DonShaun
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Since finding these forums a few years ago I've improved as a person more than I ever imagined. I had my fair share of success and fun with girls over the time. Then I met one girl who was different, we have been together for a year now, and things just feel right. I love her, and feel we have a future together. She kissed another guy once when we were together, and I was able to forgive her as she was very drunk. She hasn't had the best past and we had an abortion, she was always breaking down. But the past few months had been perfect, I had helped her past all her issues, and she is completely in love with me.
The only problem is, the other night I got drunk and ended up staying with another girl. I contemplated not telling her, but this girl had links to my friendship group, and she knows I didn't stay at home. I knew that this would eventually come out, so I told her I kissed the other girl, but ended up staying on her couch, being too drunk to come home. She has been so devestated by this, crying for days and days. I don't know what to do. I love her and want to be with her but I don't think she feels the same way. I have told her she should take some time apart from me, but she wants to spend every moment with me, as she knows when shes apart she hates me.
She thinks I have done alot worse, as I stayed at the girls house, which meant I had hours to realise I had made a mistake, and because things between me and her were perfect. When she cheated she stopped within minutes and things weren't all too great. So she is worried that if when things were great between us I cheated, how can she ever keep me happy. I think she has handled things badly, but I accept I am completely in the wrong here.
Now I think if I keep playing things as they are then we can end up back together. But she says she can never trust me again and that she can never truely forgive me. I'm not sure what to think about this, as I got over her cheating on me, as I'm sure time heals everything. Would getting back into this relationship be doomed from the start, no matter how much I want it to work.
But the main problem is if we do get back together, if it came out that I hadn't stayed on the couch and had been lying to her it would crush her. I've never seen her this bad, but I am everything to her, so it would destroy her if she knew I was lying. She has said she wants to speak to the girl I cheated on her with, and I don't think this girl would lie as she was quite annoyed when she found i had a gf.
So what do people think I should do? I could try and get her back, but potentially have everything come out. This is something I would like to avoid at all costs, as I couldn't hurt her again like that. So my other option is to walk away as things are with her hurt alot but I know she can repair herself from this. If she found out the truth I don't think she ever could. So part of my thinks I should leave things as they are, as much as this would hurt me, as in the long run she will be better off.
I know I've screwed up badly, but if people could give their opinions/experiences on anything similar I'd appreciate it alot. Thanks.
The only problem is, the other night I got drunk and ended up staying with another girl. I contemplated not telling her, but this girl had links to my friendship group, and she knows I didn't stay at home. I knew that this would eventually come out, so I told her I kissed the other girl, but ended up staying on her couch, being too drunk to come home. She has been so devestated by this, crying for days and days. I don't know what to do. I love her and want to be with her but I don't think she feels the same way. I have told her she should take some time apart from me, but she wants to spend every moment with me, as she knows when shes apart she hates me.
She thinks I have done alot worse, as I stayed at the girls house, which meant I had hours to realise I had made a mistake, and because things between me and her were perfect. When she cheated she stopped within minutes and things weren't all too great. So she is worried that if when things were great between us I cheated, how can she ever keep me happy. I think she has handled things badly, but I accept I am completely in the wrong here.
Now I think if I keep playing things as they are then we can end up back together. But she says she can never trust me again and that she can never truely forgive me. I'm not sure what to think about this, as I got over her cheating on me, as I'm sure time heals everything. Would getting back into this relationship be doomed from the start, no matter how much I want it to work.
But the main problem is if we do get back together, if it came out that I hadn't stayed on the couch and had been lying to her it would crush her. I've never seen her this bad, but I am everything to her, so it would destroy her if she knew I was lying. She has said she wants to speak to the girl I cheated on her with, and I don't think this girl would lie as she was quite annoyed when she found i had a gf.
So what do people think I should do? I could try and get her back, but potentially have everything come out. This is something I would like to avoid at all costs, as I couldn't hurt her again like that. So my other option is to walk away as things are with her hurt alot but I know she can repair herself from this. If she found out the truth I don't think she ever could. So part of my thinks I should leave things as they are, as much as this would hurt me, as in the long run she will be better off.
I know I've screwed up badly, but if people could give their opinions/experiences on anything similar I'd appreciate it alot. Thanks.
You love her????? Get your head examined!!! Wake up kid, The Hor Matrix has you!!!
