Meet Her Parents, befriend them if you dare, It Will Pay Off!

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Ok, I'm going to disscus a very important part of any real long term realationship, meeting the parents. You may be like "Why? Aren't they just going to be a$$wholes to me just because I'm looking to date/ advance with their daughter?". Hell NO! But if you aren't careful it could totally backfire on you.

First of all you need to realize you aren't their enemy, most parents couldn't be happier to meet a respectable young man like yourself showing intrest in their daughter.

Second, realize that they are adults, they want to see you as a responsible and bright young man that would never do any harm to their daughter. Leave any small bit of immaturity at home for this one boys.

Third, lots of parents recognize ****yness as ignorance and are not too fond of that attitude. Being assertive is way different than being ****y as any true DJ should know, if you are a ****y person do your best to hold back, it's for your own good.

Fourth, try to get mom to like you first, as unfortunate as it is most wives are able to heavily influence their husbands opinion about other guys. Mom's are usually easier to get to like you anyways, as long as you're a nice and sweet guy to her and her daughter while she's around. She's a woman, another hopeless romantic.

Fifth, getting her Pops on your side can be a challenge, the more of his rules you follow the better off you're going to be (cause he thinks he's got you under control, hahaha until u get his daughter in the backseat). After you set a good example you will be able to further yourself from these rules as time goes by. If you can show some interest in some of the things he does (his job,cars,a/v equipment, etc..) he will like you just as a guy that likes the same manly stuff. Don't fake intrest he will see right through it, and that will only make things worse, because he will know you were full of it from the get go.

Finally you should be able to reap the rewards of he parents newly found trust in you. She will be able to stay out with you later, go on vacation with you/ taking you, family outings and maybe even crash at your place :D

I think I covered it pretty well, if any one has any thoughts on the topic post it. If I get enough responses I will do a revision of the thread. Peace.
 
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Very nice and Throurough post. This pretty much covered it all in a nice brief way. Although I haven't been in a long term relationship I do see where this could be extremely useful. Keep it up!:D
 

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Back when I was an AFC, I did this. It helped so much. It still helps.

Trying to win over the mother is the most important, period.

Remeber the following:
1: Eye Contact
This is a life thing, not just a DJing tip. Everyone you meet and talk to you shouls have eye contact with. Don't stare them down, but maintain eye contact.

2: Yes, and No
Adults like to hear that you all together, they like hearing "Yes" and "No", if you want you can throw a "Sir" in. Keep it natural though, i you try to force a "Sir" they will see right through you. Never say "Yeah", "Yup", or "Nope", "Naww".

3: Shake his hand
This shows maturity. A firm, but not painful hand shake. This is also an unconcience form of dominance.

4: Be respectful
This is broad, don't look through their stuff unless he shows something to you. Don't be immature. This is the broad rule that emcompasses the other rules.

WInning over the parents is something that you want to do. It makes them more comfortable to let their daughter go out on a date with you. The better they feel about you, the more they will let you stay out, and longer!
 

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My example of how good befriending parents are.

thier parents

But its not just parents as much as a girl may fight with her siblings she loves them to death if your good with them it says alot. This is especially true if she has younger siblings most girls have an inner soft spot for a guy thats good with kids. You don't have to be an angel tease them like you do her just have fun. If you make the time your at her house lots more fun than her average stay at home she'll be thinking about you long after you leave.
 
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