Sorry, but some of you guys have to be exaggerating. Although I can't check the numbers and will give you that, there are some huge assumptions being made here... will address them in a sec
I have been doing fine on OkCupid. I am not a model. I never considered myself photogenic and people actually tell me I look better when they see me in person. I'm in shape and toned/cut, but by no means buff (think in good soccer shape). I have a decent/above average cubical job and just slightly above average height (but under 6'0")
I'm incredibly picky with who I message and I still manage to get dates. Like out of 30 girls, I will only message 2-3, none of that mass e-mailing bs. If you are messaging hundreds of girls just to get a response something has to be wrong. That also probably means you are messaging a ton of low quality girls too. Because I am picky I do have to wait a bit, but despite that I manage to get 2-3 dates a month. My first message is 7 words long. I never have to type something to try to stand-out and be ****y, funny, *******, etc. and I never say stupid **** like "hey waz up" "hey sexy" "lets fuk" etc. We usually just talk about interests and stuff, and in about four or five days I ask for the number and arrange a place to meet.
Now I have even asked some of my dates, not really asked but mentioned "you must get a lot of people messaging you on the site", to which sometimes I will hear the response "it's not as much as you think". OK, no way for me to know if that's the truth. But even then, when I am browsing on the site. I will click on profiles that interest me. A lot of times, almost 40-50% of the time, the girl will within the next day check out my profile, WITHOUT ME EVEN SENDING A MESSAGE. If your assumptions are true, then these girls being constantly bombarded probably don't even have the time to check out a profile of someone who didn't even message them... right? Because I will show up on the profile view sidebar and disappear in minutes. Yet that doesn't happen. So something is not right with what I'm hearing. Either you guys are really screwing up or you're exaggerating, or both. Or you just live in a city where there are 10 guys for every 1 girl... who knows
Last month, I got a date with a gorgeous half-brazilian model... online dating isn't dead. It's actually growing with the integration of mobile technology. It's being more accepted. Quit whining.
And if you must know, my profile pic is a lousy shirtless pic taken in my bathroom of all places.