Ltr Hb9 On The Fcvking Edge

[omgwtfm8]

My LTR of almost two years is in jeopardy, on the edge. We have planned to meet in 2 days to discuss everything and I am seeking for advice on what to say.

We have had a very successful relationship (we enjoy each other very well, treat each other right, have excellent sex life) and this is was first major fight:

We got into a fight because she had a very nasty attitude before we were getting ready to go out with for my roommates birthday because things weren't planned and she kept firing off questions that I didn't have answers to:
"Where we going tonight?"
"What time are we leaving?"
"Whos going to be there?"

She got pissed because I told her to be ready after work, around 6:00pm to go out. She gets home from work and is ready by 7:00pm and we didn't end up leaving until 9:45pm. she spent 7:00pm - 9:45pm b!tching and complaining about the night and kept asking if I knew anything..

Guys, How many of you have makes serious plans every time you go out to the city for a night of drinking? Not me, or mine.

We finally left and then start to walk, 10 minutes into the walk, she tells me we have to go back to get something, makes her even more made, and is b!otching some more and we weren't getting along at all.

also the past month she has been acting a little obsessive over me (i think because i moved in a ballin' place and she just moved home for her senior year of college). Almost seemed imbalanced.

We get back to my apartment and I tell her, look you shouldn't come out tonight and to go home and relax a little bit, and that I want to be alone and need some time to myself (give me a break please, you've been over here for over half the week)

She didn't take it well at all, cries her eyes out, saying things about how I don't care about her.

We didn't talk for 3 days, deleted me from facebook.

I call her, she instantly cries, explains how she didn't eat, and has been crying her self to sleep everynight. I'm tell her I'm feeling shaky and don't want us to continue like the past 3 days. Then she asks me, "Why did you do it? Why did you break up with me?".

Immediately i release what went wrong. She thought I was ending it for good.

My quick response (probably a bad response, but it came out right when i opened my mouth)
"I was being selfish and don't like to express my feelings towards her at times. I tend to ignore her when she's acting up. and about how I haven't been open to her and its not fair because you tell me everyday how much you love me."

She takes it as an apology and starts to be b!tchy to me saying how much she was hurt.

We plan to meet Friday to talk.

What fvck do i tell her? I got be smooth or she's not going to believe a word I say.

 

[Desdinova]

also the past month she has been acting a little obsessive over me.

Actions speak louder than words. For one of the two months you've been with her, her behavior has been lousy. It's unlikely that it's going to get any better. It sounds like she's showing her true colors.

If I were you, I'd end it. Honestly, do you really want a woman who behaves like this? Do you need to put up with this 5hit all the time? There are women out there who DON'T have these kind of behavior problems. Go find one of those and kick this one to the curb.

 

[Zero123]

Why are you even in a LTR with a HB9? HB9-10 are for fvcking, not a LTR.

That's why you always have plenty of hos on the side. When your HB9 give you lip like that, tell the bytch to go suck a dyck and move call up one of your other hos.

 

[omgwtfm8]

If I were you, I'd end it.

You are correct, this is one of my options. I can tell that I don't want to be with her any more. I might just do that. I have been thinking about how this could be a good time to just end the relationship and move on with myself.

But, the majority of my feelings for her are still at the same level as before the fight. We were very much in love. I just haven't seen her face to face to understand how much emotional trauma I have caused. Can a roller coaster ride up and down like this work out for the better?

I need a list of DOs and DON'Ts for the discussion on Friday.

 

[chrisgoodrich25]

You are correct, this is one of my options. I can tell that I don't want to be with her any more. I might just do that. I have been thinking about how this could be a good time to just end the relationship and move on with myself.

But, the majority of my feelings for her are still at the same level as before the fight. We were very much in love. I just haven't seen her face to face to understand how much emotional trauma I have caused. Can a roller coaster ride up and down like this work out for the better?

I need a list of DOs and DON'Ts for the discussion on Friday.

Look man..if you rally want her to run the realthionship thats fine..just appologise and tell her you won't do it agian..
But since it seems like it was her fault..and most likeley is then tell her you won't put wup with this anylonger and that you will not accept this kinda of behavior..get up and leave her sitting in the resturaunt..with the tab..Think of it as tough love..but either she will come back and do what you say..(keep her) or she won't and you won't have to waste any more time on her an d her shinanigans..

 

[Bible_Belt]

I think she has mild OCD. It is not that uncommon. My own current gf has it to some extent. I definitely recognize the getting upset and firing questions off because there is no immediate plan. She was obsessing about the lack of a plan. That is OCD.

A had an OCD girlfriend before that. Her apartment was spotless; she wouldn't ever let me touch the car radio or remote control; and she had to run into the shower immediately after sex to wash herself out. She was on Paxil for it, and said before the Paxil, she wasn't able to go out because she would have to stay home, organize her sock drawer, and cry. That is severe OCD.

It is the personality disorder that is the root cause of your fighting. On the one hand, it is not really her fault. On the other hand, it is not going away, either. Just understand what you are dealing with.

 

[Jay Dee]

I don't think it's OCD, the OP would have said it was regular behaviour. More likely to be that time of month, or a bit of stress from elsewhere coming up to the forefront, or even things between her and OP were getting a bit stale and she's shook it up a bit.

This will certainly blow over, she took it the wrong way but won't admit it though - hence why she became b1tchy after you apologised. Why worry over one big fight in 2 years - just meet, say don't like to see her acting up and leave it at that.

 

[Joe Stud]

you got her right where you want to be... keeping her on the edge. Thats what "bad boys" do, and the chicks keep coming back for more. IF (and I sress IF) you want to keep her in your stable, its a breeze. Dont coddle her too much, just enough to have sex. Like infants crying in a crib, if you keep coddling them, you train them to continue to whine. in the meantime, make up your mind if you want her. For friday, just be nice to her, liquor her up, and give it to her. then, take it a week at a time.

 

[scrouds]

Yup OCD. I had a chick like that. She could never understand how I could plan a trip and not have solid plans for most of my time. She also needed the tag on the blanket to be in a certain spot.

Quite frankly if she didn't stress about the blanket I probably wouldn't have caught on to her being OCD. I never even thought the whole planning thing was an OCD thing, but totally makes sense.

 

[Desdinova]

I need a list of DOs and DON'Ts for the discussion on Friday.

DO end the relationship
DO stick to your decision
DON'T let her crying sway your decision
DON'T stay longer than you have to
DO leave when there's nothing left for you to say
DO keep it short

 

[Julian]

just call her out and break up with the b1tch

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VQ440xOiyho

 

[vitor]

Never Apoligize. if you still want to date her explain to her that you will not deal with her nagging, *****ing, and being dramatic. In the future just tell her that you like to be spontaneous.

I imagine you two have fun majority of the time doing whatever so explain the pleasure of your company should be good enough.

Stand your ground, be the man,

 

[Cabal]

My honest opinion is this.

When girls start treating your place more like a hotel than your place, and want to spend loads of time with you but be lousy whilst they're doing it, and freak out over where you're going and when...

It probably means they're having an affair. Guilt makes them come to you, wanting to be elsewhere makes them mean to you, and freaking out over where and when you're going and who's going to be there and then going back for something, probably to text people who are in on the secret, it's all red flags man.

She probably deleted you off facebook because **** was going to be all over her wall and status updates.

It's almost text book.

Get out.

Now.

 

[omgwtfm8]

We talked for 4 hours and mutually made up. She hit rock bottom this week, I hit rock bottom. We both lost it this week. Love is powerful.

 

[Julian]

We talked for 4 hours and mutually made up. She hit rock bottom this week, I hit rock bottom. We both lost it this week. Love is powerful.

Love may be powerful. But you are weak. How can she love you when she doesn't even respect you?

You come here with this story asking for help then turn tail like some spineless monkey. GTFO.

 

[Ease]

We talked for 4 hours and mutually made up. She hit rock bottom this week, I hit rock bottom. We both lost it this week. Love is powerful.

In reality, she probably has lost attraction and respect towards you after what happened. She manipulated you and you showed neediness by putting up with it and rewarding her for it (making up).

Im happy for you that you made up, but the mindset that you are in is just gona lead to you being hurt even more if/when she leaves you.

 

[Big_Titties]

True love breaks through the toughest of times and comes out stronger

It sounds like you two do truly love one another

keep trucking mate, love her as she loves you and you will see a brighter day

 

[zekko]

Why are you even in a LTR with a HB9? HB9-10 are for fvcking, not a LTR.

I tend to agree with this. HB9-10s have too much of a sense of entitlement. Plus they get so much male attention eventually they're going to get curious.

 

[Desdinova]

Love is powerful.

I'll be asking Allen yet again to install the puke smiley

 

[Energizer]

We talked for 4 hours and mutually made up. She hit rock bottom this week, I hit rock bottom. We both lost it this week. Love is powerful.

You've let this chick screw you over.

She doesn't love you nor respect you and I doubt you do either, otherwise you wouldn't be on here contemplating breaking up with her and asking for advice.

You don't want to dump her because she is a HB9 and you get regular access to her fadge.

When she screws you over for another man, you'll regret not taking the advice of Des, Ease and Julian.