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I just found this site accidentally not too long ago and it has helped me more than any pathetic self help book ever has or ever could.

What I am writing here is to help any nice guys out there understand why confidence does make a difference.

Have any of you nice guys out there shockingly lucked out and got a gf even though you werent being confident? Odds are that she felt pity for you or used you as her back up bf. Either way she still dated you right? (until she found someone better to replace ya of course)

Now while she was dating you of course you started too feel alot better and your self and your confidence level risen. Almost immediately you notice that a few other women start showing interest in you and you start getting perplexxed wondering why now...why couldnt they of shown interest in you a few months ago when you were crying yourself to sleep cuz you were single?

REASONS WHY
1) you are feelin confident about yourself (odds are it would only be because you have a gf)

2) you dont feel you need a woman (again cuz you have one, sadly which shouldnt be the reason)

3) your all negative attitude is lifting being replaced by happiness and of course cuz your a nice guy you are probably love struck to by now (and again GUESS WHY!!! thats right...you got it all because of her)

Now what does that show except that you are dependant on her. Course soon enough you will start worrying yourself sick wondering if she loves ya or not. So then you will flood her with gifts, phone calls and always do things the way she wants ya to do them....hell you might as well just put a leash around your neck and get on all fours.

Soon enough you will scare her away or just wierd her out. Making her run away like theres no tomorrow. Being the nice guy yuo are you will be wondering what the heck you did to make her dump you, you treated her like a queen and stiill she dumped you.

Of course as soon as she dumped ya you started crying like a little baby and all your happiness left your body in less than a second making you the old depressed lonely AFC you used to be. Of course that just draws all those women who had any interest in you away.

So what i say to any nice guys out there. Toy with your subconcious and make yourself act as if you have a gf even though you dont. Your imaginary gf will keep you inline.

Are you shy? if so do stuff that would make your skin crawl cuz you are so shy (nothing that wuold make ya look idiotic though) Talk to 2 woman at a time, Feel the shyness, concentrate on the pain it gives you and DO NOT let it get to the best of you.

please respond to this and tell me what you think
 

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You have made some excellent points. I found this site accidently too, earlier this year. It has helped me greatly, I think the reason why the advice here is so true is because it's written by people who are out there experiencing it for real rather than some author who's just trying to make money.
I can now look back at my past relationships and lack of success with girls and realise fully what I did wrong. At the time I had no idea, but this site has enlightened me.
I think the best thing to do when thinking of your mistakes from the past is to think to yourself 'ok, what did I do wrong there', then 'ok, what would I do in that situation now that I know the DJ concepts'. This way you will learn from your mistakes rather than tear yourself up, and in the fuure you can do things the 'right' way.

[This message has been edited by Guitar_Whizz (edited 10-17-2002).]
 
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