Looks vs Personality - priorities changing with age?

[bugsquish]

When choosing who to spend time with, do you favour looks or personality? I could also say youth vs maturity, or arm-candy vs connection.

As I'm getting older, I'm surprising myself with my feelings on this. For as long as I can remember, I've always prioritised younger, more physically attractive girls. Partially because it's an ego boost and I like to be seen with them on my arm, and partly because I have just been more attracted to them sexually.

Since I'm a bit older now the age gap between me and the younger girls means I don't have much in common with them. As a plate comparison, I like to fu(k the 23 year old babe, but beyond the great sex, it can be quite boring. I actually have more fun spending time with the 36 year old who, while smoking for her age, is much more attractive for stimulating conversation.

It's strange for me, for the first time in my life to be favouring older women.

 

[zekko]

Well, you're right. I always say a woman's looks is the most important thing when it comes to attraction. But the fact is, if her personality does not mesh with mine, if she is not interesting to talk to, or if her values do not match mine, I'm not really going to be wanting to spend time with her.

I guess that's what they mean when they say to qualify a girl. See what she has to offer aside from her looks. Of course, in pickup circles, for a lot of guys this is often just a trick to make her think her looks alone aren't enough for you.

 

[DarkShade]

Looks won't last forever unless you're footing the bill for botox and plastic surgery. I'd rather be with a cute-faced slightly chunkier girl with a great personality than a smokin' ***** at this point in my life

 

[squirrels]

I'd rather hang with a 7 or 8 who's "fun" than a 9 who's boring.

As far as youth goes, I noticed myself the other day eyeing up some woman as she was getting into an SUV in front of the local high-school...and I suddenly realized that she was NOT a student, but probably someone's mother.

I was amused by the idea that when I was in high school, I used to be drawn to younger girls. Sometime about college age, most of what I was "looking at" were in their 20s. Now, I look at 18 year olds and they look like "kids" to me, and older women (MILF-age) that I used to think were too old to be considered high-value, I find myself drooling a little bit over them.

I guess this is growing up. Bring it on.

 

[Jitterbug]

The Right Woman

When I was 14, I hoped that one day I would have a girlfriend with big tits.

When I was 16 I got a girlfriend with big tits, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life.

In college I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide. So I decided I needed a girl with stability.

When I was 25 I found a very stable girl but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided that I needed a girl with some excitement.

When I was 28 I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad impetuous things and made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless. So I decided to find a girl with some real ambition.

When I turned 31, I found a smart ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned.

I am older and wiser now, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

 

[vatoloco]

I am older and wiser now, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

Hahaha!

"The circle is now complete..."

 

[MonkeyButt]

The Right Woman
...
I am older and wiser now, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

Damn that was funny.

 

[Colossus]

Lol at Jitterbug's post. Great illustration of 'the grass is always greener'. Many people live their whole lives this way.

Looks are definitely the rate-limiting step in dating, but pretty girls are a dime a dozen, truly. Just ask yourself these two things: Do I find her pleasant to look at? Does she give me a boner? If you answer yes to both you're set.

 

[bugsquish]

The Right Woman

Brilliant

That just about sums up my mentality. I'm never happy with what I've got. Probably that's what makes dating multiple women such an attractive concept. You can have the qualities you like simultaneously from different sources. If the 100% perfect woman doesn't exist, then mix and match

 

[Wilko]

I was just thinking how Jitterbug's post was practically a blues song....

Cutie the bomb
Met her at a beauty salon
With a baby Louis Vuitton
Under her underarm
She said, "I can tell you rock
I can tell by ya charm
Far as girls you got a flock
I can tell by ya charm and ya arm"
But I'm lookin' for the one
Have you seen her
My psychic told me she'll have a ass like Serena
Trina, Jennifer Lopez, four kids
An' I gotta take all they bad ass to Showbiz
Okay, get ya kids, but then they got their friends
I pulled up in the Benz, they all got up in
We all went to din' and then I had to pay
If you ****in' with this girl then you betta be paid
You know why
It take too much to touch her
From what I heard she got a baby by Busta
My best friend say she use to **** wit' Usher
I don't care what none of ya'll say, I still love her

18 years, 18 years
She got one of yo kids got you for 18 years
I know somebody payin' child support for one of his kids
His baby momma car and crib is bigger than his
You will see him on TV any given Sunday
Win the Superbowl and drive off in a Hyundai
She was s'pose to buy ya shorty TYCO with ya money
She went to the doctor got lipo wit' ya money
She walkin' around lookin' like Michael wit' ya money
Shoulda got that insured, GEICO for ya money( your money)
If you ain't no punk holla, "We Want Prenupt!"
"We want prenupt!" Yeah
It's something that you need to have
'Cuz when she leave yo ass she gon' leave with half
18 years, 18 years
And on the 18th birthday he found out it wasn't his

Now I ain't sayin' you a gold digger, you got needs
You don't want a dude to smoke but he can't buy weed
You go out to eat and he can't pay y'all can't leave
There's dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But while y'all washin' watch him
He gon' make it into a Benz out of that Datsun
He got that ambition baby look in his eyes
This week he moppin' floors next week it's the fryers
So, stick by his side
I know his dude's ballin' but yeah that's nice
And they gon' keep callin' and tryin'
But you stay right, girl
But when you get on he leave yo ass for a white girl

Can we get a spot for Yeezy in the DJ Bible?!

 

[azanon]

The Right Woman

When I was 14, I hoped that one day I would have a girlfriend with big tits.

When I was 16 I got a girlfriend with big tits, but there was no passion, so I decided I needed a passionate girl with a zest for life.

In college I dated a passionate girl, but she was too emotional. Everything was an emergency; she was a drama queen, cried all the time and threatened suicide. So I decided I needed a girl with stability.

When I was 25 I found a very stable girl but she was boring. She was totally predictable and never got excited about anything. Life became so dull that I decided that I needed a girl with some excitement.

When I was 28 I found an exciting girl, but I couldn't keep up with her. She rushed from one thing to another, never settling on anything. She did mad impetuous things and made me miserable as often as happy. She was great fun initially and very energetic, but directionless. So I decided to find a girl with some real ambition.

When I turned 31, I found a smart ambitious girl with her feet planted firmly on the ground and married her. She was so ambitious that she divorced me and took everything I owned.

I am older and wiser now, and am looking for a girl with big tits.

Such a well written post that I almost feel guilty disagreeing with it.

Jokes aside, that won't be any protection from losing a lot in a hypothetical second divorce. She can be dumb as a wall, but it won't also make the judge dumb nor will it change your state's divorce laws.

.....................

You KNOW you've got the right woman if you've been married for, say, 10 years or more and if the two of you were to get divorced and she took the typical half, AND that'd be exactly what she deserved. TBH, I think it's sad that I've never seen a guy here (other than myself) actually say their wife would actually deserve half, or more perhaps, of what they're worth.

 

[zekko]

Damn that was funny.

And very old too

 

[Jitterbug]

I didn't invent that joke. It's a old one, but pure gold.

I have a little card I carry in my wallet which has a list of qualities a woman I'd consider for a LTR must have (this is so I don't get carried away when everything just feels oh so right). One item in the list is "big tits" and it comes from this joke.

I've dated every girl in that joke, except - thankfully - the ambitious one. After being in the dating market for a while, we men have all dated the same types. Sometimes you just gotta take a step back, keep it simple and stick to the real priority: big tits.