Lost interest in women

[BeDJ]

I was at a meetup group this past week and was the center of attention out of 20 people. The guys seemed so hard on hitting on the girls, but I was there to tease, have fun and a good time. 3 good looking chicks gave me their number, but I never followed up with them.

I have not been on a date for almost a month and currently have no plates. For the most part, I have been working out, focused on making money and advancing my career. I have very little desire anymore of take a girl out on a date. In previous dates, I've noticed that I have treated them all the same, like a record playing over and over. What do I offer them? Good times, that's it. Their personalities are the exact copy of my actions during the date. None of them have stood out, even if if it's the first date or fifth. They all fall under the same mold.

I don't know what I am looking for. Sure i can turn one of them into my GF, but I have no desire to. I'm beginning to accept the reality that I will be fine without a woman by my side. I may have already accepted it, knowing that they mean very little to me right now.

When I rejoined this site a year ago, I was seeking intimacy. I'm not the same person anymore. Is it the - Men going their own way mindset? I don't know. It's not frustration, just a complete lack of interest. I would much rather continue a book or join a professionals meetup than a date. I would not care if I don't lay another chick in 2013. Or 2014.

Maybe this is the aftermath of the red pill, being too unplugged. I've browsed the new topics on SS, the ones that I would have posted a reply to are no longer interesting. It's pretty much cyclical and repetitive, just like dating women.

I wish I can tell you it might be a phase, but I am perfectly happy (right now) if this is the mindset I permanently have.

 

[( . )( . )]

I don't know what I am looking for. Sure i can turn one of them into my GF, but I have no desire to. I'm beginning to accept the reality that I will be fine without a woman by my side. I may have already accepted it, knowing that they mean very little to me right now.

Nothing to be sad over, that's the TV talking. Plenty of men have opted out of LTR's, favouring ONS's, working girls and possibly the odd pre-clingy FB now and then to take the edge off so they can go back to a life of focusing on themselves. It's simply just the blowback of feral hypergamy and the diminished rewards for settling.

To be honest I'm a little envious of these men and going by the rates of it's growth so are a lot of other men, more power to you I say. Self realization of this magnitude should be happy and exciting times in my opinion.

 

[LiveFreeX]

http://v.youku.com/v_show/id_XNDkyMDI5NDg4.html <-- Really? Not having one of these by your side?

Don't accept that you wont have a woman, thats retarded... just go in search of better quality.

 

[WoodB]

As an older fellow who has made a "few mistakes" in my travels, allow me to give you some pointers. At your age, I went through the same thing, and it was mostly because I simply did not meet a woman who inspired me to pursue her. You must further your career, yes. Stay in shape. Do things that you truly enjoy. Take good care of people who love you. You will be meeting all kinds of women as you live your life. And as you live your life according to your principles and what is your chosen path, you will meet good women and some not so good. Choose carefully, but by all means, do not become cynical.

 

[BeDJ]

Rambling.

 

[Partizan]

What type of meetup did you go to that had all these single women?

 

[BeDJ]

What type of meetup did you go to that had all these single women?

This one was a happy hour event in a general group. If they are on meetup.com and show up to happy hour alone, you can assume they are single or looking for an upgrade. It's like online dating in real life.

Make a good impression with everyone, male, female, young, old to establish social proof. You will notice at meetups, people are as shy as you are. They tend to stick comfortably within their home base. Convey yourself as positive, adventurous, and free spirited who takes nothing seriously. I usually go o to events after work and dress pretty spiffy. They would ask me if I just got out of work, I would normally respond that I just woke up and haven't changed yet. Be extremely playful with the women and build good rapport with the guys.

What you will notice is that there are people in islands, all guys, all girls or 5 guys to 1 girl. I normally talk to the group of guys first, develop some social confidence and talk to a group of women. If you feel that a chick is giving you a good vibe, ignore her and talk to others int he group. Sometimes, I would introduce a guy to a group of women I've been talking to and tell the women they have to meet him. I banter and excuse myself a few minutes later. Most of the time, the guy is dull and the group of girls are dying for me to come back. Wingman bait.

I then isolate a couple of girls from the group. Perfect timing is when their drink is low, simply say, I'm grabbing another drink, you should come with me. Chit chat at the bar and number close. Find something interesting in the area, tell her to check it out and number close. Be a sniper, disappear and reappear in groups and take out your targets one by one.

Meetup is real world online dating. You can safely assume they are single and looking if they come alone. Most guys on there aren't very social or confident enough to approach women. With a little game, you'll have quite a number collection.

 

[sodbuster]

I went through that right after the divorce. It fades, but never goes away totally.

 

[tryst type]

Man I've been feeling the same way. I don't know what my deal is, just no interest.

If I hang out with a chick once, that's fine and I feel my mojo moving and I'm funny, etc. But if I see the same chick twice or more I'm so disconnected and feel regret for even being there. My energy drops and I feel like I'm at a ****ty job and end up cutting the interaction early.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Consider spending at least an hour or two a week keeping your skills sharp.

One thing that might be possible, in your current mind set is you focus on your career, health, etc, and let your skills get rusty.

Then you'll see a women that really spins your propeller, and you'll be completely out of shape, so to speak.

Until you meet a woman who satisfies your criteria (which means you've got to have some criteria) just use all the girls you're meeting as just practice.

Kind of like a fighter who stays in fighting shape even though there're no fights on the horizon.

Might not be fun, but going to the gym ain't much of a thrill either, but being in shape sure is.

 

[Jitterbug]

All sportsmen must have offseason, else their CNS gets fried and they go nuts or get depressed. Same with c0cksmen. Too many women in our lives can be rather toxic, even the ancients across many cultures warned us about it.

As said, keep your skills sharp (i.e offseason training) else you'll be very rusty when you need them again.

I'm only a few years older than you but every now and then I go through something similar. Right now I'm in the same boat (haven't met any girl I like more than just wet holes lately), my focus is on my health & fitness, spending time with family and close friends. However, I'm still running game on practice girls regularly, get a fling here and there, and I'm open to working girls as well (here they're pretty professional and legal, no dud roots like a random you pick up at clubs). Later this year and next year when I do lots of travelling (in-season), I will need all my DJ skills to hit their peak.

Whatever funk you're in, it will pass.

I'm beginning to accept the reality that I will be fine without a woman by my side. I may have already accepted it, knowing that they mean very little to me right now.

These words may now flow in your head with some gravity and sadness, but let me tell you, later on you will associate them with joy and freedom. Fine? You will be more than fine!

 

[BeDJ]

Thanks for all the great advice, I will definitely pursue them.

I had a first date tonight and before I picked her up, my mentality was to fvck her or never see her again. I read up on Who Dare Wins FR and played the mysterious and uninterested position. I subtly escalated until we got back to her apartment with a bottle of vodka (No kino yet.) Went in for the kiss and she was begging for more. SNL.

I've been thinking to myself over and over again that thee women are nothing more than a side project, something to relieve some stress. A very small part of me still wants to believe there is some hope for loving companionship. Day by day, it's diminishing. Will I see a woman that makes me think otherwise? I might. Will I know or even have a clue? Absolutely not.

Another chick mentioned her BF before we made out. I invited her over for drinks and a movie this Saturday night. Thanks to Danger for offsetting the sh!t test. Entirely my fault if anything happens because she already told me about her BF.

http://imgur.com/orYJDIX

 

[AAAgent]

I'm in the same boat as you. I joined this site a few years ago after a serious relationship when i still believed in happily ever after. After i became single, girls started throwing themselves at me, cheating on and attempting to cheat on their boyfriends, etc. My ex was dating a new orbiter 1 week later and met up with me while they were dating (and this was a girl that i thought was one in a million but is now cheating on her new boyfriend). There was a girl i was semi interested in who i took out on a date, i walked in on her getting nailed on a balcony at the beach by some a guy she met that day in our social circle.

Needless to say, i learned quick how loyal and trusting women can be and i was slowly desensitized to the love effect. For a while i focused just on bettering myself and getting back on my feet and did not have any women in my life or approached them. After i was all set and making money, living alone, having fun, i started approaching again but it was never the same. I only saw women as pieces of meet and the only girls i clicked with were just as you said, a mirrored version of how happy i was (thought they say happiness/laughter is contagious).

Am i worried? Not really and i don't think you should be either. You're young and already making money. It's only going to go up from there. On top of all that, you're developing skills that will prepare you to handle your next long term companion alot better than before. You'll have money, experience, and self control.

 

[evan12]

Women are overrated , especially here in Canada, it is expected every man to have a wonderful woman in his arms and the problem these wonderful women are only 5% in feminist city like Toronto .the rest is singles and just serial daters until their beauty fades .
I housntly stopped looking for women at this time , I am more into growing my financial side now , and the funny thing is the moment you stop wanting women that women women mean nothing to you .
I am also caring about keeping my self in shape to hit my strike on the moment I find the "right" woman .

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear DJ,
"Lost interest in women"Oh no you're not leaning on little Boys again,are you?

 

[Poonani Maker]

The problem, with women, I've found, is...They want EVERYthing on a sliver platter. You must do ALLLLL the worK. I don't care if it's one you're trying to woo or a woman in business. She needs a phone number...YOU have to go look it up or acquire it for her, she can't be bothered with doing Her job. I say fvck ya if you can't meet me half way. Not ALL women are like this but I'd say 90% are. They sit in their high chair from birth, and Always expect you, their father figure, the man, whatever, to do everything so that she does not have to get up outta her chair. It's crazy, cause in the olden days, they weren't like that, they were more self-sacrificing as self-sacrificing was more of a way of life back then when the economy was truer, when people were held accountable. The ties are loose, and she "independent" woman now, yet Still unable to lift a finger...right..so, one doesn't meet me half-way (when she should be bending over for me ) then I, she's gone, I don't care if it's business whatever, I ain't talking to her again if she can't do the smallest of tasks, expecting me to lurch up on her silver platter, grovelling, a suck-up like all the other grovelling suck-up dudes. Back in the olden days, She is the slave, the one to Serve.

 

[Kailex]

You are WAY too young to be worrying about "never finding intimacy". At 25, you should just be chasing paper and chasing tail, and that's about it.

 

[PlayHer Man]

The problem is (and has been for a while) that modern men take women way too seriously. The woman of today is a joke and should be viewed as such.

Men today look at a Toyota Prius and expect it to perform like a BMW. Guess what? Its NOT a f*cking BMW.

Modern women are not capable of being the Disney movie princess many men desire. Men are looking for intimacy, bonding, loyalty and commitment where they shouldn't be. These are all the things women used to seek. Now men are the weak faggots looking for an emotional tampon in their sexual partner. :crackup: :crackup:

Men need to learn to relax, have fun and stop trying so hard to bond with women. Just f*ck them and let any bonding happen organically. Its the woman's job to be emo not the man.

 

[tryst type]

The problem is (and has been for a while) that modern men take women way too seriously. The woman of today is a joke and should be viewed as such.

Men today look at a Toyota Prius and expect it to perform like a BMW. Guess what? Its NOT a f*cking BMW.

Modern women are not capable of being the Disney movie princess many men desire. Men are looking for intimacy, bonding, loyalty and commitment where they shouldn't be. These are all the things women used to seek. Now men are the weak faggots looking for an emotional tampon in their sexual partner. :crackup: :crackup:

Men need to learn to relax, have fun and stop trying so hard to bond with women. Just f*ck them and let any bonding happen organically. Its the woman's job to be emo not the man.

That's my boy speaking truth yet again.

 

[BeDJ]

When fun time sex with the girl from Saturday was over, she was in her bra and panties, sitting on my toilet, talking to her BF for nearly half an hour.

It got me thinking,

I could have easily been the other guy on the phone if it weren't for this forum. Maybe I was that guy in my previous relationship. It just reinforced my preconceived notion that they will never understand loyalty, honor or commitment. They just know how to act given their emotions at the time. I can't imagine fvcking a chick, talking to my GF then fvcking her again right after. What. The. Fvck.

I know it's not black and white as this forum paints, but the more experience with women I get, the more it holds true. NAWALT? Given the right circumstance, yes they are. I don't consider myself bitter towards women, more demoting of their character.

Maybe I should unplug myself from the Game. Maybe I'll regain that warm fuzzy feeeeeeling of falling in love.