So many things I want to say, yet so little words to put all my thouhgts into a coherent sentance...Hopefully some people with past experiances can guide me on what to do next...
Let me start off by saying this... Here's the thing I am in my early 20's and all my life I've had alot of girl-"friends". Who were just that, friends, girls who I just hung out with for fun, had no feelings for, never gave them anything more then a peck on the cheek as we said goodbye or a friendly hug.
I've done alot of dating but I cannot honestly say that I've ever been in any type of serious girlfriend/boyfriend romantic relationship, although I've had alot of opportunities to do so in the past but the girls that usually had a "high interest level" in me, I didn't about them or vice versa, the girls I liked, didn't like me back.
And I never really wanted to waste my time with a girl I felt nothing for, you know?
Anyways, about a month or so ago I finally met my "dream girl". It's very difficult to try to list all of her characteristics that made her appeal to me, because it's impossible to describe on paper, needless to say, she is the one girl that gave me "That feeling" where you just "Know" you want to be with that person.
I made sure I played all my cards right with her because I knew that she was a keeper. I've surfed this site for quite some time, read the bibble as well as posts by Pooks and the Weapons of Mass Seduction guide by Mr.Fingers etc...
All this to say; looking back on my past dating experiances, I learned that I used to do alot of AFC garbage. This time, I made sure I didn't do any of it with her. I was armed to the teeth with new knowledge on what and not to do.
It worked. We've been steadily dating for about a month now and everything is going great I would think. We also kiss, hug and cuddle everytime were together. So, she's basically my first real romantic "girl-friend"
As sweet as she is though, she is also a very insecure and self-conscious girl with a very low self-esteem who's always putting herself down on many lvl's, such as her physical looks, her talents etc.
As a guy, it's hard for me to hear alot of these things sometimes, which I know are simply not true. I always try to be there for her and make her feel better and special (which she is) or comfort her in some way, when she starts going all "Emo" on me, so to speak.
Anyways, the truth is, I care very much for this girl, more-so then I ever did for anyone in my life. Sometimes I even bended a few bible rules, and I know that a true DJ isn't supposed to really ever get emotionally attached, but if any of you have ever seen the movie "Hitch" I feel exactly like Will Smith did when he says "When I'm around her, I just can't seem to get my stuff right".
Even though I know all the rules, read all the articles, posts etc. It's completly diffrent when your actually with the women you love.
I guess my question is the following. I want to let her know how I feel about her. I really haven't ever told her how much of an important aspect she is in my life.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to go all carebearness mode on her. But I want to get rid of all these feelings which are bottlenecked up inside me, and I haven't told her anything out of fear of pushing her away and being overbearing.
I know that "the-game" requires us men to be "manly" so to speak and not reveal any of or "feelings" or do anything remotely AFC style, if we wish to keep the women were with, so that they don't lose interest. But I really need to be at peace with myself, which right now I'm not.
Sometimes she says things to me about herself and about us and I can't help in my mind but think "If you only knew".
Any suggestions, toughts?
Let me start off by saying this... Here's the thing I am in my early 20's and all my life I've had alot of girl-"friends". Who were just that, friends, girls who I just hung out with for fun, had no feelings for, never gave them anything more then a peck on the cheek as we said goodbye or a friendly hug.
I've done alot of dating but I cannot honestly say that I've ever been in any type of serious girlfriend/boyfriend romantic relationship, although I've had alot of opportunities to do so in the past but the girls that usually had a "high interest level" in me, I didn't about them or vice versa, the girls I liked, didn't like me back.
And I never really wanted to waste my time with a girl I felt nothing for, you know?
Anyways, about a month or so ago I finally met my "dream girl". It's very difficult to try to list all of her characteristics that made her appeal to me, because it's impossible to describe on paper, needless to say, she is the one girl that gave me "That feeling" where you just "Know" you want to be with that person.
I made sure I played all my cards right with her because I knew that she was a keeper. I've surfed this site for quite some time, read the bibble as well as posts by Pooks and the Weapons of Mass Seduction guide by Mr.Fingers etc...
All this to say; looking back on my past dating experiances, I learned that I used to do alot of AFC garbage. This time, I made sure I didn't do any of it with her. I was armed to the teeth with new knowledge on what and not to do.
It worked. We've been steadily dating for about a month now and everything is going great I would think. We also kiss, hug and cuddle everytime were together. So, she's basically my first real romantic "girl-friend"
As sweet as she is though, she is also a very insecure and self-conscious girl with a very low self-esteem who's always putting herself down on many lvl's, such as her physical looks, her talents etc.
As a guy, it's hard for me to hear alot of these things sometimes, which I know are simply not true. I always try to be there for her and make her feel better and special (which she is) or comfort her in some way, when she starts going all "Emo" on me, so to speak.
Anyways, the truth is, I care very much for this girl, more-so then I ever did for anyone in my life. Sometimes I even bended a few bible rules, and I know that a true DJ isn't supposed to really ever get emotionally attached, but if any of you have ever seen the movie "Hitch" I feel exactly like Will Smith did when he says "When I'm around her, I just can't seem to get my stuff right".
Even though I know all the rules, read all the articles, posts etc. It's completly diffrent when your actually with the women you love.
I guess my question is the following. I want to let her know how I feel about her. I really haven't ever told her how much of an important aspect she is in my life.
Now don't get me wrong, I don't want to go all carebearness mode on her. But I want to get rid of all these feelings which are bottlenecked up inside me, and I haven't told her anything out of fear of pushing her away and being overbearing.
I know that "the-game" requires us men to be "manly" so to speak and not reveal any of or "feelings" or do anything remotely AFC style, if we wish to keep the women were with, so that they don't lose interest. But I really need to be at peace with myself, which right now I'm not.
Sometimes she says things to me about herself and about us and I can't help in my mind but think "If you only knew".
Any suggestions, toughts?
