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Master Don Juan
A don juan should be a lover of women, and it's easy to lose sight of that. Bitterness against the female gender is a coping mechanism to deal with failure. It's normal, and we all do it to some extent. But like most other quick-fix easy cures, it is not a good idea in the long run. Like the proverbial fox with his sour grapes, we assume that women who reject us must be low-quality women. Eventually a lot of women reject us, and then the natural extension of the sour grapes thinking is that most women must be low-quality and undesirable.
The error in this thinking is the assumption that women are either quality or low-quality. This is not the case. All women are both desirable and undesirable, in regard to different sides of them, and all of this changes over the course of their lives as well. You get a mix of good and bad with any woman. When you are rejected by a girl, usually she is showing you her bad side. That is all you see, so it is easy to think that is all she has. But every woman has something to offer. That HB6 that you think you can do better than might cook your meals, clean your house, do your laundry, give a great bl0wjob every night, and never look at another guy. After a few weeks of that, the HB6 will start looking more like a HB8. We get hung up on looks, but in my experience, the hotter a girl is, then the less she will have to offer in other areas. I once dated a HB9 knockout, maybe a ten in some guys' eyes. I was the center of attention in every public place, because every guy was drooling over my girl. But looking pretty was all this girl had going for her. I thought getting her into bed was some great accomplishment, but all she did was lay there and look pretty. She had a handful of AFC exes stalking her, desperate for her affection. They all probably thought she was the perfect woman, but they were only seeing the good side of her.
My point with this is not to tell you to date ugly chicks. My point is that every woman is a package deal. When you get rejected, she will often show you the b!tchy side of the package. That does not make her a b!tch. Most women can be b!tchy to you, and that is easy to accomplish, especially the way that most guys pursue women, but most women being b!tchy to you does not make most women b!tches. View your rejections through that perspective and it will keep you from becoming bitter and hating women.
At different points in my life, I have both loved and hated women. Currently, I love them, and everything is going a lot better. Jaded bitterness is not attractive. I don't mean that I fall "in love" in a sappy afc way, much to the contrary loving all women makes any woman very replaceable. I have become skilled at finding the positive side of any woman and looking past her faults. I'm so good at this, that I think I make it true. I have had more than one girlfriend who began our relationship as a librarian-looking wallflower and left it as a different woman. Any guy who dates an ex of mine has it good; those wallflowers girls are freaks in the bedroom by the time I am done with them. I turned them into what I wanted them to be, because I saw what they could be. I can do all of this today, because I love women. In their eyes, I am a fun, happy, and positive guy because of it. Loving women gets you women. Love them, don't hate them.
The error in this thinking is the assumption that women are either quality or low-quality. This is not the case. All women are both desirable and undesirable, in regard to different sides of them, and all of this changes over the course of their lives as well. You get a mix of good and bad with any woman. When you are rejected by a girl, usually she is showing you her bad side. That is all you see, so it is easy to think that is all she has. But every woman has something to offer. That HB6 that you think you can do better than might cook your meals, clean your house, do your laundry, give a great bl0wjob every night, and never look at another guy. After a few weeks of that, the HB6 will start looking more like a HB8. We get hung up on looks, but in my experience, the hotter a girl is, then the less she will have to offer in other areas. I once dated a HB9 knockout, maybe a ten in some guys' eyes. I was the center of attention in every public place, because every guy was drooling over my girl. But looking pretty was all this girl had going for her. I thought getting her into bed was some great accomplishment, but all she did was lay there and look pretty. She had a handful of AFC exes stalking her, desperate for her affection. They all probably thought she was the perfect woman, but they were only seeing the good side of her.
My point with this is not to tell you to date ugly chicks. My point is that every woman is a package deal. When you get rejected, she will often show you the b!tchy side of the package. That does not make her a b!tch. Most women can be b!tchy to you, and that is easy to accomplish, especially the way that most guys pursue women, but most women being b!tchy to you does not make most women b!tches. View your rejections through that perspective and it will keep you from becoming bitter and hating women.
At different points in my life, I have both loved and hated women. Currently, I love them, and everything is going a lot better. Jaded bitterness is not attractive. I don't mean that I fall "in love" in a sappy afc way, much to the contrary loving all women makes any woman very replaceable. I have become skilled at finding the positive side of any woman and looking past her faults. I'm so good at this, that I think I make it true. I have had more than one girlfriend who began our relationship as a librarian-looking wallflower and left it as a different woman. Any guy who dates an ex of mine has it good; those wallflowers girls are freaks in the bedroom by the time I am done with them. I turned them into what I wanted them to be, because I saw what they could be. I can do all of this today, because I love women. In their eyes, I am a fun, happy, and positive guy because of it. Loving women gets you women. Love them, don't hate them.
