Making friends like a gay guy.

[Bvbidd]

A lot of guys on this site talk about avoiding friendships and NEXTing the second you have any doubt.

But one of the best things you can do to start understanding is making friends with girls on a regular basis. You get to understand their just people too with a few differences. For the guys who have trouble just talking to girls, this is something you should do BEFORE you try dating any. Pretend your gay and find out how boring chicks really are.

Who agrees?

 

[KontrollerX]

Sure it can help to get used to talking to women but ya should make sure none of the women you make friends with are people you could become interested in later because once you are in the friendzone only a miracle will get you out.

That or become friends with them the way Str8up does it to where they look at you as both a friend and a potential f-buddy down the road.

 

[Someone Much cooler]

ummm kinda, but i try and get them a little bit interested. I think in the first few moments you approach a woman, she has already decided tho. I cold approach a whole lot. When i approach i try to be kind, suave and funny, even if in the friend zone, you can pull out later. =) i kinda agree wit you tho

 

[Bvbidd]

Most girls I know have regular sexual experiences with their girlfriends. And they are in the friendzone with each other, so you can always use the same premise and become a F-Buddy.

Being stuck in the friendzone can sometimes be better then being some random guy she can get over and move on at any point.

 

[Maxtro]

I've thought about this issue alot. But then I get stuck because I don't know how to make friends with girls, period. I can chat with a girl a lot during class but then once class ends it's see you.

But that is probably what everybody is like in Jr.College. Nobody wants to make friends.

 

[tigerstyle]

I think having girl "friends" is a good idea. In fact, I have quite a few of them. There are plenty of benefits that most guys overlook, and I think it is absurd to avoid having girl "friends."

Firstly, they can give you good advice on stuff. Need a gift idea for that LTR? Ask your girl friends, not your buddies (trust me). Refreshing your wardrobe? Girl "friends" will let you know what looks good on you and what doesn't, if you ask. Even if you don't ask! Case in point: I'm generally a t-shirt and jeans kind of guy, but I recently bought a nice fitted shirt and wore it the other day. No less than ALL of my girl friends commented on how good it looked; girls who don't know you will not do this.

Also, it's kind of nice to hang out with girls once in a while, completely relaxed and not worrying about approaching or game. It's a nice recharge when all you've been doing is approaching and playing video games with your buddies.

And finally, a super good reason to have girl "friends," is their CIRCLE of girl "friends." Since you are not a complete stranger, they will be inclined to introduce you to their friends -- and if you happen to be a really cool dude and a good friend (not in an AFC way, but just a genuinely good guy), they will also try to hook you up with their friends, and half of your work is done for you.

So yeah, I think it's a good idea to have girl friends.

 

[sexybeast]

I dont agree with the reasons you give to have female freinds. However, I do think having female freinds can come in very handy for social proof because its VERY powerful for pulling. You dont even need much game if you have high social proof, you will be pre-se;ected before you even open your mouth.

Other than that I really think its a BIG waste of time.

 

[Maxtro]

So how do you do it? Making friends with them, without them thinking you're hitting on them? Which is what I really want to do...

In all honesty it seems really pathetic settling on being her friend. Ugh, my mind is so screwed up when it comes to girls...

I have had a few chick friends in my lifetime, none of them were close friends with me and in all honesty I wanted to screw them all and of course that never happened.

 

[TonyWongButOhSoRite]

What are you smokeing man. Pretend you're gay? What happens when you wanna bang these chicks? You just say you just realised your not gay. I know you can move and try some other girls but that sh!t would get about. Just make friends with em. Leave the leather pants for the real bum boys.

 

[reset]

Real friendship with a girl that you are attracted to is impossible. Any time there is sexual desire, it's not "friends" even if that's the word you use.

Like when the girl is your friend but you aren't interested in her, she's probably interested in you.

Many AFC's have had plenty of friends that are girls... mostly girls they want to sleep with. The scary thing is saying no to that type of relationship and having men friends to be actual friends with, and let the women be friends with each other.

Not to say you can't be friendly aquaintances, that's great. But genuine friendship with a girl, I don't see it as possible. One of the two is almost always interested in the other.

 

[Bvbidd]

Well of course I wanna fvck em and they know very well, lol that goes without saying.

I'm saying if you want to learn more about women in general becoming a close friend with a girl will help you. When I say pretend to be gay, I mean basicaly become one of their girlfriends in order to understand chick logic. Then you got the social proof.

A guy who only has guy friends is hurting is chances.

 

[tigerstyle]

Wow...

You dont even need much game if you have high social proof, you will be pre-se;ected before you even open your mouth.

Other than that I really think its a BIG waste of time.

I certainly agree with you about the social proof. I don't think it is "quite" as strong as you make it out to be, but it definitely helps.

So how do you do it? Making friends with them, without them thinking you're hitting on them? Which is what I really want to do...

This isn't possible. As someone already mentioned, you can only have one or the other, not both. You either want the friendship, or the poon. If you try to be their friend but have ulterior motives, you'll either be found out or get stuck in LJBF land. It's pretty simple. If you want to be her friend, then be friendly and don't "pursue" her. If you want to shag her, then pursue who and drop the facade.

In all honesty it seems really pathetic settling on being her friend. Ugh, my mind is so screwed up when it comes to girls...

To each his own, I guess. If you only have guy friends and you aren't getting any tail from your approaches, then you might as well be gay.

Based off of the responses, I guess it all really comes down to what your definition of "friends" is. It's definitely possible to be friends with a woman without being an AFC (it's just more common for an AFC to have woman friends; we've all been there or are there).

I know I don't want to bang 'every' girl I meet. If they are still interesting, then maybe they are friend material.

 

[The Sperminator]

To be honest I've never really met a girl that I only wanted to be friends with. Like good friends with. Having girls as friends is too much work. All they do is complain to you about everything in their lives. If I actually do get a long with her and have a lot in common I'll probably end up liking her more than friends. So basically I just date girls only. I don't make friends with them. I know a lot of girls but I really only hang out with the guys. I hang out with guys and date girls. Theres no point in having a girl as a friend besides using her to get to another girls. Not only that but when I have a gf they don't like me hanging around other girls so that causes problems too. Not saying that girls can't make good friends I've just yet to see a girl worth being good friends with and not wanting to date them.

 

[comic_relief]

I have a lot of girls that are my "friends" but I keep the conversations sexually stressed and have yet to fall in the friendszone with many of my friends.

That or become friends with them the way Str8up does it to where they look at you as both a friend and a potential f-buddy down the road.

Str8up's method works. I use it all the time...

Plus, I am in a relationship and the girls are just lining up in front of me for a chance to go out with me.

comic_relief

 

[Someone Much cooler]

female friends is a default for me. I have a few, like lets say chicks my homeboys used to talk 2 that i can't get at! I use them to network when I can