Looking for a little advice.

[PrEcIsIoN22]

Well heres a little background on me and my entire situation.

For a long time and I mean LONG I could never approach women. I did manage to get into a short lived and horrible relationship with this one girl. I look at it as a waste of time because nothing good came of it. It was a few drama filled weeks, that put me in a worse place than I had started in. That was my only "relationship" and that was partially possible because of my best friends behind the scenes work talking to her, which I had no idea of myself.

Up until this past week I still couldn't approach the girl I fancied until I had a little dream. For once after all the failures I saw myself having in my head I saw a sucess, guess it changed a lot although it was something so simple. Since then I've seen a lot more positive not only with myself but with how I carry myself. Life seems all around better even though I was sick all week.

Anyhow I managed to take a seat next to this girl I think is cute. It's a seminar class and she sits in the front so I took the seat next to her. When she first walked in she sat down next to me but she had the worst look on her face, it was like she was ready to hurt someone. By then I went into freeze mode and said nothing, luckily she asked me something about papers in the front. We talked a little and class started. Class ended I said by and walked out.

The next time we had class she came in with a smile on her face and we talked. I talked just like I would with anyone else. Heres the thing we talked about things like family, where she lives, and basically things surrounding that. That convo took place before class, after class I walked out of class with her and we went our seperate ways. Wasn't sure if I should spend 2 and a half hours of break time with her or not so soon so I went and hit the gym for a few.

I'd like to get her interested in me, but I'm not really sure how to go about doing that. If I've done too much damage already--enough to keep us in the friend zone--that's fine, there's a ton more girls out there. Got no number or anything to that effect yet.

I see her again Tuesday and after that not until Thursday.

Sorry about the long first post, but all criticism and advice is welcome.

-Precision22

 

[Last Man Standing]

You are the man - are you waiting for her to be the aggressor? It won't happen!

Ask her out to a fun fun-ction.

 

[migz]

Try not to talk to much. Dont ask her too much questions. Like how is your day? or how was your weekend? The best intro to get a girl to talk is "Hi insert her name here. If she looks at you or you pass by her just give her a warm smile (she will smile back). Once she starts talking, you have to pay good attention to hints. She will say stuff like what you doing this weekend? You should answer "not sure as of yet maybe hang out with friends..what do you have planned?" This gives you the okay for a date. Best thing to keep in mind is dont be too aggresive, dont show any "I like you" feelings and just listen to her. This method always works for me.

 

[DJDamage]

I talked just like I would with anyone else. Heres the thing we talked about things like family, where she lives, and basically things surrounding that.

If you have a girl in sight and you want her, don't talk to her like you would anyone else (its good for a start to break the ice but as the conversation goes on, she shouldn't feel like you are talking to her as if she is your sister).

You want to intrigue her, make her laugh and think of you in a sexual way(kino her).

DjDamage

 

[migz]

If you have a girl in sight and you want her, don't talk to her like you would anyone else (its good for a start to break the ice but as the conversation goes on, she shouldn't feel like you are talking to her as if she is your sister).

You want to intrigue her, make her laugh and think of you in a sexual way(kino her).

Good stradegy, but if it's not natural to you I dont recomend it.Best is to be yourself if she laugh cool 10 points. If not dont worry about it. The only way it look like you are talking to her as your sista would be if she would argue and fight with you.

 

[PrEcIsIoN22]

If you have a girl in sight and you want her, don't talk to her like you would anyone else (its good for a start to break the ice but as the conversation goes on, she shouldn't feel like you are talking to her as if she is your sister).

You want to intrigue her, make her laugh and think of you in a sexual way(kino her).

DjDamage

Thanks for the advice.

That's the spot where I run dry. I can make her laugh no problem, getting her to think of me in a sexual way is where the difficulty for me comes in. Kino seems to go semi-naturally--If there is such a thing--to me. I do think about it half the time, but there are those times it'll just happen to happen.

With her I was really just trying to get myself out of my comfort zone and get out there and do something, instread of constantly saying to myself I'll try. Trying never got it done.

Any tips on how to get her to NOT think of me as a brother. She's a talkative one, almost a little to talkative for me.
-Precision22

 

[PrEcIsIoN22]

You are the man - are you waiting for her to be the aggressor? It won't happen!

Ask her out to a fun fun-ction.

I'm trying to be the aggressor as best as I know how to be. It's not something that comes naturally to me, but I'm hoping that it's a trait I can grow to learn.

 

[PrEcIsIoN22]

Try not to talk to much. Dont ask her too much questions. Like how is your day? or how was your weekend? The best intro to get a girl to talk is "Hi insert her name here. If she looks at you or you pass by her just give her a warm smile (she will smile back). Once she starts talking, you have to pay good attention to hints. She will say stuff like what you doing this weekend? You should answer "not sure as of yet maybe hang out with friends..what do you have planned?" This gives you the okay for a date. Best thing to keep in mind is dont be too aggresive, dont show any "I like you" feelings and just listen to her. This method always works for me.

I'm like a question machine. We're already talking and she ask's questions too.

If she does ask If I'm free on the weekend, I think I'd be able to make a move on that if she wasn't doing anything.

 

[Last Man Standing]

...Any tips on how to get her to NOT think of me as a brother. She's a talkative one, almost a little to talkative for me.
-Precision22

She sees you ONLY in the way YOU PORTRAY yourself!! Every woman already sees a man as her sexual opposite - this is obvious and something that doesn't need to be reinforced! What needs to be portrayed and reinforced is your interest in her as a man -- do you want her to see you as a classmate or as a potential mate?? This is in your hands!!

If you talk to her as a fellow student she will then see you as a fellow student but if you want her to see you as an interested party of her feminine nature then she will see you as a man that is interested in her feminine nature as a woman and she will know that you are pursuing her as such.

Are you talking to her as a friend or as a potential romantic pursuer? You lead through your words - say different words to her that show your interest in her as a man shows interest in a woman and see how SHE changes her responses and behavior. You must lead and initiate on how you want her to see you!

It is good to "warm up" to her but then you must escalate this into romantic interest - it is your duty as a man!!!