Met a girl (she works there) at whole foods.....need advice on the close

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"she is all surface
lacking any depth
an unfathomable abyss"


Alright so, wow.
I haven't felt this way in...years tbh. Not just simply because of the direct amount of interest I have for her, but how good I feel about myself and look right now. I have been turning heads from hb9s all day long. Several have approached me and in fact that's what sparked my interest in this girl. Well it wasn't exactly that, what happened was I met her at the customer service desk to figure out something about a gift card. I had returned several times since then to buy more stuff, and we had eye-flirted a little bit, she gives me this super cheesy smile: but I'm feeling the vibe. Like I can feel the tension all of this is giving off, and I can feel her trying to get closer/open up my smile. Yesterday I wasn't even thinking about her I was just going about my business buying some food and at the end of the checkout I notice she's standing there ready to bag my stuff (all I had was a yerba mate bottle). I engage her and tell her she looks like someone that I know, an older woman (this is true), which I said was a good thing. She blushed and giggled a bit, said some other things I can't quite remember what. This was an extremely positive interaction and I'm an idiot for not asking for her number then. After that interaction I started to think about her outside of shopping. Then I realized, wait a minute, the chances that she is now also thinking about me are high. IDK there is just something I can feel about this....the tension? I hate to be so sure of something and I feel as though that can definitely spoil things especially when you're just meeting a girl. I also don't want to be too adamant about it. But (and this was possibly a mistake, even a major error) today I went back and this time I actually had the intention to ask for her number, or something along those lines, I had nothing rehearsed though and I wasn't gonna seek her out, just see what happens.

I also had the choice to go run another errand real quick or head to the whole foods. I flipped the radio on and the song "drew Barrymore - Bryce vine" came on and idk something just told me to go there first, I was pumped up. I have the song bumping and the windows rolled down and as I pull up, guess who's outside picking up carts today? also guess what shes wearing: her makeup. she wasn't any of the other days, shes the type of girl that doesn't need it, but I noticed it when I pulled up. We glanced at eachother but surprisingly it didn't invoke any reaction other than a slight blush in her and she continued her business. Every other time we saw eachother prior to this she had done something whether that be smile, twirl her hair, something, you know? Perhaps it was because she was busy thinking about the shopping carts? Either way I go in and grab my items, head to the checkout and I was hoping she was at the customer service desk (since she was outside when I pulled up), she was, BUT there was an aisle open directly in front of her and she was helping a customer (face palm, how weird would it have been if I had stood in her line when there was a free lane open? am I overthinking this?). I finished purchasing my items, and left passing by her counter, she was counting money, I only sideglanced at her and then when I was directly in front of her I did a full glance, she was still counting the money but there was a visible blush now similar to when I saw her outside. I was going to ask her something dumb just to spark a convo like where's the bathroom or whatever but as opposed to all of the other vibes I had been getting from her, I decided maybe it's best to leave (she wasn't going out of her way to look at me this time) save I cross a line or something. I've interacted with her speaking wise I think only 3 times. I typically don't see her and don't go out of my way to look. In fact most of the time ( actually every time, except today) I haven't been going there because I'm trying to see her.

Things to note: #1. On one night I went there in which I did not see her (this was before I was really crushing on her in the first place) on my way to my car, one of the other (attractive) female employees pulled up to me and said: "hey I think youre alright." I was a little confused tbh. "what do you mean?" I ask her. "oh some of the employees were talking about you, they said you might be sketchy or something. but I think youre alright *giggle*." this was a negative sign to me, and I was puzzled. Then I remembered what this must be about: the gift card. I had to purchase it using a virtual card on my app and it didn't work several times, I had to do a security code via email and it took quite a long time (this was the initial visit). The manager had to come and I could tell they were trying to see if I was committing fraud (hella annoying fyi). However, if this isn't what its about I honestly have no idea. #2 My car is total **** and this last day she was able to see my car (and music blaring), I would say the music wouldn't have been so bad: but my car has a massive dent in the front from a wreck I was in months ago, its somewhat embarrassing tbh. Maybe she saw my car and was like this is a mf dealbreaker v_v? That would be so unfortunate because I am in the process of buying a new car anyway :'(.

Not sure where to go from here, gonna avoid the store I think for the next few days and perhaps do my shopping somewhere else for a while as from here going forward I'm very unsure how to interpret these signs and I don't want to come off creepy at all, in the event that she is curious about me. I wouldn't have even thought of pursuing had she not approached the baggage aisle with a blushy smile in the first place. So what's your take guys? Ditch it? Pursue?
 
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bumping this with something I hope will get more views but idk could be my approach (xD tongue in cheek). I failed to mention that I'm a long time lurker but have only ever posted before with accounts that I lost due to further loss of email pword/what have you. I actually want to start developing my profile here in actuality. I'm not much of a game player, but I do love the mentality of self-improvement which I think is the cornerstone of the DJ "realm" if you will
 
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meditated on this and realized: there's only one way to go about this. I go in tomorrow and ask her out for coffee and then still my mind, and continue working on what I will (beyond the instinct toward women). thread over
 
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