meeting the parents of my younger girlfriend

[tikiboomboom]

I am meeting the parents of my 20 yr. old girlfriend over thanxgiving. My girlfriend doesn't really know how old i am because the few times she has asked i answered with a ****y/funny response. although i don't look my age (32), i suspect her parents will ask me how old i am. Are there any suggestions on how to respond (ie. ****y funny, truth, white lie ???

 

[VSIDEBOY]

Depends which one asks you mate, I wouldn't suggest lying to her dad, but her mum might appreciate a ****y/funny answer.

Also depends how serious you are about her:

More Serious = Less ****y
Less Serious = More ****y
Not really serious at all = Say whatever you want

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Why are you even meeting her parents? Are you going to ask her Dad for permission to marry her? She's 20, if her parents are in their 40-50s they wont need to ask you a thing.

 

[Rec_rejection_phobic]

Originally posted by Rollo Tomassi
Why are you even meeting her parents? Are you going to ask her Dad for permission to marry her? She's 20, if her parents are in their 40-50s they wont need to ask you a thing.

ahh give me a break. What's he gona say; "shut up old man, you can't ask me that". You got to be nice to the family, and respect her family..... i know it's a little different there in US, and kids are kicked out of the house at 16,

just ask them to guess, and then change the subject on them....(haw old they are, and then change it some more, ie when did they get merried, do they still have parents alive......)

 

[NewMan]

ahh give me a break. What's he gona say; "shut up old man, you can't ask me that". You got to be nice to the family, and respect her family..... i know it's a little different there in US, and kids are kicked out of the house at 16

No - Rollo's point is, why bother to go meet her family anyway.

She's 20 - and you know this is probably not going to last.... she's got a lot of growing up to do.

just ask them to guess, and then change the subject on them....(haw old they are, and then change it some more, ie when did they get merried, do they still have parents alive......)

Doing something like this only show's that he is insecure about his age (and the fact that she is 12 yrs younget than him). Fvck that. Just tell them straight up. what are THEY going to say?

 

[ER!C L!VE]

They'll probably ask you your age. Tell them 32 and change the subject quickly. No ****y/funny needed. Be humble, cool and complimentary to them as well.

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

NEWMAN: Exactly. I bet she's real fun at bars. If you're 32 and the girl who's parents you're meeting is 20, you're probably not flush with other options for women. This is a shame, since at 32 he probably doesn't realize he's got more potential to hook up with not only quantity, but quality too.

 

[bud1971]

Tell them you are 40 and that if her dad had been more involved in her life, and actually had a pair, she wouldn't have a "daddy complex"

Seriously though...just tell the truth and let the chips fall where they may. If you are serious and stick around, they will eventually get over it.

 

[bud1971]

Oh yeah, congratulations on the 20yo, that is so cool....I don't care what all of these posters say, go out with all of the 18-20 year olds you can. As if the thirty year olds are more mature these days? Please. The most immature women I have run into have been over the age of 25....it may have something to do with all of the baggage they seem to accumulate. Plus, the younger ones are less likely to have hail damage on their ass.

 

[TheTrimReaper]

When my ex was 21, she was so much nicer to hang out with. She was calmer, more honest, and easier to talk to.

This past May, when she was 24(she'll be 25 next month) she came back from a trip to Italy with her friend, a girl who acted immature at 23. Well, she was acting like a 16 year old when she arrived and for quite some time after that. She started cussing about stuff and drinking more often. She even hit a girl while she was over there.

Keep in mind, that this girl finished in the top of her class in college, recieved several honors, managed and ran the writing center at a college here at 21, did yoga, read self-help and wrote in a daily journal about her feelings. I felt she was my intellectual match when I was 30 and she was 21.

So when we talk about a woman's age on here, I think we should take it with a grain of salt. It doesn't matter as much as we make it out because maturity levels, especially in women, can swing forward or backward. It didn't matter with mine. Her maturity actually digressed.

I've had a married women in their 30's with a teenage kid on my ........... How's that for mature and responsible?

Tiki, I don't know what to tell you about what to do. If I told you not to lie, I'd be a hypocrite. The other night, my date, a 20-year-old Japanese model, tried to guess my age. She said 27. Nope. 28. Nope. 29. Nope. 31. Nope. 30 Great Job!!! (I'm 34)

I would have no problems lying. If you think it's worth it, then go for it. My sisters husband lied to her. He took like 15 years off his age! She found out but stayed with him.

 

[Aztec]

Don't sweat it...they probably wouldn't ask you. I had a similar experience last summer when I met my GF's parents for the first time. If you really like the girl, give her and her parents the respect they deserve; therefore no lying. They may grunt that their daughter is dating someone over a decade older but if you lie to them it will make things worse.


Don't act too serious either or they may think you're a serial killer. Acting very uneasy may give them the sense that their daughter is dating Glenwood Quagmire (Family Guy).

 

[djzulu]

I was in a very similar situation a while back - was 29 and dating a 19 year old.

I never thought this was going to be serious, and since I was hanging around her friends (was taking some courses in college) -didn't want to look 'too old' and said that I was 26. This didn't make me look 'weird' at frat parties etc. (I look young for my age too)

But unfortunately things started to get serious and I had to meet her parents etc - but deep down I knew that this will not last cause I was not ready for a serious relationship. I have to give it to her though - she was one of the most mature girls I have dated, if not the most mature.

So I decided to keep the lie - this went on for 2 years, but everybody thought I was younger - her parents, her friends etc. Actually everybody that I knew at the time (I moved to a new city) didn't know my age, so that was an easiser lie to keep.

Looking back, this was a very stupid thing to do - but the stupid thing is not in the fact that I lied as much as in the fact that I turned something that was not supposed to be serious into a 2 year thing (was in AFC mode then, and didn't know about this sie ) And as things got serious, I had to lie to her parents, friends and it was very difficult for me since I am a very honest person (you're all probably saying "yeh - sure you are!" ). I always wanted to tell the truth, but it never happened.

We broke up after I left that city (was there to complete my studies) so there were no problems.

So what I suggest - if you are going to be serious with this girl, don't lie. But if you're not going there - don't waste your time seeing her parents, cause you will find yourself going towards a serious relationship.

 

[MightyMate]

Dont worry. It had to hapen sooner or later. Be relaxed, and show them You really care about her.