Meeting a absolute honest hoe

Baibars

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There is this young trashy girl I matched with on hinge.
She’s young, slim and has brown hair blue eyes.
I was also attracted to her character because it was just fun talking to her.
She wasn’t annoying and hard to deal with just easy going.

We met the same day. Made up a little bit and that’s it.

BUT during our talk she openly said that she sleeps around and loves it.
She wanted to be open towards me meeting and having sex with multiple guys. I was a little bit shocked I mean yeah we know women do that but her telling me that openly was weird.

Next week there is a potential second date where I could sleep with her, but I don’t know even though I have other girls on the side, there feels something off with this one.
The girls I am talking to usually are not that crazy and I don’t know if they are they don’t tell me. They basically behave like normal women.

With this one, I initially felt the attraction, but I also feel somehow repulsed by her sleeping around and giving me some appointment for my turn you know what I mean?

She’s a nice person.
It’s cool talking to her, but I don’t know it could be due to my values something just makes me angry about her like I don’t like what she does at all with all these men even though I 100% know that I would never want to get in a relationship with her.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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This is a you issue not a her issue.

What do you mean second date. Stop spending money taking her out if you pursue. She literally gave you the playbook. Invite her over if you see her again.

By no means do you have unprotected sex with her.
 

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You’re attracted to her because she presents a contradiction: sexually open, emotionally relaxed, and disarmingly honest. That mix of traits, fun but reckless, lighthearted but raw, creates ambiguity.

People are drawn to others who seem like they have layers because the mind is wired to want to resolve ambiguity. When someone sends mixed signals, it creates cognitive tension. The brain instinctively seeks patterns and closure, so when someone is both open and distant, pure and wild, good and bad, it kicks your curiosity into overdrive. You start projecting depth onto them, assuming there's more to uncover. I mean, it even has me questioning if she is really telling the truth or if it might be part of her game.

This psychological pull can be stronger than attraction to someone who seems consistent or predictable, because mystery keeps the imagination engaged, and that imagination fuels desire.

Thankfully, you are not bonded to her yet, so if you choose to not continue with your courtship, it will be easier to stop talking to her now than later on down the line.

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Bokanovsky

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She wanted to be open towards me meeting and having sex with multiple guys.
She wants you to meet and have sex with multiple guys?? Perhaps something is being lost in translation here...
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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