Lunch approach

[The Evil Mr.Sandman]

hey ,

Tommrow I'm gona do something I don't do often , we have 35 minute lunches and there is a table with about 3-5 freshman girls
and another table with 3 girls 1 freshman 2 sophmores , And I'm just gona go over and talk to them and stuff , by my self but can't think of a good ice breaker or topic .They do not know me and I do not know them.So can I have some tips or good ice breakers/topics to fit it there and which table would be better.

I'm a sophmore, 16 , good shape , kinda a over achiever.

Not afraid , just dunno what to say , don't have much experience with relationships and stuff. thanks

 

[LikRetsam]

Stop thinking, just go over there and say "This food tastes like ****"

 

[blienk]

Hate to say this, but you should really just read the bible.

 

[The Evil Mr.Sandman]

wow, loads of info there. Suprised he was not selling this instead of it being free , It's like a slow walk though the human mind. Anyways I'll just post back and tell how it went .thx

 

[Matlm]

If you need to plan what to say then do it.

However, you want to eventually get to the point where you don't have to plan, where you just flow. Thats where you want to be at. You said your an over-achiever. Same here. 1580 SATs, Ivy League.

Those things you wanna think about and plan. Your personal acheivements, think about as much as possible.

Girls, think about as little as possible. That is the secret.

Once your detached, then its safe to start thinking about how girls work and what not, it becomes just like any other hobby or acheivement. However, until you get to this point, just kind of be like Stifler to some extent. Try not to give a ****.

Eventually, you want to become more like Finch.

But for now, this is what I would do.

Completely forget about any attraction you have to these girls. Pertend that you have known them all your life and that they are just old friends. This will help you approach them warm and friendly.

You cannot be self-concious! Remember, it is about the girl and ensuring that she is having a good time with you. The more you think about yourself, the less your focusing on the moment, and the less able you are to dedicate yourself to being fun.

Look, I'm not going to bull**** you. You might not be able to talk to them at this time. You might not be ready. It's cool. Just be mindful of the fact that you are changing, and you one day will be able to just "flow" with girls.

 

[TheMinistered]

I recommend holding your balls in your hands, and just jump in the pot!

Basically, just go up and say hey, do you guys mind if I sit here and chat with ya for a bit? If they say yes, you are obviously in and keep this in mind, women love to have company (Specially when the company is a MAN!). Just chat with them like normal, and keep things funny.

If they say no, then they are obviously little uptight *****es who DON'T DISERVE YOUR TIME. From now on, if they say hey just give them a little wave and blow them off.

 

[Supero Masculus]

I would recomend that you just go for it. It comes off much more natural if you think of things off the top of your head instead of things that you "think" will be interesting.

Another thing to think about is to make freinds with one of the chicks outside of lunch and then during lunch talk to her and include some of the others around you. The girls will be interested by you and will be the ones comming on to you. I tried this the other day and it works like a charm.

 

[JSH]

Go up and say hi, and look like you are interested/have nothing better to do, not just going to them because you have been ditcehd by your mates. Try and go with the flow but to ice break say somethin about how cool it is too meet new friends etc.

 

[adam22]

im having this same problem. im a senior and there are all these hot sophs that sit right near me in lunch but its weird to just go up to them. u think it would be easy to talk if i just went up to them and said " whats up"?

 

[Supero Masculus]

Originally posted by adam22
im having this same problem. im a senior and there are all these hot sophs that sit right near me in lunch but its weird to just go up to them. u think it would be easy to talk if i just went up to them and said " whats up"?

Yes it would be weird and they would probably be like, "who to f**** is this loser?" but if you just go with it and be confident and go on like its all good, then they will warm up to you with a little time. although i would highly recomend social proof. get to know one of the chicks and just start talking ot her, the others will take notice. This is one area where i know my stuff, girls are interested in guys who aren't afraid of approach.