Make a shy girl to open up

zorg198

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Hello,

The women i am dating is very shy , i do kino with her... i hug her , kiss her , holding hands and all this crap. the question is i want to initiate more kissing with her and make her open up.

The question is , how???
 

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If you are doing these things with her, she has to be somewhat open to you or else she would shove you off her when you did it. :confused:

You should include more information on how she is shy, because on the other hand, it could be that her interest in you is low and she is using you to kill boredom...
 

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Fly By Night said:
If you are doing these things with her, she has to be somewhat open to you or else she would shove you off her when you did it. :confused:

You should include more information on how she is shy, because on the other hand, it could be that her interest in you is low and she is using you to kill boredom...

What i mean by shy is that she is not initiating any contact on her own , if i am doing Kino she has no problem and she is willing to do that like: kissing and so on...

I mean , if i give her a complements she smiles and get red :confused:
 

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Girls aren't supposed to initiate. Be a man and do whatever you want, take what you want, you're at the top of the food chain. A girl has to be VERY comfortable as well as a freak to initiate sh!t. I used to have a girl that would come over play with my whole body to get my c0ck hard, but I still had to whip it out and put it in her mouth. A girl WANTS to be told what to do, a girl WANTS a leader.

Do whatever you want until she stops you...she probably won't

Leading turns chicks on. Having to lead turns them off.

Also, she prob doesn't want you to think she's a slut. When she gets comfortable with you, like after you've banged her a few times. You can start discussing fantasies, like blowing your load on her face, having her ask you to do all the dirty things you already want to do her to her, and for her to be aggressive.
 

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Take her to your place, start out relaxed watching a movie or something in the living room. Within 10 minutes, get up, walk into your room. Come back out a minute later and ask her to come take a look at something (could be anything, new curtains work well for me). When she walks in, pick her up & toss her on your bed.

You'll have to do the rest.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I Just finished talking with her and its looks like its was ended before it was started, she explained she never had a man who is mature and blah blah...

She said most of the guys she dated they were *******s and never call her and they say something and do something else , and i come and she is confused. i told her i will respect her decision whatever it will be.

she said thank you for not freaking out ...:confused:
 

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AFAICT, Shy girls are like this around guys they don't like.

You'll have to take the lead, which you should be doing anyway.

If a woman keeps being shy, she's not really interested.

I need more info to issue a verdict.
 

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zorg198 said:
I Just finished talking with her and its looks like its was ended before it was started, she explained she never had a man who is mature and blah blah...

She said most of the guys she dated they were *******s and never call her and they say something and do something else , and i come and she is confused. i told her i will respect her decision whatever it will be.

she said thank you for not freaking out ...:confused:
So yeah it sounds Flybynight was right. She wasn't shy you just weren't turning her on. And just like Young Jaun said a leader turns chicks on. A follower turns them off.

Lesson learned?
 

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nismo-4 said:
AFAICT, Shy girls are like this around guys they don't like.

You'll have to take the lead, which you should be doing anyway.

If a woman keeps being shy, she's not really interested.

I need more info to issue a verdict.

what info you need?
 

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zorg198 said:
what info you need?
Actually, none here. Read the above post And GhengisT's for your answer.

Also, remember to lead. Always. Alphas lead, Betas follow. :yes:
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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nismo-4 said:
Actually, none here. Read the above post And GhengisT's for your answer.

Also, remember to lead. Always. Alphas lead, Betas follow. :yes:

Ok , nothing else to do is to move on and learn from my mistakes and improve..
 

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Shy girls? meh, dating chaff lol.. I don't get on with shy people in general, I think many such people have little justification for being so.
 

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zorg198 said:
She said most of the guys she dated they were *******s and never call her and they say something and do something else , and i come and she is confused. i told her i will respect her decision whatever it will be.
Every guy is supposed to treat her exactly the same way...no matter what? People have different personalities, look different, talk different, act different. You have to be able to adapt to them and what they offer, to see what you like and what you don't like.
 

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I want to understand what i did wrong, what information you guys think might turn her off?
 
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