Mirroring

Awkward

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I know that now all people have started to do mirroring yet, I just wanted you to avoid a real bad misstake I used to make.

You see, I didn't get any results for a couple of weeks ago, the chicks seemed to draw away when I did this mirroring, I was thinking, "Whata****! It doesn't work.". Then when I tried it with my mom, I asked her if she noticed any difference with me.

"Yeeh," she said. "It feels like you are watching me all the time, have your gaze fixed on me, it feels uneasy."

So when you mirror, NEVER EVER stare at the person, you should expand your view and learn to watch something without fixing your eyes to it.

It's ok to look, but look away from time to time, and if you look at the person, always look in the eye!

I think this is a very common misstake that people make in the begining, and there is no warnings about it.

that's my two cents

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Originally posted by Awkward:
"Yeeh," she said. "It feels like you are watching me all the time, have your gaze fixed on me, it feels uneasy."
Staring is just one symptom of a bigger problem: perhaps you're not being subtle enough. Of all the techniques I've used since I've come here, mirroring is the most effective. I have noticed it from other women and seen other women's behavior change drastically when I do it to them. The trick is don't act like you are staring them down or analyzing them. It's most effective when the two of you are in a restaurant together across the table, or some other similar circumstance.
 

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I dont get it, I though maintaining eye contact is a good thing.
 

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I was very observant of every move people made so now I understand why they pulled away.


Mattb

Hell yeah it is good and you should not have too much eye-contact.

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Hey Awkard, have you ever mirrored someone's breathing?

Everywhere says it's very powerful, but I found it very hard to breath someone's breathing...
 

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I do almost NO conscious mirroring. At most, I will mirror basic body positioning and that's it. There are times however in deep rapport situations I find myself doing it without even thinking.

And Brazillian, the problem with mirroring breathing consciously is that you will often end up staring at the girl's chest if you try to do that.

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I have never tried that, it is too hard to notice so you have tto stare, and the conversation may suffer. Mirroring, arms/legs, posture, common words, voice height/rate and face expressions is more than enough.
 

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Awkward do u have a e-mail?
jeg sliter mye med å sjekke opp damer.......Kanskje du kan hjelpe meg?
 

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B-boy bara för dig min skandinaviske vän:

blazing_guitar@hotmail.com

Har du MSN så vore det kul om du kunde ge mig addressen till dig. Min funkar inte och adda. Annars har jag ICQ: 175476747

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I just do basic body mirroring, like the basic position.

Then with breathing I just breathe in when she does, usually i do this breathign mirroring BEFORE approaching.

that way i feel more connected to her, and is not so weird, cuz shes not talking to you, so her breathe is more regualr.
 
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