Socialreject
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This ones for all you naive AFC's out there...
You've all been raised on to many crap movies about "love". This is a myth, something they tell kids so they will stfu and go to sleep! When it comes to male to female intimate relationships, there are only two possible options. Either you're fvcking them, or they' re fvcking you.
The only thing that's keeping you fvcking them, and them not fvcking you, is half respect and more often than not, half selfish motives.
If you lose your woman's respect she will start to diss you. Depending on her character she might just start abusing you for all you're worth. If you talk to much crap without backing it up.. you will lose respect points. If you let her step on your d!ck, you lose respect points. If you let her embarrass you in front of your friends (ie steps on your d!ck in public), you lose respect points. If there is any kind of evidence that you are a mess, emotionally weak, disorganised, indecisive or any other sign that disassociates you with leadership characteristics, you will lose respect points.
And once you've lost enough, you'll have another "friend", or worse you'll have some b!tch taking you up the ass for all she can squeeze out of you.
That's reality... that's the GOOD reality. Cause sometimes, it's worse, sometimes there is insecurity involved and your mrs. perfect is actually operating more out of insecurity and selfish motives than she is out of respect (no it's not love, she will not make sacrifices if she does not respect you and if she does she will OWN you from that point on). If that's the case she is actually holding on to you because in her mind you are soo much better than she is. You have higher social status, you are more wealthy, stronger, more confident, etc... Her fear of losing you is conflicting with her ability to respect you, and you will never get the respect from her that you want. She WILL manipulate you, or at least try to... either consciously, or unknowingly. Self preservation is the most powerful drive that we posses, and insecure persons are threatened 24/7, because of their lack of confidence. You simply can't trust insecure people because they will always put themselves before you, and if they DO make a sacrifice they will expect you to pledge your undying loyalty in exchange because to an insecure person, making a sacrifice is the hugest deal ever.
Kind of like when you confess your love to some chick... they shoot you down, you crawl back under your rock for 5 years.
Consider this... women, in general, ALWAYS go for a man that's superior to them. Men are expected to be leaders, this automatically puts women into a position of followers. Followers don't follow leaders they don't respect, and to respect someone deeply, they must be better than you are. There are plenty of women who want an equal partner, but there is a problem here. Women who are looking for an equal can't live their lives with a dominant (read leader) man because they will always step on your d!ck. They expect for you to have the same kind of respect for them as they do for you. Dominant men do not respect women in the same way as they do men, they do not have the same standards for both genders. Dominant men respect a woman for being a woman and acting like one. They do not respect a woman who steps on their d!ck. And if you're a dominant man then you will never find happiness with a woman who is your equal. She MUST respect you as a man, not a person, but a man.
Now some women are very clever. They are dominant women, yet they know how to treat and handle a man and they know not to step on your d!ck, even though sometimes it's very tempting. But these are a very rare variation of woman. They are confident in every way, they have a clue about genders and they are mostly very successful... yet despite of all that, they have no ego. This is the closest to an "equal" that a dominant man will ever get. IF you want a hot and exciting marriage... marry one of these women!
Love is bullsh!t, there is only respect and confidence. You're either a leader and respected as one... or you're not, end of story.
There is also another fairy tale that's been going around forever. It's called friendship. Now I'm not going to diss friendship, i personally think friendship is sacred, but it still operates under the same principles as "love"... it's all about respect and confidence.
Another man will not be your friend, unless he respects you and if you let your friends step on your d!ck you will lose their respect.
Now there is a lot of talk around here about the alpha male, how to be him, etc. Well let me tell you... being the alpha male around your FRIENDS (i'm not talking some dudes you just met) will accomplish you nothing. If you want to have some wusses follow you around, then go ahead and start amonging your friends. It's a sure fire way to get back stabbed.
There are dominant men, and there are wussies. If you're a dominant man you cannot have respect for wussies, maybe you can pity them, but that's no basis for friendship at all! You can only respect other dominant men.
Now this presents a problem... two dominant men interacting... one tries to dominate the other, nothing good can come from it...
That's not really correct. You can be friends, and close friends, with another dominant man (or alpha male if you will) without amoging them. You simply respect them as alpha's and expect the same from you. Don't step on their d!cks, don't allow them to step on yours. It's a mutual understanding that you have with each other, an agreement if you will. As long as neither of you starts stepping on each others d!cks, you can hang out and be friends.
I see a lot of guys who, when they are out together, are constantly trying to dominate each other. It goes back and forth, back and forth, eventually they all end up looking like a bunch of tards.
Some guy is chatting up a girl, the others will come in and basically ruin it for him, amog the guy, make him look stupid, scare the chick away. This is just stupid. Don't ever EVER step on your friends d!ck in front of a female or another guy. You just don't do this! If you want to go mix into the conversation, then social proof him. Show the person your friend is talking to that you are a cool guy BUT also boost up your friend!!
It's fine to bust on your friends, just make sure they can take it... make sure their confidence is in order (and it should be, because you should respect/be able to respect them). This also goes the other way... if you feel like you are being amoged by your friends, they might not have the proper respect for you, or it may be due to insecurities you have. Reflect on it and determine the cause!
If you must discuss something with a friend in terms of trying to teach him something, then do so in private and then encourage them! Don't talk down, don't put yourself above them. Talk to them like they already know what you're saying...
Don't allow your friends to amog you... ever. This is unacceptable! It's all in the little things. Don't let them ignore you when you're talking or interrupt you all the time. Don't let them stand in front of you with their back turned. Don't let them step on your d!ck in front of others.
Confident men know how to deal with each other and don't break each others moods. This is friendship in it's truest sense! AFC just hang around talking about their problems, trying to gain something over the other guy, trying to dominate each other, etc... this is bull.
Just ask yourself. Would you rather lead an army of wussies, or have a couple of really cool alpha's social proofing you when you're out?!
You've all been raised on to many crap movies about "love". This is a myth, something they tell kids so they will stfu and go to sleep! When it comes to male to female intimate relationships, there are only two possible options. Either you're fvcking them, or they' re fvcking you.
The only thing that's keeping you fvcking them, and them not fvcking you, is half respect and more often than not, half selfish motives.
If you lose your woman's respect she will start to diss you. Depending on her character she might just start abusing you for all you're worth. If you talk to much crap without backing it up.. you will lose respect points. If you let her step on your d!ck, you lose respect points. If you let her embarrass you in front of your friends (ie steps on your d!ck in public), you lose respect points. If there is any kind of evidence that you are a mess, emotionally weak, disorganised, indecisive or any other sign that disassociates you with leadership characteristics, you will lose respect points.
And once you've lost enough, you'll have another "friend", or worse you'll have some b!tch taking you up the ass for all she can squeeze out of you.
That's reality... that's the GOOD reality. Cause sometimes, it's worse, sometimes there is insecurity involved and your mrs. perfect is actually operating more out of insecurity and selfish motives than she is out of respect (no it's not love, she will not make sacrifices if she does not respect you and if she does she will OWN you from that point on). If that's the case she is actually holding on to you because in her mind you are soo much better than she is. You have higher social status, you are more wealthy, stronger, more confident, etc... Her fear of losing you is conflicting with her ability to respect you, and you will never get the respect from her that you want. She WILL manipulate you, or at least try to... either consciously, or unknowingly. Self preservation is the most powerful drive that we posses, and insecure persons are threatened 24/7, because of their lack of confidence. You simply can't trust insecure people because they will always put themselves before you, and if they DO make a sacrifice they will expect you to pledge your undying loyalty in exchange because to an insecure person, making a sacrifice is the hugest deal ever.
Kind of like when you confess your love to some chick... they shoot you down, you crawl back under your rock for 5 years.
Consider this... women, in general, ALWAYS go for a man that's superior to them. Men are expected to be leaders, this automatically puts women into a position of followers. Followers don't follow leaders they don't respect, and to respect someone deeply, they must be better than you are. There are plenty of women who want an equal partner, but there is a problem here. Women who are looking for an equal can't live their lives with a dominant (read leader) man because they will always step on your d!ck. They expect for you to have the same kind of respect for them as they do for you. Dominant men do not respect women in the same way as they do men, they do not have the same standards for both genders. Dominant men respect a woman for being a woman and acting like one. They do not respect a woman who steps on their d!ck. And if you're a dominant man then you will never find happiness with a woman who is your equal. She MUST respect you as a man, not a person, but a man.
Now some women are very clever. They are dominant women, yet they know how to treat and handle a man and they know not to step on your d!ck, even though sometimes it's very tempting. But these are a very rare variation of woman. They are confident in every way, they have a clue about genders and they are mostly very successful... yet despite of all that, they have no ego. This is the closest to an "equal" that a dominant man will ever get. IF you want a hot and exciting marriage... marry one of these women!
Love is bullsh!t, there is only respect and confidence. You're either a leader and respected as one... or you're not, end of story.
There is also another fairy tale that's been going around forever. It's called friendship. Now I'm not going to diss friendship, i personally think friendship is sacred, but it still operates under the same principles as "love"... it's all about respect and confidence.
Another man will not be your friend, unless he respects you and if you let your friends step on your d!ck you will lose their respect.
Now there is a lot of talk around here about the alpha male, how to be him, etc. Well let me tell you... being the alpha male around your FRIENDS (i'm not talking some dudes you just met) will accomplish you nothing. If you want to have some wusses follow you around, then go ahead and start amonging your friends. It's a sure fire way to get back stabbed.
There are dominant men, and there are wussies. If you're a dominant man you cannot have respect for wussies, maybe you can pity them, but that's no basis for friendship at all! You can only respect other dominant men.
Now this presents a problem... two dominant men interacting... one tries to dominate the other, nothing good can come from it...
That's not really correct. You can be friends, and close friends, with another dominant man (or alpha male if you will) without amoging them. You simply respect them as alpha's and expect the same from you. Don't step on their d!cks, don't allow them to step on yours. It's a mutual understanding that you have with each other, an agreement if you will. As long as neither of you starts stepping on each others d!cks, you can hang out and be friends.
I see a lot of guys who, when they are out together, are constantly trying to dominate each other. It goes back and forth, back and forth, eventually they all end up looking like a bunch of tards.
Some guy is chatting up a girl, the others will come in and basically ruin it for him, amog the guy, make him look stupid, scare the chick away. This is just stupid. Don't ever EVER step on your friends d!ck in front of a female or another guy. You just don't do this! If you want to go mix into the conversation, then social proof him. Show the person your friend is talking to that you are a cool guy BUT also boost up your friend!!
It's fine to bust on your friends, just make sure they can take it... make sure their confidence is in order (and it should be, because you should respect/be able to respect them). This also goes the other way... if you feel like you are being amoged by your friends, they might not have the proper respect for you, or it may be due to insecurities you have. Reflect on it and determine the cause!
If you must discuss something with a friend in terms of trying to teach him something, then do so in private and then encourage them! Don't talk down, don't put yourself above them. Talk to them like they already know what you're saying...
Don't allow your friends to amog you... ever. This is unacceptable! It's all in the little things. Don't let them ignore you when you're talking or interrupt you all the time. Don't let them stand in front of you with their back turned. Don't let them step on your d!ck in front of others.
Confident men know how to deal with each other and don't break each others moods. This is friendship in it's truest sense! AFC just hang around talking about their problems, trying to gain something over the other guy, trying to dominate each other, etc... this is bull.
Just ask yourself. Would you rather lead an army of wussies, or have a couple of really cool alpha's social proofing you when you're out?!