Maybe bars are better than book stores/gyms

[mahon83050]

You hear alot of talk about bars being bad places to meet girls due to the fact many of them have "their guard up." Many people say bookstores, gyms, etc are good places.

However, book stores aren't really that much better. I went to Barnes and Noble two weekends in a row and would kind of feel wierd trying to mack it to a chick in there. There were some attractive women there, but most seemed preoccupied checking out books or magazines.

I currently do not belong to a gym, but my buddy does. He says it is filled with hotties, but they are always on the treadmill or look very "preoccupied".

Like gyms, bookstores are filled with women who aren't there to get hit on.

Afterall, bars are a social meetup. The only downsides are talking over the music and worrying about getting sucker punched by some guy for accidentally hitting on his girlfriend.

I am not saying bars are a great place to meet women, but maybe we are not giving them enough credit and giving too much credit too other places.

 

[mahon83050]

so did you even TRY to approach the girls at the bookstore, or was it just YOU who felt weird and thus didn't try. You will be surprised. I love bookstore approaches.

Not a cold approach. Maybe If I catch her glancing at me a couple of times or if she smiles (signals). I was keeping my eye on a couple of attractive women tonight who seemed alone. Moments later, the boyfriend shows up from around the corner.

 

[Deep Dish]

Afterall, bars are a social meetup. The only downsides are talking over the music and worrying about getting sucker punched by some guy for accidentally hitting on his girlfriend.

I am not saying bars are a great place to meet women, but maybe we are not giving them enough credit and giving too much credit too other places.

I agree. Non-bar going people love to dismiss bars as somewhere where you will never find a "real" genuine person, but of course it all depends on how you go about it. There are dirty pickup joints where it's acknowledged everyone there is vying for sex but there are different scenes and one of which is where people are just there to relax and hang out to great music. I've met a ton of real genuine people in bars and of course they introduce you to other genuine people, so there's this whole community of sincerity. Most assuredly, the biggest detractor is you can barely hold a conversation under the loud music. Bars are far from ideal but they ain't so bad.

 

[STR8UP]

I agree. Non-bar going people love to dismiss bars as somewhere where you will never find a "real" genuine person, but of course it all depends on how you go about it.

I always crack up when someone says this. Where are you going to find someone better? Church? I would rather pick up a chick in a strip club than at church.

I have some pretty cool friends, and they all go to bars. The only exception is when some of them get into a relationship they tend to stick closer to home. Fact is, a lot of the same people in the bars are the ones in the cafe's and bookstores, and school and whatnot during the week.

I met the last two chicks I dated at clubs. Had a two year relationship with one of them. The whole "bar chicks are inferior" is B.S.

I've met a ton of real genuine people in bars and of course they introduce you to other genuine people, so there's this whole community of sincerity. Most assuredly, the biggest detractor is you can barely hold a conversation under the loud music. Bars are far from ideal but they ain't so bad.

My M.O. is meeting up with a group of friends at a bar and going from there. It never fails, I meet new people all the time cause my friends bring new chicks all the time. I'm waiting for one I met a few weeks ago to show up at my place right now. 21 yr old HOTTIE!

Clubs/bars are great when you are with a group of people you know. You can hang with your friends, meet anyone new that they bring along, AND meet other chicks in the process.

Headed to Wall St. right now! See you fellas tomorrow for sushi!

 

[STR8UP]

And regardless of what a woman says, most of the time if she's in a bar she is open to meeting someone.

 

[djbr]

Non-bar going people love to dismiss bars as somewhere where you will never find a "real" genuine person, but of course it all depends on how you go about it.

It's the biggest crock of sh1t ever. People who use this try to level themselves up by it, as in "I am not shallow like this people". Ironically all I know who stated this started to go to bars every weekend as soon as their relationship status changed to "single". Hmm... :crackup:

And regardless of what a woman says, most of the time if she's in a bar she is open to meeting someone.

...regardless if they have boyfriends or not.

I knew my relationship was going down the rabbit role when, after a fight, my gf called some friends and went to a bar. From that I knew it was over, and I was a real AFC at that time.

 

[DJDamage]

Its not the place nor the location that matters but its YOU that matters most.

The location is not as important as your game. Women are everywhere and I mean everywhere. You go on the subway, there are women there, you go to work there are women there, you go to get a lunch break in a coffee house there are women there, you go out the a bar in the evening and yes you guessed it there are women there.

Now are you going to wait until you hit the bars and waste all those hundreds of women through out your day for the few one's in the bars?? Are you hoping that the dark atmoshphere and alcohol will be able to mask away your flaws and insecurities??! Because low and behold after you take down her number, you will have to meet her somewhere else away from the bar, away from being intoxicated and being surronded by plethora of noise. Yes it will be in a quieter place where you and only you will be the focus of her attention rather then the location itself and nothing will help you if you don't have a tight game. She will see right through you and all the aura and attraction she felt while being intoxicated will dissipate into the night. Its not wise to take short cuts because they will end up biting you in the ass.

Master your game and it won't matter where you will find women because they will be everywhere.

 

[CLOONEY]

I agree. Non-bar going people love to dismiss bars as somewhere where you will never find a "real" genuine person, but of course it all depends on how you go about it. QUOTE]

I agree 100%.

So many of these "PUAs" have no idea what they are talking about!

I have met many girls at bars, one of them I spent years with, and she is a catholic, good virgin.

Nearly everyone goes to bars, except absolute geeks with some kind of anxiety issues.

Bars for me, have been the best place to meet girls (outside work, study and mutual friends).

 

[Oxide]

you guys want to know where the really hot/cool women are?

not the typical bar hoes but the women who are fun and somewhat more brainy?

Well, do ya?



CONCERTS!!!!!!!!

not heavy metal stuff, but chilled/covers/ stuff. the one i was at this weekend - HOLY COW, enough hot girls for this whole forum

 

[Abbott]

Of course they are.

I can't remember the last time I met a woman, or anyone new for that matter in a bookstore. And sometimes I even go there to read magazines for free (I know, I should buy, but I will buy if it's really good), so it's not just an "in-and-out" affair like at the bank or coffee shop.

I've discovered that if you go out to a bar or club, you can't help but meet new people. I'm not going to say that you are guaranteed to meet anyone, but it's very likely. Once I went to a small bar on a Monday at about 8:30 or so and I happened to be the only customer at the time. Obviously I didn't meet anyone that night, but if it's a larger bar or on a weekend you're likely to, even if you go home at like 10-10:30 (which I do if it's during the week).

 

[Celadus]

Different bars have different atmospheres and attract different people. Its just a mutual place for people to go and drink.

I was in Athens, GA a few months ago and went into a bar playing rap and it was predominantly black with some whites, the bar next door had a indie rock/gothic feel and a bar down the street had a Dave Matthews cover band and was filled with preps in Northface jackets.

 

[Oxide]

as a guy i know says:

if you cant get laid in athens, you might as well cut off your d1ck.

 

[PRMoon]

I would try to pick up girls in bookstores...if i had the ability to read

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Hmmm,..

Bookstore: Semi-attractive, wallflower, bookworm, not looking to be approached and gives no IOIs.

Club: Jetscreamin' hootie queen, three drinks in and in the mood to party.

I dunno, maybe you should tell me,..