major afc right here

[donut dunker]

Ok here's my story about all the women in my life, most of it wasnt good so me opening up like this is kinda hard but here we go.

i liked a couple of girls here and there in elementry school but got rejected everytime i asked one out. there was a girl in my church i like a lot but she never liked me. so i chased what i couldnt have about once a year id asker her out and get turned down (not recommened, ruins self esteem). Even my 10th grade year she was drowning i saved her and she still wouldnt talk to me at all.
My freshman year i met a girl and she was amazing we went out for a month and she dumped me for another guy.

10th grade nothing.

11th i met a girl at my friends graduation party who i liked and she liked me but it fizzled quickly into nothing. then during the summer my ex from 9th broke up with the guy she dumped me forand wanted me but i couldnt tell, so she thought i wasnt interested which i was. she even told me she wanted me to make the first move the next day i saw her and couldn't do it. (I was terribly afraid of her turning away or something)

Now theres was a girl at my new chruch i liked and it seemed like she liked me, but our church went to disney and my friend asked her out for me and she said she was "talking to someone." Ouch rejected in disney world.

The problem is im a goodlooking guy whose nice and is funny. what am i doing worng? Cause now im terribly afraid or girls in general. like i have trouble making eye contact and stuff. and my anxieity takes over making me really unconforable. so any help about what to do right now would be great.

 

[cant think of a user name]

Well the obvious response is to "read the bible", but I'll try to pinpoint some of your problems:

1. You say you're "scared of girls". Why? They are people just like us. Once you start treating them like human beings and not putting them above you, i guarantee you will feel more comfortable interacting with them.

2. Read some posts on confidence. It boosts your mentality and etc... I want you to go out and make eye contact with girls (no, not the stalker stare, but the easy-going, relaxed look that doesnt make you seem like a creep) -- like somebody said "I see you and I know you see me"

3. Read "Kill That Desperation" by Pook. Nothing more needs to be said. Its a shame I dont have a link for that post, try to search for it.... I think its in the bible.

 

[PiHiPlaya]

Hmmm You are a self proclaimed nice guy.... STOP THAT SH*T RIGHT NOW SON!

Start to master neg hits, you need to learn not only that you should never put a girl on a pedestal but also how to knock that girl off of it!

Kino... easier to learn and to master read some Kino posts and get that down pat.

Do the DJ bootcamp... while reading the bible! Nothing will change you more radically than that!

TIP: While reading the bible... don't just read the "Must Read" posts! Read EVERY SINGLE ONE it will make you 100 times better.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Alright, I've read your thread and here's my input:

-stop pu girls from church
-Talk to everyone. Do the bootcamp. I got 39 Hi's and I can just turn confidence on whenever I feel now
-don't call yourself a major afc, you are instantly a rafc once you -realise you're actions and decide to change them
-Don't expect overnite changes (after returning to school renewed from an isolated summer, I was talking to 7s-8s and then a 9 (in everyone elses eyes) sat next to me in class and I was sweating and overanalysing everything, Towards the end of the lesson I thought ot myself... "I don't even like this chick, stop being a beyatch, sh'e no different from anyone else," and instantly I loosened up. So you gain skill through experience. After reading this site for a coupe months this is the first time a 9+ chick sat next to me by choice and next time I will know how to handle it. Only by my experience did I learn, not by reading someone elses


Trust everyone when they tell you though, the bible is were the good info is at, if you want to learn read the bible and use the tatics IN REAL LIFE

 

[donut dunker]

thanks for the insight. i'll try to read the bible and gain some confidense. hopefully i'llget to overcome this shyness i have, even if it takes baby steps i'll get there.