Me and a friend played GOD, and it backfired?

[Ar7]

Ok so on Thursday I picked up this chick (Gal A) at a cafe, she was with one other friend (Gal B), both gals were quite hot.

On Friday I was out with one of my wingman (Friend A) and another friend (Friend B). Friend B is the serious type, been in a serious relationship with his gal (Gal C) for 4 years. They are currently living together and planning to get married.

So Friday was one of the rare occasions I had seen Friend B without this GF. Seeing as how he is always serious and rarely looks like enjoying his life, me and Friend A though we should show him a good time.

So here we are at friends place smoking cigars, drinking vodka and tequila, discussing where we should go out. Then Gal A rings my fone, invites us to go clubbing with them (Gal A and Gal B). This was a perfect opportunity to show Friend B a great time.

ME: hay dude, we gotta show him a good time, he needs it.
FRIEND A: yeah I feel for the dude, he rarely seems happy.
ME: So I am gonna intro him to Gal B, and put a good word in for him, then I gotta go take care of Gal A.
FRIEND A: don't worry I ll take care of them two (FRIEND B and Gal B) from then on.

*We shake hands*

Later that night we met up with the girls at the clubs. Both look really fine, and inviting. I greeted them and introduced them to my friends. Then I was off with Gal A doing my own thing, while Friend A, B and Gal B was drinking at the bar. The whole night Gal A and I were doing our own thing and away from the others.

At the end of the night we all meet up again:

FRIEND B: dude I fu@ked up *with a funny smirk on his face*
ME: fu@ked up? And what’s that funny smile on your face?
FRIEND B: mann I couldn't help it, I tried my best but when GAL B licked my ears it just did it for me. I grabbed her, tongued her and then fingered her right there at the bar. I am so ****ed man I don’t know what to do, my GF will kill me. (Keep in mind that the guy is really loyal and this is the first time he ever did anything like this behind his gals back)
ME: OMG are you serious? (I still didn't believe it, even though I wanted this to happened I always though it was impossible to break down his walls)

Later on I am talking with FRIEND A:

FRIEND A: *gives me a hi five* dude we did it, after 4 fu@king years we finally broke through his walls.
ME: haha so you really convinced him?
FRIEND A: yeah man, at first he was like always trying to hold back. Then gave him a long lecture about how life is short and that he should sometimes learn to have fun etc. Then finally after a beer or two and enough lecture he was convinced.
ME: LOL you’re the man FRIEND A, we did it m8

So that was the end of the night, we all went home afterwards, me and FRIEND A went home thinking our job was done, we showed him a good time and there was gonna be no more to this than what has already happened.

Oh Saturday the boys met up for coffee. FRIEND B came out again without his GF. I look puzzled at FRIEND A "umm he's out again without his GF"?

FRIEND B: mann guys I can’t stop thinking about Gal B, I tried my best to keep her outta my head but still I can't stop thinking about her. The whole time I was with my GF I was thinking of Gal B.
ME: umm dude, forget Gal B, she was just for fun, it’s over it’s history. You had fun and that’s all it counts. I am just glad that you didn't go too far as to fu@king her.

FRIEND B: I can't dude, at one hand I feel guilty, in the other hand I wanna fu@k Gal B. Call em up dude, I wanna see her again. (NOTE: Gal B had invited him to his house last night, but FRIEND B declined)

FRIEND A: dude chill, you need to snap out of it. Reality check dude, you are gonna marry your gal soon, it's not worth it.

FRIEND B: yeah I guess not..

ME: oh and you need not feel guilty, its not like you fu@ked her. And don't go telling your GF about it. If you must tell you might have as well fu@ked Gal B. Never ever tell your gal what happened ok, remember what she don't know can't hurt her.

FRIEND B: yeah I guess, don't worry I wont tell her.

So this morning FRIEND A rings me up at wrok:

FRIEND A: dude guess what?
ME: what?
FRIEND A: FRIEND B had a fight with his gal and they have now broken up
ME: WTF?
FRIEND B: and he told her everything about what happened
ME: OMFG

So here we go, we tried to show him how to live life a little and it totally got fu@ked up.

What do you guys make of this? FRIEND A and I reckon FRIEND B was never happy with his relationship and we had finally given him the confidence to speak his mind.

So did we fu@k up or merely helped the situation?

 

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I dont think it was really your fault at all... you really didnt force friend B to do anything... they were his own actions.. he attracted Gal B and he kissed/fingered her...

you may have saved him from a divorce... or he may have ruined what could have been a great marriage... how old is he?

 

[squirrels]

If Friend B was truly ready for marriage, he wouldn't have cheated on his fiancee. No matter HOW tempting Girl B was.

Unfortunately, now that he's single, he's going to resume his AFC ways and go balls-to-the-wall after Girl B, and she's going to dump him because he's AFC and he doesn't have his girl any more so he's ALSO desperate (lost challenge). You can tell by the "I can't stop thinking about her" garbage. With that attitude, if he had stayed in the marriage, his wife would have eventually owned him and made him her b*tch. Now, he's got no one.

Your friend is not only NOT ready for marriage, he has NO idea what he wants and has NO idea how to get it. Time for the DJ Bible. Help your boy out.

 

[Shiftkey]

I agree with squirrels. Show him this site.

 

[Ar7]

I agree too, but before that, I gotta take care of few thing:

I forsee problems heading my way. You see I am friends with his gal/X. She very well knows the kinda guy I am and she knows that night he went out with us. So things could get a lot more sour, and I could be the one getting blamed for everything. Worse if FRIEND B does decide to patch things with his gal, he could end up turning against me too.

I am meeting up with FRINED A and FRIEND B today. I dunno if I should suport his descision or not. There are ppl who don't understand the DJ way and I am not sure if he is ready for the DJ way. Some ppl are better off being ignorant, I just don't want this shi.t to totally blow up on me.

 

[BobbDobbs]

He sure as h*ll wasn't ready for marriage.

 

[Unregistered]

Well, it was nobody's fault but his own that he cheated. If he couldn't resist a night of temptation then he wasn't ready for marriage at all. From your post he seemed somewhat unconcerned about what he did.

However, I find it hard to believe that you are worried about his chick. If you really considered his "fiancee" to be your friend, why were you so happy that he cheated on her? I'd understand if you encouraged him to get out of an unhealthy relationship, but the fact is that what he did was sh!tty and immature, and should not be commended at all.

 

[Ar7]

Originally posted by Unregistered
However, I find it hard to believe that you are worried about his chick.

PLEASE NOTE, I AM only worried for myownself, I don't wanna be blame for what has happened and might happen in the furute.

 

[Blaaaaat]

It was friend B's decision, you don't control Friend B, do you? You
can't take the blame for his actions, unless you put gun to his head and threatened him.

 

[bp1974]

Sounds like he was just waiting for the right excuse to break off his engagement. You provided the opportunity, he did the rest. Give him Girl B's number if he still wants it.

bp1974

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by bp1974
Sounds like he was just waiting for the right excuse to break off his engagement. You provided the opportunity, he did the rest.

'Zactly. If he gets back with his girl now, he is severely whipped and can't stand being without the p*ssy.

Don't let him tell you that YOU broke them up. Yes, you provided the temptation, and the moral value of that move was questionable (not something I would've done). BUT you did not hook them up. You weren't even THERE when he made out with her.

He's going to try to place the blame on you, because that's what AFCs do: they don't own up to their actions and instead seek to place blame on other people. If you truly value this guy's friendship, you oughta have a chat with him NOW, while he's still technically single, BEFORE he gets back together with his girl. Because now that they're broken up, he's gonna be AFC and try to "atone for his sins", which means no more nights out with the boys, no more fun, and a lot of ass-kissing.

Talk to him NOW, while he's still confused. Because once she gets her claws back in him, he is done for. Put it in plain terms: he's NOT ready for commitment, he DOESN'T know what he wants, and he needs to pull himself up by his bootstraps and be a MAN.