Meeting old men while traveling got me scared

[Manure Spherian]

2. You would have to consider my own personal risk factors for divorce. My parents got divorced and I also never had a healthy example at home of a marriage. My 2 maternal male cousins got divorced with neither marriage lasting 10 years and they had a healthier example at home. It is likely I would have married after age 25 with a woman close to my own age with a notch count of 5+ considering that my first marriage would have been in the early 2010s when that data was collected.

I’m a product of divorce. I choose to not repeat my father’s behavior and decisions in my marriage. Anyone can do the same by their free will. But if you don’t want to marry at all, that’s fine too.

I’m aware of the social trends you mentioned. However it seems like you just don’t want to marry and have children. Again, that is fine. I think anyone who has trepidation about kids and marriage shouldn’t have them.

 

[SW15]

I’m a product of divorce. I choose to not repeat my father’s behavior and decisions in my marriage. Anyone can do the same by their free will. But if you don’t want to marry at all, that’s fine too.

I’m aware of the social trends you mentioned. However it seems like you just don’t want to marry and have children. Again, that is fine. I think anyone who has trepidation about kids and marriage shouldn’t have them.

I have trepidation about marriage and children. I never ruled either of them out but the odds of a failed marriage are rather high. I don't want to be financially impacted by a failure.

I also think it is late in life for me now to marry and have children in my early to mid 40s. Any children I would have wouldn't be done with high school until I am over 60 and I'm pushing up against 65 for when they would be done with college if they went to college. I don't want to spend ages 60-65 dealing with high school and college aged children.

I think it is better for men to be done with having children by 35.