married woman not happy... talks to me alot.

[tony-montana]

errm this is a bit weird. i met her while i was playing a game of ps3. found out she lives in the next state as me... bout 8 hrs drive and then we start chatting on msn and she tells me she hates her husband and is gonna leave him soon... she doesnt sound happy with him and she talks to me alot. we cam each other and stuff almost everyday. dunno if shes using me though just to get through her sh!tty relationship. she says she misses me all the time. but just before she was telling me when she logs off msn its cause her husband came home and he wants to have sex so she does it to make him happy. saying she doesnt want to fight so just fuks him... then starts saying that i should find a gf and that theres plenty out there... starting to put me off.

shes pretty hot and i wouldnt mind a piece of her but that would be hard since she lives pretty far. shes really nice and got a good personality but why is she being all nice and acting like she wants me... and now shes like she fuks her husband :S

i know i should stop talking to her but i like her personality. ahh well. she probably just using me i dunno what to think. i always end up with this situation with taken girls and then i end up with nothing in the end. the last girl i was talkin to kept sending me love msgs all the time via phone cause she wasnt happy with her bf but she stopped coming online and neither of us have contacted each other. girls use me alot. i get attached easy because i havent been with a woman for a long time as im very picky and i dont go out much (i like being home) - i dont drink or smoke and hate clubs/bars. so as you can see not many girls go for this. apart from a few rare girls and the one im talking to now... we are actually talking about how shes gonna leave him and where shes gonna live. her husband is gonna take the kids so she'll be single... which is kinda good for me cause i so can't take care of kids let alone myself and someone else. but i doubt ill even meet her so FUK it. im so unlucky with women i swear... im hoping i meet a girl when i start studying in feb

well she just said "i dont think its ever gonna happen, but i would love to" oh well. i just got excited again for nothing as always. i get suckered in too easy. FUK ****TTTTTTTTTtttttttttttt

 

[1337]

lmao your becoming an emotional tampon, in other words she complains to you about he relationship while her current bf rails her. This is classic common trap for AFCs. Listen to her advice and get a gf, there are many girls out there. If a girl does this to you shes leading you on and has friendzoned you simply move on.

 

[tony-montana]

yeah thought so. why is it so hard to find a normal gf. ive been looking all my life and im 25. every girl i meet is either a smoker/drinker, party girl, fuked in the head... has a bf, single mother, married, etc. i'm very unlucky with women. im a very nice guy and thats just me. but not to the point where i'll get used too much like this current woman. tomorrow i will stop with the bs. it happens to me alot and eventually i just stop talking to them but each time it happens it kills me a little bit inside until i find a new girl to use me up again or fuk my head up. starting to lose hope but im still hangin on. theres gotta be a girl for me somewhere. just tried to call some girl before .. she didnt answer. another girl with a bf who was using me obviously. i find this very evil for a girl to do this. dont they know they are leading us on and hurting us? dumb b!tches.

 

[DonGorgon]

Well she has men other than you who do what ever she wants.. so don worry, if you stop talking to her she will simply have another guy do it...

Ovcource she is not happy.. most humans are unhappy/.. marriage is obsolete and any type of LTR is a chore these days even for older folks who one would think might be more prone to settle..

YOUR CHOICE?

F her of just talk to her.. her marriage will fail with our without you! so dont sweat it..

 

[ENIGMA16]

why is it so hard to find a normal gf.

How many numbers have you gone for in the past week? How many strangers have you opened in the past week?

i'm very unlucky with women.

Luck has absolutely nothing to do with it. This is a common statement made by those who either can't accept or can't see that it is their fault that they "can't get women". Most AFC's say that they're either "not lucky" or that "girls suck". In other words, they don't accept that the women aren't the problem, or the odds, but themselves. Once you accept this you can start working on specifics, but first you have to realize that you are the problem and not anybody or anything else.

I can tell from your post that you have a very bad mindset when it comes to women, and it is because you're not satisfied with yourself. If you were satisfied with yourself then you wouldn't be so dependent upon your interactions with women to prop yourself up, and hence it wouldn't "kill [you] a bit inside".

You need to work on yourself.

As for this girl, she's just using you as an emotional tampon, as someone else said. You were doomed from the start when you started listening to her problems; when you do this you're immediately put into the friend zone. These kinds of discussions are for friends or long term relationships, and that is it.

 

[AAAgent]

seems like she's giving you opportunity but will only give you the chance if you man up. You don't really learn how to man up in one day but basically you need to be more forward and learn to take action.

Also, if she's talking to you only...don't think you're the only one she's talking to.

your best bet is to just ask if she wants to meet up and hang out and grab a few drinks and just chill afterwards.

If she say's no that's fine. Rejection only teaches you how to be more successful than your last failure which is great.

If she says yes, chill and take her to a motel or go back to your place. If she doesn't agree at all just move on man.

I used to approach women shooting for a certain number of success. lets say week one i would go for 10 numbers. I would write down all my failures and why i believed i failed. I learned from them slowly and became successful.

 

[drak_ool]

God damn Tony Montana, I expect more from somebody with that username...

This woman? forget about her, she's only using you (but you already know thiss).

But you got a lot of work to put in buddy, because the problem here is YOU.

re-read the first line of JayLay's post (I swear he stole that from me! lol). You say it's hard to find a normal gf and that you are unlucky with girls. But what do you mean by "hard"? Do you mean you go out sarging, you're constantly meeting new girls, filtering out the flakes, busy setting up dates, etc...? Or do you mean you're sitting on your ass all day playing PS3, you rarely interact with women and... you expect to find a quality girl?

So you want a high quality girlfriend? The secret is to not look for one! Think about it: hight quality girls are RARE, as you ve noticed. So even if you are actively looking for that elusive, high quality girl, you will be hard pressed to find her. However, if you have this mentality that you need a gf, you will end up settling with a lesser quality woman, only to regret it down the road when shyt blows up in your face.

Instead just to out there and be a DJ with an open mind. Interact with women, HAVE FUN with women, become interesting to women and, most importantly, REFUSE to settle down with any girl that does not meet your core expectations. This will also help you sharpen your game. Because, let's face it, at this point in your life, even if you do meet the good girl you dream about, you will most likely not be able to keep her.

I suggest you write down 10 things you want in a girlfriend and 10 things you don't want. As you meet new girls, you screen them against your lists until you find one that fits your needs. The only way this will work, though, is if you approach as many girls as you can. It's a numbers game: the more girls you meet, the more chances you will find one you trully like. But that won't happen by just meeting a random girl online every 2-3 months.

go out there and get it done

 

[thedude4242]

dont bother with married woman. maybe a one night stand but that is it.