Met a GREAT girl, but, has a smelly house!!

[torqueboxer]

LOL I know, so weird but, this girl is awsome. I'll give some background on her and I.

About 3-4 years ago I had a LTR with a girl for 4 years(1997-2001). This new girl was her friend and over the course of me being in the LTR I hung out with her many times. Secretly we liked each other, but, were both in LTR's.

Fast forward to to last month, I was at the store paying a bill, and so was she. Its a long story of coincidences that brought us to be there at the same time, to see each other after almost 4-5 years of not seeing each other. Well of course i got her ## and we got together. And had a great time, totally relaxed, yet amazed we found each other again.

Here is the problem. She is living in her moms house by herself and her mother didnt really take care of it. She has two dogs and the house has the smell of dog and cigerette smoke. I really like this chick, but, her house is bothering me. Her room is clean and smells good( where we spend our time) but the rest of the house is %^&*ed up.

How should I go about telling her that the house is bothering me, without hurting her feelings? I started so far by teasing her that it was like going to a frat house!! LOL. I dont think she realizes its bothering me. And I dont want to hurt her feelings. I dont think that she likes having her house like that, she just might not know how to fix it. What would the sensitive way of getting the house fixed up?

So weird I know....but it is turning into a big problem for me.
Any help is MOST welcome.

 

[ghostin]

Well you cant keep joking about it and she will take a hint. I would just hire one of those cleaning services. Shouldnt be that expensive.

 

[TxCowboy]

You just gotta grin and bear it. If you say any thing, she'll prolly get T'ed. Maybe go to your place more OR you could always tell her strait up "Dont be expecting a phone call from me until you get your sh*t straitened up"

 

[Skel]

what do you expect her to do about the house since its her mothers and not hers?

 

[Julian]

no need to make a big deal, im the type of person where when i walk into a place like that id make a comment right away like "damn girl it smells like a family of dogs lives in here". then when entering her room id be like "well it smells nice in here".

Do that next time or something hah

 

[torqueboxer]

I rteally didnt explain that the house is hers now. She was basically given the house to live in. Her mom lives on the other side of town with her BF. Im going to grin and bear it for now and drop some hints about me being Obsessive/ Compulsive( which I am slightly). Whats funny is that she keeps her car, dogs,clothes spotless. I think that she may not know how to fix the problems that the house has left over from her mom. Im going to go with the flow for now and see what happens with some gentle teasing and prodding. I know a bunch of girls that are totally sloppy and keep their rooms/ apts a total mess. Maybe because they were used to having "mom" clean up after them when their stuff got too messy, and when out on their own they arent used to cleaning up after themselves.

Keep the ideas coming thanks guys.

 

[HeartlessBtch]

It's funny reading this post. It's usually all the way around, we (girls) are used to being the one complaining about men leaving dity dishes, clothes etc everywhere tothe point where their places stink, and now the tables turn. Since shes not messy and her room smells clean maybe the carpet (if she as one) has absorbed the precious smells and its nothing that a good carpet cleaning wont solve. ofer her some help say something like "hey you know how I've been teasing you all this time about that funny smell maybe we can spend this weekend cleaning the carpet". I strongly recommend febreeze and those fruity smelling powders for carpets... maybe even some plug ins!

 

[HeartlessBtch]

It's funny reading this post. It's usually all the way around, we (girls) are used to being the one complaining about men leaving dity dishes, clothes etc everywhere tothe point where their places stink, and now the tables turn. Since shes not messy and her room smells clean maybe the carpet (if she as one) has absorbed the precious smells and its nothing that a good carpet cleaning wont solve. Offer her some help say something like "hey you know how I've been teasing you all this time about that funny smell maybe we can spend this weekend cleaning the carpet". I strongly recommend febreeze and those fruity smelling powders for carpets... maybe even some plug ins!

 

[TxCowboy]

Originally posted by HeartlessBtch
It's funny reading this post. It's usually all the way around, we (girls) are used to being the one complaining about men leaving dity dishes, clothes etc everywhere tothe point where their places stink, and now the tables turn. Since shes not messy and her room smells clean maybe the carpet (if she as one) has absorbed the precious smells and its nothing that a good carpet cleaning wont solve. Offer her some help say something like "hey you know how I've been teasing you all this time about that funny smell maybe we can spend this weekend cleaning the carpet". I strongly recommend febreeze and those fruity smelling powders for carpets... maybe even some plug ins!

A real man would not need to do this ! Y dont he put on a pink tank top while he's at it ....

He's not a maid and its not his problem .... either she should do it out of respect for guests or else he should just leave it alone

 

[HeartlessBtch]

Originally posted by TxCowboy
A real man would not need to do this ! Y dont he put on a pink tank top while he's at it ....

He's not a maid and its not his problem .... either she should do it out of respect for guests or else he should just leave it alone

OOOHHHH please you sound like the typical egocentrical male. Obviously he is more than just a guest and if he's the one bothered about it and not her he should help her out...Plus he already said he has some sort of OCD when it comes to cleaning so I'm pretty sure he won't mind the handy work..:trouble:

 

[torqueboxer]

Yea im just realizing that I will probably spending alot of time over there and it is in my best interest to make my self more comfortable(right now I cant relax, im thinking about cleaning). Im sure im capable of getting the place up to my standards. LOL. Yes it does have carpet( probably the cause of the problem). Im going to wait it out for a little while and get her used to my neat-freakness(maybe offer to make dinner, then after, start cleaning the kitchen)LOL. When it comes down to it I could probably get my friend to bring down his cleaning truck for a few bucks and hook the carpet up. I was basically trying to figure out the best way to let her know about my issue without ruining our relationship.

LOL. This site helped me get the girl , now, I have to figure out how not to offend her!!! LOL

 

[NewMan]

Silly.

Ok - here is the #1 thing you must remember while starting an LTR.

Rule #1.

Start as you mean to carry on.


This means - if you clean the house up for her, she will expect - and rely on you and your neat freakish ways to continue to carry the heavy lifting on this THROUGHOUT your relationship.


That means - you don't clean up her house.

RULE #2.

If something bothers you - you voice it. The longer you wait the more difficult it is to talk about it. You don't have to be an a## about it. Next time she asks you over - you say:

"I'd like to see you - but what about you coming over my place? It's just I'm very sensitive to dust and hair etc. and I find that it get's worse when I'm at your place"

 

[toasttopper1879]

I married a girl who:lets say was bloody poor in the housework department.It was ok for a bit but eventually drove me potty.
If yer not keen on her habits then yer got to move on now.

 

[ARK]

This sounds like an episode from Seinfeld. :crackup:

How can I go into a house that smells? What do you do.. take a can of lysol and spray every inch? I can't do that she will think I'm crazy!!

 

[penkitten]

ok this is how you do it

you say "hey i got this old buddy of mine who is into cleaning carpets these days and says he can cut me a great deal, want me to set yours up to be cleaned too?"

if she hesitates then you ask her when the last time hers had it done and how they can take pet odors out and smoke out, something called deodorising and its all the rave at apartment complexes these days.

this will take all that smell outta the padding



then once that is done, you go over , watch a movie with her, ask her to light up some candles.
the same time you are making out with her, the candles are making the whole house shine.


with clean carpets and nice smell like that , you tell her you gotta run home, you got a ton of stuff to do and your place is a mess and you gotta clean it up , this is your only day to do it.

if she offers to help, tell her nah, you work on yours and ill work on mine.

anyhow, this is the biggest boost a gal could ever get to wanna clean her house. if it doesnt work, i dont think nothing will .

if it doesnt end up getting clean

 

[Stud]

haha what if she lived in a box. then she'd have a smelly box.

 

[undesputable]

why the hell is it bothering you? its her moms house, i mean yea if this was a truly great girl shed clean up the whole house, but at least she has he room cleaned. I mean what the hell...are you planning to move in?

i went to this girls house the other day, it was the same way except she only lives with her dad...anyways everything was pretty ****ing dirty. she has this old ass smelly dog that gets on the couches and everything.... went in, she went to her room to get something, she came out and i was like "hey im kinda hungry lets go get something to eat", left and that was the end of that

 

[squirrels]

Go to your place instead.

And hope to God she doesn't end up a slob like her mother.

 

[Trojan]

does her puzzy stink?

 

[diplomatic_lies]

1) Feed her dog whatever makes a dog sh!t a lot
2) Lock her dogs into the house
3) Her dogs will **** all over the plae, thus forcing her to clean the house up

Ta da!