Lost Feelings For My Girlfriend

[Gold Heart]

I wanna dump her, but I think I'd get pissed when other guys start going out with her. I know I'd be with a million new girls by then, but does anybody have any advice for me or some uplifting words to let me deal with something that will eventually come to her? Thanks fellas.

 

[seulaxplaya]

yeah man ull be pissed off for awhile. its cuz that was once urs and now some other dude is getting it. i had this one girl that i taught everything too. i made her into a star. then i broke up with her and got with another chick and at the beginning i was pissed when i saw other guys with her. but nothing makes u forget an old gf then a new gf.

 

[Sir Auron]

The same thing has recently happened to me, firstly I was a big AFC with a DJ front put on so I could charm girls but end up worrying about them "omg, she didn't talk to me today...".

However, recently I became so pissed off/dissapointed/upset at my girlfriend for a period of about a week ( because of her flirting with other guys, just like you ) I lost all loving feelings towards her, and you know what? I have never felt better. Maybe this is some stage of becoming a DJ, I am not sure. All I do no is now my life isn't ruled by girls anymore, so take this a step in the right direction.

As for what to do with your girlfriend, I'd give it a week or two before nexting her, it's quite common for people to go through stages of not loving their gf/wife whatever, so just give it time in case those feelings come back. And if they do, you should be more in control of your emotional ties with her than ever.
However if they don't come back, well you should be able to break up with her with no devestating effects on your side.

Oh and if you're wondering, I'm back with my girlfriend now feeling the effects described above, and its great to finally go through a school day hanging out with mates, having fun with the ladies and not worry about what my gf is doing, having faith in her.

Don't be insecure.

All my best and Good Luck

 

[Gold Heart]

^ Actually sorry, I didn't explain it correctly.

I cheated on her, and I thought I'd like her better now that she came back from vacation. But I DON'T like her anymore yet I don't want to see her with other guys. It's crazy sh-t.

 

[Eshiku]

What is "AFC" and "DJ" ????

 

[drixsa]

gold-

its pretty good that you can be honest with yourself

but know that sometimes these feelings come and go so dont make any fast decisions

i think that if possible try scouting out some other girls that may hold your interest

i dunno if you are an LTR but if so its always better to walk away with some options

if not the single life is SO MUCH FUN as a DJ

just "see" as many girls as you want

find a booty call or 2

thats the way ive been livin this summer

you seem like u wont have trouble gettin around if you did break up with her

keep these things to yourself

most friends are not a good help and think only about themselves

 

[eba]

I used to be in love with this girl, the first girl I was EVER truly madly deeply in love with, and she said she was in love with me too.

But then she told me this guy Mike would come over and she would give him head whenever he came over and that like ripped a hole in heart. It really crushed me. I mean she was suppost to be in love with ME yet she would give head to this other fscker like it was no big thang. Thinking of her with that other dude was giving me the Jealousy. Big time.

But I forgot about her. It took a long time though. I thought Id never be in love with anyone for the rest of my life.

But you eventually get over it, and you could care less. I thought: let her go give head to that dude, that says a whole lot more about her than anything else. I guess this post has no point to it but oh well. Hope it helps you out anyway.

 

[Gold Heart]

Originally posted by Eshiku
What is "AFC" and "DJ" ????

AFC - Average Frustrated Chump
DJ - Don Juan

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Thanks for the comments so far. Bump.

 

[Eshiku]

Thx Gold Heart

 

[downfallofdisbelief]

muahahahahahaha fresh meat!

 

[Sir Auron]

Aah, so what we have here is you don't love her any more, you've lost that lusting feeling and yet you don't want to see her with other guys because it hurts your self pride and makes you think she's enjoying herself more with them, or something close.

I'm not sure of your current situation, but if you don't love/like her anymore then there is only one obvious way out. The only reason you still have jelousy regarding her is because you two are still attached. So I'd take my previous advice of give it a couple of weeks to make sure no loving feelings return, then get the hell out of there.

My theory is if you leave her, you're emotion ties will certainly break and you will adopt the DJ "if she's happy with him, that's great" attitude, while your doing 6 other HB's on the side.

Again my best of luck goes out to you