LTR help needed...

[shock]

Well it's not so much the relationship that needs help here... I guess I need to know what I want and really quick.

Me and my girl have been togeather for 1 year and 4 months. it has been fun, had its up and downs etc etc..

I started to re-examine my feelings for her. I realized that we are totally different people. We both see things in different ways, and I feel I could be happier. But I also don't know if I want to lose her.. Could I just be insecure? Not neccessarily to be able to get other girls, but be able to find something like that again. She is a very special girl. Kinda hearted, hella smart, pretty.....etc etc. But I guess i want a girl with a little more of a "bang" some spice... someone who is a little more unpredictable..

It's like that eagle's song, and like line: I've been searching for the daughter of the devil himself, and i've been searching for an angel in white, but I've been waiting for a girl who's a little of both...

I don't know what to do... I need some direction here. I feel like I am missing out on all kinds of stuff out there, and I want to be able to have a chance at some of it..

 

[drixsa]

i will give similar advice i gave before

Think about what you are doing before you do it.

i see a lotta guys "dump" their G-Fs because they are bored and then weeks later to realize that they dont have much else workin for them so they regret doin what they have done.

its not so much that you cannot find another girl its that you cant realize that u had a good thing until it is gone.

yea sometimes its nice to get a feel for the "spicy" chick

but if it were me i'd value having a quality girl in HS, there seem to be so few of them, that when you have one you shouldnt fvck it up just to get laid by a chick that may be a little hotter.

being different is a great thing. if i ever found someone who was that similar to me id be pissed b/c id experience and learn less.

i think that its pretty cool that this girl is different then most of the "chicken-heads" that HS has too offer.

the truth is that you arent missing anything, you are getting more but if you dump her for some mirage youll see it, but itll be too late

 

[SomethingCreative]

You definately shouldn't dump her. Maybe talk to her about spicing things up a bit if its getting boring, see whats she thinks. I have seen too many times that people end relationships when they REALLY regret doing it, and a year and four months is a long time, you probably have a lot of history together. Unless you have a good reason to, I think it would be a mistake to break up with her. Live and learn though, if you really want to go for it, but dont be surprised if you regret it.

 

[Canadianpimpology]

I think that you don't want to dump her, but you're gettin a little bored of the same ole, same ole. I'm in the exact same position as you...just 9 months for me. What really worked for me and my gf was having some serious talks. You know how you have your casual talks, then there's a whole different level of conversing. By now, you guys should be comfortable to have that higher level of conversation. Use it to your advantage. Whatever you feel needs to get off your chest. However, be careful here. I made the mistake of wording it wrong, and it came off like I really wanted to break up. Make sure you tell her in a nice way and that you don't want to break up, just you want your relationship to get better, not stay the same, because you guys have potential or some corny shyt.

 

[shock]

the thing is we are not in high school. We are both freshmen in college. I see her around once or twice a month, and it makes it really hard.

Over the last year I have seen what else is out there, and I like it. My girl is like a really "good" girl. She doesnt party or drink all that much, she's really smart, and has that kinda smart sense of humor. She sees things totally differently than I do. Like I wanted to get a tattoo and she flipped. She hates them and the way they look, as well as piercings.

I don't consider myself a bad ass but I party and like to have fun....it's illegal half the time, but hey I'm only 18.

The "spicy" girl I speak of is sorta already in my life. She is best boy's friend... I hung out with her a few times, just as friends and I had an awesome time. She is soo fun, and understanding, and unpredictable. About 3 weeks ago, me and my girl broke up over stupid long distance stuff. It was more like a temporary brake and we both knew that. Well I went and hung out witht his girl, we kissed, and basicly started dating for a few weeks. I told her about my whole situation and she understood and what not. Basicly she is still in my life as a friend, and is waiting for me to make a decision.

The girl is great and she seems so interested in my studies, and my hobbies, and everyhting I do. Shes the kind of girl you think really cares about you, becuase of her sincerity.

Anyway, maybe this will help.. I dunno

 

[drixsa]

one a month is too hard for me

but that is just me

chances are that it won't work out

just keep her as a friend if at all possible

 

[misunderstood??]

you're the one who ultimately has to make the decision, just decide what's best for you. Do you want something new and experience what else life has to offer or do you want to take the safe bet and stick with what's stable. Depends if you're a risk taker or not, I suppose.

 

[shock]

this is like the worst possible situation I could be in with two girls... I know that if I go either way I am going to miss the other one, or at least wonder what could have happened. errr

There is no "safe" answer, but my gf is a lot of a safer decision than, this other girl. Does anyone have anything else to say....anything??