male and female ok to be friends?

[afc_destroyer]

well
should we even bother to be friends with them?
i mean we can do everything with guys already so why would we need more female friends?/
well in some cases if they help hook us up with other chicks or network us with jobs then its ok right>?? but besides that what good is having female friends>?\

other opinons needed ... im confused because a girl LJBF me and im not sure if i should accept it. i mean i wasnt even sad that she rejected me so should I?

do you guys have female friends and do we really need then as friends?

before this site i had lots of female friends but this site made me kinda ditch them all....

 

[T.T. Boy]

Social proof.

 

[princelydeeds]

some females are very useful. I wont lie the vast majority of my female friends are chicks that hit me with the LJBF in my afc days or are completely unattractive to me. Honestly in some cases it has been a blessing. When I need somethign alot of times they are teh ones who look out for me. Its funny how most of them kinda want me now, but honestly I know so much about them I know it won't ever work. I enjoy having female friends, they always know whats going on and they introduce me to new people.

Friendship is cool as long as they are just friends and in the back of your mind your not looking for more. The social proofing is also great. I have a couple of female friends who are really great looking. A lot of people (guys and girls) think Im their BF. When I come around with out them I get immediate high IL.

Women friends are different from guys especially when she gets a BF you can bet she won't be talking to yuo as often but when he dumps her they will be right back.

 

[FlyGuy]

It depends on the circumstances. Do you need more friends? Do you have any female friends? Do you think she would be friend material or would you rather not be involved with her anymore? Personally I would take 1, maybe 2 female friends since I don't have many right now. Even if you aren't that interested in new friends, they can be good for social proof, constant exposure to women (practice), etc. But if you don't want to then don't. Simple.

 

[Kwah]

Yeah I have a few female friends that I have an idle, would bone if given the opportunity relationship with. But they know this and for some reason seem to get off just knowing it without doing anything about it. So meh.

But they are useful for social proof as was said, as well as little idle things they see that men would never in a million years notice.

 

[princelydeeds]

BTW, friends mean just that, FRIENDS. when we go out, we both pay just as I would with one of my guy friends.

 

[Lionheart]

This is a discussion I have been having with a few friends of mine.

It just depends on what type of person you are, basically I would say that 90% of male and female interactions are for sex, if a man and girl are friends then it is highly likely that one of them has some sort of unrequited feeling for the other. (or believes that the other has some feelings)

I personally don't believe that, I think that it would make us all very selfish!

 

[afc_destroyer]

more ideas please??

wow.. so most guys feel its ok to have female friends/
any positive and negative of having female friends?

 

[Jay26]

Female friends are useful in clubs when you want to attract other hot girls. Doubly so, if you're friends are hot... Women are attracted to an extent to what they see other girls having...

...but this is a bit of a double edged sword...

Let's face it, sooner or later you're going to think about banging one of your hot friends, once that starts it seldoms leads to anything good.

So I don't know, if you can manage to do it go for it, just don't become one of those asexual emotional tampon kind of guys, cos then you'll be like lots of guys coming here going on about being LJBF'ed.

 

[IntermediateDonJuaner]

This is disgusting!

So I want to make it clear right now once and for all.

Is it possible to just be friends with girls? I mean each time when guys ask for their phone numbers, they will immediately think that guys are interested in them.

Didn't they think that it could probably be friendship after all? Isn't this what girls have been doing towards us guys after all these while? Remember " If a girl says, why not you give me your number?" It is a no-no because we know we're down into the flames and if we give it to them, we're just one the suckers she's going to string along.

If being friends is impossible with girls, then why is there such a thing as "Let's just be friends" line. Hmm........

I want an update to this thread!

 

[Don Rageta]

Guys can Definetly be friends with Girls.

Just be sure not to fool yourself
. A woman that is your friend can be a very good friend to have around. its always good to bounce ideas off of them that you can't off your boys, a womans perspective is nice every once in a while.

However, a girl who you had a high IL in and she LJBF'd you, WILL NOT make a good friend.

Often they say lets just be friends because in their sick and twisted mind they think "this chump might kill himself if i tell him i am disgusted with his wussiness, if he thinks we can be friends thats the next best thing".

they reason we would rather have a little tiny eency bit of their attention instead of none at all.

LJBF is their consollation to the loser to afc for their time. We've all had it happen.

These girls make terrible friends who become takers rather than givers.

these girls have a list of guys they LJBF'd that they use for rides to the mall, as cash-boxes, or worse as the dreaded Emotional Tampon they cry to about all the men they don't LJBF.


Don't get me wrong i have a bunch of girls that are just friends but none of them LJBF'd me.

'Male and Female ok to be friends?' Hell yes. just beware of which females.

to afc_destroyer i say you ignore this girl. don't contact her. let her contact you. go get 3#s

 

[afc_destroyer]

alrite

well i dont really think shes all that.. thats why i told her im not looking for anything serious and just wanted some action. so i wouldnt mind if she LJbF me.
well yeah its not a lost. i guess iwe can be friends if they know there is no feelings attached. they have to be a giver or equally paying for themself whening going out but watch out for takers/

i dont see the pt sometime, with guy friends we can do alot more together.

 

[JJMcLure]

Originally posted by Don Rageta
... a girl who you had a high IL in and she LJBF'd you, WILL NOT make a good friend.

Often they say lets just be friends because in their sick and twisted mind they think "this chump might kill himself if i tell him i am disgusted with his wussiness, if he thinks we can be friends thats the next best thing".

they reason we would rather have a little tiny eency bit of their attention instead of none at all.

LJBF is their consollation to the loser to afc for their time. We've all had it happen.

These girls make terrible friends who become takers rather than givers ...

Agree with the above.

But their not only thinking of you, they also have the fact in their mind that if they say "LJBF" you are still there to give THEM attention. They would not want to forfeit that lovely attention just because she never wants to date/fvck you.

 

[nistelrooy]

I think you can be friends, as long as she's a gargoyle.

No, really, I've gotten the LJBF treatment more times than I care to remember, but you know what I've learned? You can never tell when you'll need somebody's help.

I met this chick in college...got interested, but she wasn't and she let me know. The thing is I've known her for so long, so it got me thinking: should i just cut off all contact with her or remain friends?

I know I sound like a wuss but I stuck to the friendship thing. Perhaps I was a tad guilty of wanting to hang around and waiting for things to develop (nothing did, BTW), BUT..that was one of the best decisions i made for purely non romantic reasons.

She happened to be a real brainy in class..so I got her to save me all her notes..asked her bout certain topics which stupifyed me..got her to help me catch up on the classes i missed..and when my car broke down and had to be at the mechanic's for over a week..i got her to frigging drive me to class and back the whole time.

Maybe she felt guilty or sumting..but whatever it was, it sure as hell worked for me. I guess it depends on the circumstances. Think hard about how the girl can be useful to you, even if she doesn't want to bang your brains out, and don't be too hasty to burn your bridges.