I haven' t posted here for a very long time, and I feel a little weird about doing it. But I had a discussion with my friend last night, and this topic seems worthy of a post, so I thought I'd go for it.
He met a girl who works in the cafeteria at his dorm, and she always goes out of her way to talk to him, even though she is on duty. He thinks she might really like him, but of course he's been a bit scared to go for it, because he's been burned by a few other girls in the not-so distant past.
He recently invited her to a concert that was taking place at the dorm. The concerts are weekly and are usually on Friday, but this one was switched to Saturday because of Halloween. He didn't know about this, and gave her the wrong day. Plus he got sick and couldn't make it himself.
When he saw her again, he told her what happened, and she said "Good thing I didn't go." (He suspects that maybe she did show up, and was upset when she found out nothing was going on). He invited her to an upcoming event, and she said "Is this going to be like the last time?" And when they finally set something up, she cancelled on him the day before. (Apparently it was because she had a ton of schoolwork. Valid excuse, but an excuse nonetheless.)
Now, I'm sure you guys can pick this apart and see the mistake he made, but that's not really what I am writing for. Basically he thinks he's blown it with this girl for good and is ready to throw in the towel. I think he might be giving up a little too early, and should at least continue to talk to her and see how she responds and if her demeanor around him has changed at all.
I'm aware that she probably isn't that interested, otherwise she wouldn't have cancelled, but what I don't know is if it is really because of the confusion (and it really is an honest mistake that anyone can make), or was she not interested from the beginning? Can one honest mistake really screw up a guy's chances for good? Beause if that's so, then we are all doomed, because no one can be perfect.
It's a tough situtation to decipher, because having not been there, I can only give a third person account. So there may have been some details that I missed that might explain it better. Still, the story doesn't make things look too promising, especially for those guys who haven't gotten their game together yet (such as myself).
He met a girl who works in the cafeteria at his dorm, and she always goes out of her way to talk to him, even though she is on duty. He thinks she might really like him, but of course he's been a bit scared to go for it, because he's been burned by a few other girls in the not-so distant past.
He recently invited her to a concert that was taking place at the dorm. The concerts are weekly and are usually on Friday, but this one was switched to Saturday because of Halloween. He didn't know about this, and gave her the wrong day. Plus he got sick and couldn't make it himself.
When he saw her again, he told her what happened, and she said "Good thing I didn't go." (He suspects that maybe she did show up, and was upset when she found out nothing was going on). He invited her to an upcoming event, and she said "Is this going to be like the last time?" And when they finally set something up, she cancelled on him the day before. (Apparently it was because she had a ton of schoolwork. Valid excuse, but an excuse nonetheless.)
Now, I'm sure you guys can pick this apart and see the mistake he made, but that's not really what I am writing for. Basically he thinks he's blown it with this girl for good and is ready to throw in the towel. I think he might be giving up a little too early, and should at least continue to talk to her and see how she responds and if her demeanor around him has changed at all.
I'm aware that she probably isn't that interested, otherwise she wouldn't have cancelled, but what I don't know is if it is really because of the confusion (and it really is an honest mistake that anyone can make), or was she not interested from the beginning? Can one honest mistake really screw up a guy's chances for good? Beause if that's so, then we are all doomed, because no one can be perfect.
It's a tough situtation to decipher, because having not been there, I can only give a third person account. So there may have been some details that I missed that might explain it better. Still, the story doesn't make things look too promising, especially for those guys who haven't gotten their game together yet (such as myself).