Man frustrating woman

[Bungo Pony]

Hey all! I haven't been on here in a while. Just to let you know that all is good and happy in Bungoland

Anyway, I've got a friend (female) who is having an issue, and I can't figure it out. The only thing I can think is this is a guy who likes a challenge himself.

So anyway, these two have been dating for 1 1/2 months. They've had sex about 5-6 times already. Now what's happening is the guy gets her all hot and bothered, and then he decides that he doesn't wanna fvck.

Anybody got any ideas what the hell's going on? Unless this guy actually read my post re: "Denying Her Sex", I'm completely boggled.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

He has erectile dysfunction at times and can't perform, could be a mental thing. I see no other reason. Unless he is scared of disease or pregnancy from her!

 

[Kineti[C]harm]

Nah sounds more like he has discovered the power of the **** and is playing some fun teasing-games...

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Hooo...Tough one.

Personally I think this is a control thing. There's a huge power trip when you can make a woman melt with desire for you, and then deny her. Same thing some women do playing the c@cktease and then leaving the guy con las juevos azul. As a guy, I've only ever done this to put a woman in check when she's seriously gone over the line and tried to take advantage of my good nature thinking that she's in control. This is pretty much a nuke tactic. Every once in a while, you have to drop the bomb in order to remind people who's really in charge here, but if you use it too much you're just an insecure bastid trying to compensate. Pays huge dividends, but it's a bit sadistic for longer term purposes.

If he was afraid of pregnancy or intimacy, or anything else, there's ways to circumvent any potential problems and even then, he never would have had sex with her to start.

He's hard-core mind fvcking her. If this is a habitual thing, he's not the type of guy she needs to be with, so next. Best of luck in life and love, and here's hoping your friend doesn't end up too messed up by this.

-CyranoDeBergerac

 

[Trapspringer]

My guess is that she did something that turned him off completely,she doesn't realize what she has did, and he doiesn't want to say any thing. 5-6 or times? A man is just getting warmed up with 5-6 times and ain't thinking about slowing the sex down at that point unless he was turned off by something.

 

[CLOONEY]

I have gone through this once also, it is when the girl is not letting you breath, suffercating you! Sometimes also girls want too much foreplay when the guy simply wants sex.

 

[Slickster]

HEy Bungo! Good to see you back.

I think this guy may be me

Just kidding but that post you wrote on denying your girl sex has literally changed my life. I now have the horniest girl I've ever had on my hands.

I think this guy is experienced enough to know what this tactic can do. He knows his sh!t!

I think you should tell your friend that she's lucky to have a guy who makes her horny.

 

[TesuqueRed]

It's a guy doing a bytch thing, bungo.

She needs to keep it simple and brutal. Say "...you need to leave now. I need a man..." and mean it. She needs a man. He isn't. No explanation. Chuck 'im to the curb. She has to be contemptuous almost--no, fvck that, not 'almost', she has to be contemptuous, and no discusision. He starts in with the discussion and she just gets dressed quickly to leave.

Either she knows how to do this or not.

And he'll either perform or make more excuses.

My guess: he'll get nasty and make excuses and blame her.

Bottom line: it's manipulation. She's being jerked around. I read it here or near here: the only thing manipulative people understand is you walking away. She's gotta play a harder game than him.

And this brings her to this question: does she want a guy that plays this way?

Answer: NEXT.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

The answer I gave was with the assumption that they NEVER had sex after the sixth time! I can see playing games and teasing a bit...but to never do it again tells me that something is seriously wrong, either mentallly (he's turned off), or physically (ED).