she dropped the line "I have a long distance boyfriend ... but it's not really serious" .... I was like, "Oh, cool" and continued with our conversation.

She then proceeded with this txt message .....

Her : other then working what do u do for fun ?
Me : play pool, clubing, etc. I was going to ask u if u wanted to hangout this Saturday
Her : I love pool. I am down for Saturday. sounds good.
Me : Cool. U need to let me know if u have a serious boyfriend or it's just not serious. Cause I really don't want to play any games.

As I was leaving, I see her and we have a small chat.

Me: "did u read the text message?"
Her: "Yes"
Me: "Like I said, no games ..... deal?"
Her: "Deal"

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I really thinking she was lying when she said, she has a long distance relationship .... It just didn't sound right. Maybe it was just a test or get me jealous ? Why would she sent a text message right after the conversation, "on what I do for fun?" .............. I was thinking of not asking her out and watching her reaction, I don't want to look desperate ? Plus, she's hot probably no guy ever done that to her .... ?

 

[Radninja]

Are you really 40? Why do you text like a retard? Long distance boyfriend line is a sh!t test, and you ate it up. Why are you overanalyzing her words and not just reponding to her behavior?

She's sending IOIs and asking you to make a move. Sh!t testing is part of the process to see if you have balls. Stop overthinking it and show her how good your world can make her feel.

 

[logic1]

Me : Cool. U need to let me know if u have a serious boyfriend or it's just not serious. Cause I really don't want to play any games.

Why are you worrying about this at the moment? You keep acting like this and she will see you as a drama king.

The questions you are asking her is not being confident.

Sounds as if you could have her bent over the sink in the mall's restroom by now if you wern't so worried about if she has a boyfriend or not.

 

[katatonia]

Me : Cool. U need to let me know if u have a serious boyfriend or it's just not serious. Cause I really don't want to play any games.

Why on earth did you say this? I'm going to say you didn't know any better, but never do this again. There is no point whatsoever in bringing up her boyfriend, he should NEVER be mentioned when you are talking to her.

Me: "did u read the text message?"
Her: "Yes"
Me: "Like I said, no games ..... deal?"
Her: "Deal"

Or this. WTF? You shouldn't be telling a chick not to play games because if she's a games-playing girl she's not going to listen to you anyway. Plus you should be encouraging games because if you outplay these little slvts at their dumb games then you can achieve some serious attraction.

I really thinking she was lying when she said, she has a long distance relationship .... It just didn't sound right. Maybe it was just a test or get me jealous ? Why would she sent a text message right after the conversation, "on what I do for fun?" .............. I was thinking of not asking her out and watching her reaction, I don't want to look desperate ? Plus, she's hot probably no guy ever done that to her .... ?

Yeah I got a slight feeling that this may be an attention wh0re, which means there's going to be a lot of games. Instead of not asking her out (didn't you already do that and she accepted?) just flake on her. She'll probably blow your phone up wondering where you are and don't talk to her until she contacts you the next day/week or whatever and then just say 'something else popped up' or 'I was busy' and if you can, subtly hint that you were with another girl. Take my advice and she'll probably be on your d1ck in no time.

 

[jophil28]

Firstly, why did you ask her via text ? She is available in person just across the mall. Surely you could have taken your sorry azz over to her store and asked her out in the good 'ole fashioned way ? You had her coming up to the boil already - she was a shoe-in ( that means a 'sure thing' for all you mouse clicking Gen Y's )

Secondly, your reference to her LDR with her B/f was lame and showed insecurity on your part - but the other posters clobbered you enough on that blunder.

 

[Slickster]

Forget what anyone says. You may have messed up on the fine details but you are doing fine.. She's interested and that's all that matters.

Don't ever talk about boyfriends, girlfriends or any of that shyt. Just take her out and have fun. Don't talk about any of the relationship stuff.

good luck

 

[Tkman]

Ok guys thanks for criticism I deserved it .....

 

[joekerr31]

actually I'm going to take a different slant from these guys...

first, everything they said is correct.... BUT...

despite you broadcasting your insecurity, she's still interested in hanging out with you. which means her interest level must be high. Because if it had been moderate she would have seen your actions and thought 'wow, talk about insecure.' and bailed on you.

as for the mentioning the LDR - that's her way of covering up her insecurity by letting you know "guys want me, but i'm still available.'

remember, for a chic to admit she is single is like a guy admitting he doesn't have a job. It might not make sense, but they can't stand saying 'im single'.

I know so many women who are single but who have a 'boyfriend'.

 

[Joe Stud]

tk man, update. did u screw it up?

 

[Tkman]

tk man, update. did u screw it up?

Yeah, she flaked on me on Saturday (I think about 2 weeks ago) .... it could be she's just an attention ***** and/or I just failed the **** test. Lesson learned ... moving on .....

 

[amoka]

Yeah, she flaked on me on Saturday (I think about 2 weeks ago) .... it could be she's just an attention ***** and/or I just failed the **** test. Lesson learned ... moving on .....

Definitely move on. If you ever encounter her again at the mall, never ask her "why didn't you show up?". Simply act as if her flaking had zero effect on you. If you see other chicks in her surrounding, go talk to them. Best of luck.

 

[Nutz]

When women give mixed signals, THAT is the message. If she's hot one day then cold the next, it means you were a good prospect when she was hot, but something else has her attention now when shes' cold. Women are fickle. Deal with it.