Love notes

[MikeYikes122]

I've never understood why you all knock on love notes? Whenever I write them to girls I'm dating or semi-seeing they eat them up. I guess my notes aren't really the average typical high-schooler love notes. They are more like letters where I just tell the girl how I feel, and I'm pretty damn good at it. "I think about you so much you exist in the blackness I see when I close my eyes everynight to go to sleep." "I can't look into your eyes without wanting to kiss you. I can't stand next to you without having my arm around you." The responses I get from girls are always, for the most part, good. I even once had a girl tell me that I had a valuable skill, and she wishes every guy she was with could just be open with her and tell her about his feelings.

So why do you all shriek whenever someone talks about writing one? Because in my experience, they are extremely good things...

 

[xblitz44x]

Mike,

I don't think there is anything wrong with them either. If a girl likes you, she'll like the love letter. If a girl doesn't like you, she'll be creeped out by it. The reason guys here knock them is because they once wrote a love letter to a girl that didn't like them that much, and when the girl got it she was creeped out. The guy assumed it was because of the love letter and then preached that love letters or bad. Little did he know that the attraction had nothing to do with a letter, and if a guy that she was REALLY into gave her a letter it would have been hanging on her wall..

-Blitz

 

[K56Connect]

You can deny the things you say, but you can never deny what you've written and given to someone. These things can come back to bite you in the a$$ later on.

 

[shyguy208]

So true K56!

I recently found out how AFC some of my friends are! This one guy wrote a letter to a girl that he met. He didn't get a reply and he didn't even tell anyone about it - not even me and I am his best friend! Anyway, it turns out that a female friend from his course turns out to be a very good friend of this girl's. Also my friend already has a gf who lives elsewhere. The friend from the course knows this! Word got back about my friend's letter to this girl and now he is very very stressed about what people may think of him. He is worried that rumours ar going to spread about him being a player n all. To be fair to the guy, he isn't a player as such. He is always on the look out but he doesn't actually pursue them. BUt anyway, the letter is causing him pain!

I say letters are bad in general unless you are already going out with the girl.

 

[MikeYikes122]

Hah Blitz, I never thought of it like that. That explains why this is the only place I've ever heard them knocked on. I posted on a thread the other day about how I wrote a girl I was kind of seeing a really nice letter about how much I liked her. Like nine dudes responded and told me that we needed to discuss my situation.

 

[Quick]

If a girl likes you, and you've been going out for a while, a love letter isn't the kiss of death. Doing it early, or in order to get a girl to like you, won't be effective. Most of the time with letters, it's a guy trying to win a girl or win a girl back with the letter, and that's where you're going to go against your cause.

You also don't want to tell a girl exactly how you feel about her or how much you need her. While she may like it in the short term, that signals the end of challenge. There's nothing left for her to figure out or gestures of affection from you that she's trying to win. Challenge is essential to being a DJ, and a long letter expressing your love just doesn't fit.

In the other thread it wasn't just the letter. If I remember right, it had more to do with the long term pursuit of a girl that had a boyfriend and that often didn't express a lot of affection for you.

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by K56Connect
You can deny the things you say, but you can never deny what you've written and given to someone. These things can come back to bite you in the a$$ later on.

Amen to that. My ex-oneitis saved EVERY freakin' email I ever sent her (which was many). Including many where we would argue over sh!t, where I told her (*barf*) that I was in love with her, and where I pretty much was at the peak of my AFChood.

It freaked me out to the point that I broke into to her email account and deleted all of them (well I didn't exactly "break in" because I knew her password).

It may seem like a great idea now, but in 2 months when the
b!tch rips your heart out of your chest you'll feel like an ass.

 

[davelmn2003]

It's a good point that a letter may come back and bite you in the future if things don't turn out well (and if she's nasty).

However, I think if you know the girl likes you, it's good to use writing to enhance things. I know what you're talking about, Mike. Girls have commented on how well I write, and they often remark how touched they are. Girls like that stuff (and I must confess I love writing it to express myself because I'm better at writing than at talking).

 

[davelmn2003]

BTW, any successful stories with writing love notes to GET a girl??? Would be interested in hearing some of those.

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by davelmn2003
It's a good point that a letter may come back and bite you in the future if things don't turn out well (and if she's nasty).

However, I think if you know the girl likes you, it's good to use writing to enhance things. I know what you're talking about, Mike. Girls have commented on how well I write, and they often remark how touched they are. Girls like that stuff (and I must confess I love writing it to express myself because I'm better at writing than at talking).

It's OK to do some things that might otherwise be considered AFC - ONCE IN AWHILE - SPONTANEOUSLY.

Just make sure you have fully established your DJHood beforehand.

 

[Lone_raider]

I've never written a love letter ever to a girl I was dating! I have been told by my High school and now my college professors that I am a good writer, but I always reserve my writing for topics I'm interested in, and as you may have guessed, fluffy love letters is not one them lol. In fact I have never even considered writing a love letter. One thing that freaks me out is the hard evidence the girl now has, something I could never take back or change. And as others have stated, once all your feelings are out there it appears the challenge game is over. But Blitz also has a point where if the girl really likes you, she will love anything you do, hell flowers or any other cheesy thing may go over at that point. Of course I've never had a girl be 'that' into me so it's yet to be tested.

I highly doubt I'll ever write a love letter, I much prefer alluding to things and using hidden meanings in both writing and conversation. If the girl has to think about what I meant, what I was trying to say, and if it applies to her, then I've accomplished the goal of becoming slightly mysterious and intriguing. I rarely say or write things of an emotional nature directly, it's just not me.

 

[MikeYikes122]

I've pretty much determined that these "love letters" are good things for me at least. Granted I see where you all are coming from, I just think Dave and I must be doing something differently. I'm an English major, so I think that just makes me good at these things. In my letters I'm pretty assertive. "I think you should do this or at least consider this. Otherwise I don't think we can talk anymore because my feelings are too deep." I don't know, that may be a bad example, but I guess you see where I'm coming from. I also think girls admire it because it is a "ballsy" move. And as I stated before, some girls really seem to appreciate that whole thing.

And also, I really just don't give a sh!t. It's pretty hard to hurt my feelings, so obviously I could really care less if I let a girl know how I felt.

And as for success stories I can't really think of specifics. Although, I have had a few more than I have had failures. But as I said before it's just not a big deal to me.

If there is anymore thoughts I guess I would like to hear them....