Mixed Signals From Younger Woman

[samson73103]

I recently met a much younger (23) woman who is hot, intelligent, and seems to know what she wants out of life. I asked her to accompany me to the lake one afternoon along with some friends. The afternoon went great, we had good conversation and she seemed to enjoy herself. When we left she mentioned something about "next time" so I'm thinking she is excited about seeing me again. When I took her home, I told her I wanted to see her again. She said "call me" and I pulled her towards me and we kissed. Well, I called her four or five days later and asked what she had planned for Saturday nite. She said she had something going on Saturday and wasn't sure how long she would be tied up. I suggested she call and let me know when she got free. Saturday came and went without her calling. In the short time we have been talking she has always returned my calls, called me back, etc. I am thinking of dissing her but she is just the total package. I am also thinking of waiting several days and calling her one more time. I need an objective opinion. Does it sound like she has lost interest or could there be a perfectly logical explanation. I have a couple of other women I am hanging out with so I am not desperate, which leads me to one other question: doesn't it seem like the pvssy situation is always feast or famine.....that you have no one at all then before you know it you have two or three?

 

[Ricky]

Yes I agree it is feast or famine.

I'd wait a few days to call. She should call you back but as we know women are bad at doing that.

Some people might say the fact that you mention you'd like to see her again may have killed the challenge and been AFC, but it is really hard to say since I didn't see the interchange between you.

In any event, I hate the fact that saying one thing or doing one little thing can blow it, but it seems with women that the little things kill. They add up and then in their pea brained little minds they replay the little events. They are the king of overanalyzers, but logic doesn't necessarily apply with them.

Definitely wait a few days.

I'm in a famine now so what do I know?

 

[samson73103]

I don't believe letting her know I wanted to see her again killed the challenge. I only have spoken to her every four or five days, kept the conversations brief and been the one to end the call. I have been dissed before by women who said I showed too little interest in them so I don't mind letting a woman know I enjoy her company but I try to limit my exposure so she will miss me a little.

 

[crowes22]

Let her see you with another girl if possible.

I agree, I wouldn't give up on her yet. Like you I have lost chicks b/c I wasn't persistent enough. It's like they test you on this shyt, I guess to guage your interest.

My problem is that when they do this shyt, I see it as game playing, flaky BS and I bail. I'm trying to improve on this, I am REALLY bad about doing this. Call her in a few days man.

Good luck.

--Crowes

 

[Ricky]

Good luck. I think you can win her back no problem.

You know what I want to revise the feast or famine deal.

The only and I mean only reason it is feast or famine is that once we have two or three girls in the picture we stop.

If we didn't stop and rest on our laurels it woudl be a total feast.

I am sure of it.

So lets DJ every fricking girl. I may even sit on some phone numbers for a while longer if I have too.

The most I have had calling me on one day is 3. But it was very powerful feeling, and it wasn't all that long ago either (December).

 

[Slickster]

When you do call her back have a plan of action.

For example an invite to the lake.

Don't ask if she is free or busy or what her plans are. Just give her an invite to join you for some fun. If she declines without an offer to reschedule for another time then her interest level is low.

Judge from there.

 

[drZaius09]

You should try dating women that are CLOSE to being NEAR even the PROXIMITY of your own age. We're talking about a huge gap here. Furthermore, this is sadly typical behavior for a girl of 23. I would think you'd have had your share of this bullsh1t when you were that age.

 

[NewMan]

When you do call her back have a plan of action.

Agreed.

Have a plan and TELL HER - don't ask her.

"Hey, Friday - Min Golf, me and you - I'll pick you up at 7".

Assume the deal.

 

[drZaius09]

As far as the "feast or famine" thing goes, that's easy to explain. When you are getting laid or are at least getting a lot of attention from a woman or women, you subconsciously project that in your persona, like how you carry yourself and interact with others. Obviously this relates to confidence. It creates an aura that women can read as if it were stamped on your forehead.

For instance: I had sex with a girl I just met Friday night. On Saturday night I was out with friends, and I got APPROACHED by a girl in a bar. Just so you know, I get approached about as often as Haley's comet collides with the moon, so the correlation between the prior night's activities and my sudden allure to the opposite sex is unmistakeable.

 

[iveyleeger]

Ditto on feast/famine. Just note that hot 23 y.o.'s are super flaky, they still pull from the college cesspool, so you will have to be a lot more persistent and have a lot more to offer to best some dumb-azz frat boy ho-hanger in a backwards baseball cap.

 

[samson73103]

As for the suggestion to date women closer to my own age......I would love to do just that but when you live in a rural area such as I do with nothing but small towns close by that is easier said than done. The overwhelming majority of women over thirty are either married or carry a tremendous amount of baggage whether it be in the form of multiple ex-husbands, a half dozen kids, intense psychotherapy, major drug/alcohol problem or all of the above rolled into one. Since I was divorced two yrs ago I have dated women ranging in age from 20-45 and I seem to keep coming back to the under 30 crowd because they don't seem to be so eager to just attach themselves with whomever comes along. While I would like to get married again someday, I won't do it just for the sake of being with someone; it will have to be a situation where I can't live without that person. And really, what man in his mid-thirties wouldn't go out with a hot babe in her early twenties when the opportunity arises?

 

[crowes22]

Samson, you are OK in my book. Settle for a stupid bytch b/c she is my age? NO way!

You know what you want, go get her. This site is full of alot of clown idiot puzzified boys these days, so take that into consideration when you read replies to your post.

Go out w/ this chick again, if she flakes, she's not into you, move on. Good luck.

--Crowes

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by crowes22


You know what you want, go get her.

--Crowes

nuff said

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by crowes22
You know what you want, go get her.

yeah, do that... wouldn't want to be a pu$$ified little boy... better to waste your time and make an a$$ of yourself chasing someone two decades your junior...

Samson asked if there could be a perfectly logical explanation... yes, there is. She prefers to spend time with men she wants to have sex with. If she wanted to have sex with Samson, Samson would have heard from her by now. Case closed.

I'm not trying to come down on anybody. But no matter how many times I peek at these boards to see what's been going on around here, it's flooded with guys going through the same old bullsh1t that we've all seen over and over and over and over again. This same situation, played out ad nauseum over a thousand different lifetimes, but yet nobody ever seems to learn, nor care to do anything more than blow smoke up each others a$$.

Samson also mentioned that he's got other things going on right now... that is most certainly the r0xx0r (meaning it's very, very good). Samson doesn't need this girl. Samson, and all the magnetic qualities he has to offer, should dedicate his valuable resources toward another more receptive target (or should I say "targets?") Yes, TARGETS!!!

 

[Aztec]

Originally posted by crowes22
Samson, you are OK in my book. Settle for a stupid bytch b/c she is my age? NO way!

You know what you want, go get her. This site is full of alot of clown idiot puzzified boys these days, so take that into consideration when you read replies to your post.

Go out w/ this chick again, if she flakes, she's not into you, move on. Good luck.

--Crowes

There's you answer. Pretty simple. Be seen with someone (opposite sex of course) maybe ranging from around your age down to early 20s, so at least she knows that youre not only at DOM who's on the prowl for younger types.