might be ruining my relationship, need help

[Neckbreacker]

i'm pissed. all these guys are tryin to get my girl, probably because she's really really hot! just a few weeks ago some guy tried to talk **** about me to my girl behind me. she wasn't having any of it. she really cares about me and i care about her too.

the problem is all these guys r after her. even some of my own friends. and while i'm not in the best of moods right now, i'm taking it differently. normaly i would laugh it off because me and my girl r too tight for that mess. were friends and lovers. i don't care about random guys though, it's more about my friends.

i think on of my friends is trying to go behind my back and talk to my girl. she recently told me about a club outing that she was invited too, but he didnt even consider me. that pissed me off, and now she doesnt wanna go anymore. now she's sad

i want her to go, even if she goes alone, but she said she wanted me to go with her and hangout with her. i told her y i ws mad (probably a bad move) and now she thinks i want her to go so she can talk to other guys and so i can moniter her.

i dont care if she goes out, but at the same time i dont appreciate my friends talking to her behind my back. i'm trying to not come off as hyper possessive, because really, i could care less if other guys talk to her. i know they can't get her. and if they do then that means we weren't good enough together anyway.

but i think i might be coming off as more possessive than before. i dont want her to think that i dont trust her. which now she does.

how do i make this better?

 

[Obsidian]

And she thinks you're possessive...because you told her to go hang out with other guys without you?

oh, I see. She's a loon.

 

[KontrollerX]

Jesus Christ.

Its like everyone that comes to this site has sh!tty friends.

Ditch those bastards and make some real friends if you can find any.

Real friends have respect, love and loyalty for you.

These morons you are hanging with now do not respect you.

So after you get some new and good friends do something special for your girl and this issue with her and trust should be smoothed over.

 

[JLR]

Dude, in my experience, the quickest way to lose a quality chick is to display jealously/distrust. Just TAKE CARE OF BUSINESS (fun, great sex, etc.) & you have nothing to worry about. Now, if she's an attention hor (or just a plain ol' hor), then you'll have issues, but then at least you'll then know she isn't quality & you can dump her. Think of these guys as providing her w/ a shyt test on your behalf. Whatever you do, do NOT for a second let it get to you in a serious way. If you do that, you are overvaluing her, and undervaluing yourself.