distraction
Don Juan
There’s a lounge/bar and grill I frequent in the small town where I live. It’s a small place, lots of regulars, not a lot of targets. It’s not a place I do a lot of closing because of the small town gossip factor and I don’t want to lose the one place I like to hang out, eat and drink because I have to avoid a flaky woman. I never take dates there. It’s my sanctuary.
Being that it’s a regulars’ type of place I see and talk to a bunch of people every time I’m there, usually about once or twice a week. There’s usually a pack of decent looking waitresses from a restaurant that’s close by that come in there after they get off work. They’re normally out to have some drinks, gossip, he said, she said crap like a bunch of hens with no lives. I’ve seen chumps come in there with weak game (mine’s not great, but at least I recognize) all the time just to get blown out of the water by these women. I see them there with random guys all the time. I think the word is attention wh*res.
I’ve made EC with them a few times, been friendly and said hello, have initiated a few conversations with them, but with no buying signals at all I’ve left it at that.
So I roll in there last Thursday and there’s no place to sit except right beside three of these waitresses. I go up and ask Kim (one of them) if there was anyone sitting beside her, and she’s like “no honey, go right ahead.” I sit down and make some small talk. I’ve seen this girl in there for about a year with regularity and she’s literally never turned her head in my direction, and if she did it was to blow me off. Now out of nowhere it’s like – game on. I start fluff talk and do some eliciting values, and she’s giving me the eyes. I’ll also mention she’s drunk. She’s ignoring her two other friends which is normally an out strategy from observing these girls before. She’s kino-ing me, I don’t return it because I’m a little taken aback by the sudden attention.
Her phone rings and she runs out of the place for 30 minutes to take the call.
She comes back and apologizes; her friends drill her on who called and she didn’t want to talk about it. I recognize her state has changed and I get her talking again and she drops that she just broke up with her boyfriend. He’s a guy I know and I talk to anytime I see him and she knows I know him. She tells me she’s having a bad day and she wants to do a shot, invites me to do one with her. I’m smelling this one coming a mile away by this point.
Kim: Are you going to buy my shot.
Distraction: Ooooh, I don’t know that’s against my rules, I don’t buy women drinks.
Kim: Why not (applies kino to my upper thigh)
Distraction: Aw, you know it’s contrived so I just don’t do it.
Kim: Oh, I know you’re an engineer and all and you have some reason so let’s deconstruct this. (applies more kino to my upper thigh).
Distraction: So you’re asking me to break my rules for you huh?
Kim: Yeah I think you should buy me a shot.
So I reluctantly cave and tell her to order them up and I’ll put them on my tab. I felt like I made my point, and was willing to compromise a little. We do the shot and she thanks me.
Another girl I know sits down beside me (a friend, but social proof) and I steer my attention to her for a while.
Not much meaningfull conversation with Kim after the shot. Kim’s friends are trying to get her to leave and she keeps ordering up more beers, and finally when they convince her to leave with them one of her friends had to cover her bar tab. I turn to her and say it was nice talking to her and I shake her hand and she leaves with her friends.
The whole night the bartender was looking at Kim and me with these eyes that I’ve seen her use before. It’s the same eyes I see the bartender have when her boyfriend comes in. Really wide with a sneaky grin.
I didn’t #close because I was irked that this girl thought I was AFC enough to drop to her feet with the slightest bit of attention. I probably missed a great opportunity to *close, because her friends/room-mates were going to drop her drunk a$$ off and go back out. I don’t like to close in this place for a lot of good reasons. After the shot she wasn't very conversational, probably because I basically rejected her.
I’m curious to know what kind of reaction I’ll get next time I see this girl. I think lately in the social circles I run that word is starting to get out that I’m the man. A great catch if you will. I suspect that she learned my basic story from the grapevine. That’s what I gather from reading the eyes of the bartender. Whether or not she had high IL or was just trying to use me I guess I’ll find out in a week or so.
Question time. Ever had a chick pull this on you, and you know you’re going encounter her in the future? What would you do to get to the bottom of her intentions? Close and proceed?
Being that it’s a regulars’ type of place I see and talk to a bunch of people every time I’m there, usually about once or twice a week. There’s usually a pack of decent looking waitresses from a restaurant that’s close by that come in there after they get off work. They’re normally out to have some drinks, gossip, he said, she said crap like a bunch of hens with no lives. I’ve seen chumps come in there with weak game (mine’s not great, but at least I recognize) all the time just to get blown out of the water by these women. I see them there with random guys all the time. I think the word is attention wh*res.
I’ve made EC with them a few times, been friendly and said hello, have initiated a few conversations with them, but with no buying signals at all I’ve left it at that.
So I roll in there last Thursday and there’s no place to sit except right beside three of these waitresses. I go up and ask Kim (one of them) if there was anyone sitting beside her, and she’s like “no honey, go right ahead.” I sit down and make some small talk. I’ve seen this girl in there for about a year with regularity and she’s literally never turned her head in my direction, and if she did it was to blow me off. Now out of nowhere it’s like – game on. I start fluff talk and do some eliciting values, and she’s giving me the eyes. I’ll also mention she’s drunk. She’s ignoring her two other friends which is normally an out strategy from observing these girls before. She’s kino-ing me, I don’t return it because I’m a little taken aback by the sudden attention.
Her phone rings and she runs out of the place for 30 minutes to take the call.
She comes back and apologizes; her friends drill her on who called and she didn’t want to talk about it. I recognize her state has changed and I get her talking again and she drops that she just broke up with her boyfriend. He’s a guy I know and I talk to anytime I see him and she knows I know him. She tells me she’s having a bad day and she wants to do a shot, invites me to do one with her. I’m smelling this one coming a mile away by this point.
Kim: Are you going to buy my shot.
Distraction: Ooooh, I don’t know that’s against my rules, I don’t buy women drinks.
Kim: Why not (applies kino to my upper thigh)
Distraction: Aw, you know it’s contrived so I just don’t do it.
Kim: Oh, I know you’re an engineer and all and you have some reason so let’s deconstruct this. (applies more kino to my upper thigh).
Distraction: So you’re asking me to break my rules for you huh?
Kim: Yeah I think you should buy me a shot.
So I reluctantly cave and tell her to order them up and I’ll put them on my tab. I felt like I made my point, and was willing to compromise a little. We do the shot and she thanks me.
Another girl I know sits down beside me (a friend, but social proof) and I steer my attention to her for a while.
Not much meaningfull conversation with Kim after the shot. Kim’s friends are trying to get her to leave and she keeps ordering up more beers, and finally when they convince her to leave with them one of her friends had to cover her bar tab. I turn to her and say it was nice talking to her and I shake her hand and she leaves with her friends.
The whole night the bartender was looking at Kim and me with these eyes that I’ve seen her use before. It’s the same eyes I see the bartender have when her boyfriend comes in. Really wide with a sneaky grin.
I didn’t #close because I was irked that this girl thought I was AFC enough to drop to her feet with the slightest bit of attention. I probably missed a great opportunity to *close, because her friends/room-mates were going to drop her drunk a$$ off and go back out. I don’t like to close in this place for a lot of good reasons. After the shot she wasn't very conversational, probably because I basically rejected her.
I’m curious to know what kind of reaction I’ll get next time I see this girl. I think lately in the social circles I run that word is starting to get out that I’m the man. A great catch if you will. I suspect that she learned my basic story from the grapevine. That’s what I gather from reading the eyes of the bartender. Whether or not she had high IL or was just trying to use me I guess I’ll find out in a week or so.
Question time. Ever had a chick pull this on you, and you know you’re going encounter her in the future? What would you do to get to the bottom of her intentions? Close and proceed?
