Mirroring Her Text Reply Time?

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Typically how quickly do you guys respond back to a girl when texting.

I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..
 

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Yes. Miror her response time with +-50% and sometimes just "forget" to reply until the next day.
 

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The default for me is to reply in about an hour. Other than that, sometimes I mirror her plus add in some time, and sometimes I don’t reply at all.

I don’t like texting. It’s a girl thing. I have **** to do in my life, so I text at a minimum other than to meet up.
 

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Yes. Miror her response time with +-50% and sometimes just "forget" to reply until the next day.

Yeh I mean... If a chick takes 1 hour to reply and you reply back in 10 minutes, makes you look a pathetic loser sat by the phone with nothing better to do haha
 

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The default for me is to reply in about an hour. Other than that, sometimes I mirror her plus add in some time, and sometimes I don’t reply at all.

I don’t like texting. It’s a girl thing. I have **** to do in my life, so I text at a minimum other than to meet up.
Totally agree with this... Texting is also something chicks manipulate and use against you... It's best not to even play the game.

Girl i am seeing always sends a good morning and goodnight text.. I simply refuse to do it... She can do that all she wants, I refuse to go down that road
 

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Totally agree with this... Texting is also something chicks manipulate and use against you... It's best not to even play the game.

Girl i am seeing always sends a good morning and goodnight text.. I simply refuse to do it... She can do that all she wants, I refuse to go down that road
I dont mind one good morning text and one How was your day text as long as she always puts out. I see it as rewarding good behavior.
 

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the texting game nonsense shouldn't really go on after you have smashed her or after 2-3 dates

If it's still going on past the 1 month stage you have a big problem
How are you defining the texting game?
 
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From my experience l, If you have to question it, then forget about it lol. If this is even an issue, then that means you are sitting in the loser seat.
 
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Mirroring her reply time makes it obvious that you play games, they are pro texters, they know, all they do is analyzing our text messages.
My response time varies, sometime I reply within 5 minutes, sometimes with 1 hour, sometimes with 5 hours, but I almost always reply.
 
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Mirroring her reply time is makes it obvious that you play game, they are pro texters, they know, all they do is analyzing our text messages.
My response time varies, sometime I reply within 5 minutes, sometimes with 1 hour, sometimes with 5 hours, but I almost always reply.
I guess you are mirroring but not making it abvious that you are mirroring.

For example she takes 30 minutes to reply.. you reply back within 15 minutes.. However the next time she takes 15 minutes to reply, you take an hour to reply.

That kinda makes sense.. If you immediately mirror her, she will figure out that you doing good exactly what she is doing... IE playing a game.

Best to keep It random
 

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I guess you are mirroring but not making it abvious that you are mirroring.

For example she takes 30 minutes to reply.. you reply back within 15 minutes.. However the next time she takes 15 minutes to reply, you take an hour to reply.

That kinda makes sense.. If you immediately mirror her, she will figure out that you doing good exactly what she is doing... IE playing a game.

Best to keep It random
Exactly
 

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I dont do any of this, it's a further hassle I can do without.

I write and wait for her to reply, once I read it I reply if I have to and she better reciprocate if the convo is in real time.

If I'm left on read with no reply, I surely dont double text and unless she writes the convo is dead to me.

This is not about negotiation or diplomacy, I decide if a relantionship is worth to be pursued or not and when things are annoying or unecessarily complicate its not.
 

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I dont do any of this, it's a further hassle I can do without.

I write and wait for her to reply, once I read it I reply if I have to and she better reciprocate if the convo is in real time.

If I'm left on read with no reply, I surely dont double text and unless she writes the convo is dead to me.

This is not about negotiation or diplomacy, I decide if a relantionship is worth to be pursued or not and when things are annoying or unecessarily complicate its not.
We are not talking about chicks ignoring your text or leaving on read.

I'm talking about the time frame she replies back In
 

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There is no exact formula. Ideally, you are busy with your life and purpose so you respond whenever you get the chance. That roughly translates to a few hours later. Even a day later.

The opposite of that is having no life or purpose and replying right away every time. And she will run for the hills and assume you have nothing better to do.

Having said that, mirroring the text response time means as a general rule you want to reply at the same intervals that she replies to you. Which will make it seem like an equal interest level. However, it would quite sad if you just sit there and wait for the time to go by to reply.

Last but not least, you don't want to overthink the reply. As a rule of thumb, if you don't know what to reply, don't reply.
 

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There is no exact formula. Ideally, you are busy with your life and purpose so you respond whenever you get the chance. That roughly translates to a few hours later. Even a day later.

The opposite of that is having no life or purpose and replying right away every time. And she will run for the hills and assume you have nothing better to do.

Having said that, mirroring the text response time means as a general rule you want to reply at the same intervals that she replies to you. Which will make it seem like an equal interest level. However, it would quite sad if you just sit there and wait for the time to go by to reply.

Last but not least, you don't want to overthink the reply. As a rule of thumb, if you don't know what to reply, don't reply.
I understand that my friend... However most people are not THAT busy... I mean typically my day starts at 6am, first thing I do, is go the gym. Then I begin my job, and most times by the end of my working day, I am exhausted.

By 7pm it's finally time to relax and maybe watch a podcast, that's if I am not going to see a friend.

If a chick begins texting me 7pm onwards, I am usually not that busy... So that point onwards, I would literally have to mirror her reply timeframe, even though I am simply sat on the sofa chilling haha
 

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I understand that my friend... However most people are not THAT busy... I mean typically my day starts at 6am, first thing I do, is go the gym. Then I begin my job, and most times by the end of my working day, I am exhausted.

By 7pm it's finally time to relax and maybe watch a podcast, that's if I am not going to see a friend.

If a chick begins texting me 7pm onwards, I am usually not that busy... So that point onwards, I would literally have to mirror her reply timeframe, even though I am simply sat on the sofa chilling haha
Totally. Don't get me wrong. If I'm texting a girl when I'm free and we engage in a cool exchange then I respond right away and she does as well. So yes, you are mirroring each other's "interest".

I meant generally speaking.
 

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We are not talking about chicks ignoring your text or leaving on read.

I'm talking about the time frame she replies back In
I understood, my point is that if you find yourself thinking and planning for the correct timing, its too much of a hassle.

I skip the "games" openly and directly and when I do they usually follow the same line.

A girl that thinks that Im a loser just cause I answer fast (when I can), its definitely a girl that wouldnt allow me to rest mentally or physically and I surely dont need any of that in my life.
 

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I understood, my point is that if you find yourself thinking and planning for the correct timing, its too much of a hassle.

I skip the "games" openly and directly and when I do they usually follow the same line.

A girl that thinks that Im a loser just cause I answer fast (when I can), its definitely a girl that wouldnt allow me to rest mentally or physically and I surely dont need any of that in my life.
Some girls are just busy... Imagine she takes 30 minutes to reply and you 5 minutes every single time.

People are busy at times
 
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