Mentored co-worker past couple years...

[Phxxx]

My first post at SS but wanted to share and NO where else to turn.

Short back story I pretty much learned from a young age to be a natural.

But about 10 yrs ago I got into a relationship with a woman 6 yrs older then me...relationship lasted 5yrs 10 mo until I called it quits 2 mos until our wedding day.

Sense this wasnt the most healthy relationship my self-esteem took quite the beating as I also become quite the alcoholic, and have been trying to work on my self-improvement ever sense.


Anyways to what my post is about...

my co-worker was almost to the point where his depression was getting the best of him. And we have been working side by side I wanted to do the bro thing and help him along.

I know you're like "who are you to give advice"
but like I said I was a natural...and sense the break-up I have visited many forums from here to rsd and to many others in the manosphere.

Well yesterday he just started talking to the roomate of a girl I have been seeing for the past few months (not exclusively, which I probably wont let women know directly anymore).

Then tonight my phone gets blown up by all these messages...starting out kinda vage that it could have been anyone...

but now to the point where I know this little fvcker has thrown me under the bus White Knighting!!! After all I have taught him and now this shlt!

Don't really know where to go sense he was one of 2 guys I "thought" I could turn to...
decided "well no better time then now to join".

Cant explain how piszed I am.. after how far he has came going from 1 lay long time ago,
to 6-8 in amatter of a few months,
to stabbing me in the back for a chick he fvckin just kissed ONCE yesterday!!!


Seriously...whatever happened to bro's before ho's

could have fvcked this kid over more times then I can count but ALWAYS had his back!


Didn't want a rant for my first post...just how it turned out

 

[sylvester the cat]

there is a reason why the 'elite' don't tell the profane their secrets...

the ignorant mob cannot be trusted with such power.

see my earlier thread questioning the wisdom of passing on to others our wisdom:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=210525

 

[Uncharted]

Who cares what he said? Don't let it bother you. If your woman says something, just agree and amplify when she complains in a teasing manner.

Don't change how you're acting and don't react to it.

 

[Don_Dom]

Good on you for trying to help a friend. But there's that old saying...No good deed goes unpunished.

This kind of thing has come up a few times over the last couple months. I've come to the conclusion that unless you know somebody from here or someplace like it the best thing is to not talk to anyone about it.

It's pretty much a given that pretty much all women think male game is BS...anywhere from bogus nonexistence to complete a$$holery including all manner of lying, deception, trickery...you name it. Whatever they think, obviously you don't want to talk about game with women. They have virtually nothing to contribute beyond fashion advice anyway. Pretty obvious.

But one would think other guys would be different. After I first read The Game I suggested a friend of mine read it. This guy is pretty funny and that can go a long way, but that's all he's ever had. No game beyond that and I watched him tank with women constantly over the years. He laughed at the entire concept of the book and wouldn't even consider reading it. Brought it up with a couple of other guys after and the reactions were always somewhere from thinking I was crazy to pathetic. Yet on they go never getting laid unless they wind up with a girlfriend who treats them like $hit. It's ridiculous.

Factor in the white knight element and it's just bad juju alltogether. WKs genuinely think if they kiss ass and tell women what they want to hear it will score them enough points to get them laid. The worst of them have no honor and will shoot other guys in the back, their own friends even, because those are the only options they have. Ponder the irony of that...We are pathetic a$$holes for improving ourselves as men and working on developing genuine game of our own, and these manginas are the "good guys" because they pedistalize women and stab other guys in the back.

I'm convinced its a combination of pride and jealously. Which, ironicly, is usually where you run into problems with women. Manginas indeed. No matter how much they suck with women and don't get laid, their egos just won't allow them to admit to themselves that "being themselves" isn't cutting it. Then, when they see others have success with actual game, they have to put that down. They think they are above developing game but really they are just jealous little b1tchboys who know deep down that their only hopes for consistent sex is, hopefully, marrying some chick who treats him like $hit. And they will act all superior when they do that, too. It's pathetic, IMO.

Then factor in that people, in general, are a$$holes. Human beings have this strange propensity towards being fundementally good and simultaneously not wanting anyone else to do better than them in life. When it comes to self improvement and doing well with women most people, male and female, are rooting for you to fail. Afterall, if you do well that might burst their little bubble of safety and bring them to the uncomfortable realization that what they've always done could have been a lot better had they gotten out of their own way. Pride goeth before the fall.

So, adding all of that up, considering the vast majority of men are some degree of mangina in today's society anyway, you are better off just keeping it to yourself. I would love to getca couple of my friends on board...they could use it and it would be cool to have a wingman or two...but it's just not worth the effort or the potential risk, imo.

Work on yourself and your own game. If someone actually asks you for help when they see you doing well, see what you can do then. Otherwise, keep it to yourself and soldier on. Discuss what you need to here. It's their loss for being such weenies that can't be trusted.