lookin in the eyes

[piri]

heyyy
I have 2 questions abou lookin a girl in the eyes.

Yous ee, I got "the player's black book" where it tells me to be always lookin in a girl's eyes whenever she's talking or I'm talking.
Is this right?
Cuz before I got the book I always read that I should ONLY look her in the eyes when I'm talking, and look around (like to her mouth or start playing with something in my hands) when she's taling.
can you help me out?

and the other question.
when I'm walking on the street I always try too look at the hot girl's eyes. Some of them look into my eyes, and then I smile and they smile back, but some other girls don't even look me in the eyes. So I started thinking, should I start smiling exactly when I try to look them in the eyes (and not only after they look into mines) so they look into my eyes and smile?

thanks for your time duds

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Do not play with somthing in your hands, its a sign that you are nervous. Intense eye contact cana ctuly build attraction because it is show intimate, although i think maybe 100% is too much, if it feels like a staring competition then relax a bit, if it feels really strange, that could be a good thing, it cna build attraction!

 

[Sesar]

Eye contact is good.. i forgot how powerfull it is....

A gurl did this to me once.. n i used to like her.. n we were talking.. n for a moment.. i felt those feeling came back, that feeling of closeness and warmth.

It's an Awesome tool when ur Flirting.. slightliy tilt ur Head to the right or left.. n hold hold they eye contact a little longer with a Genuine Smile.. They Love it.

This is usually good after u said someting funny e.g. comment or remark.. n she looks @ u



-SeSaR

 

[piri]

I thank for your help but you still didn't answared my 2nd question, and it is the most important.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Great paraphrasing guys... is it all KBJockey material? Sure sounds like it!

Shez hit a few nice points, smile to be receptive part, but I disagree with the dumbfounded smile EVERYTIME you see a girl, why allude yourself that you are happy when you are in any way depressed? Why FAKE it?

What you've got to do, is enter your zone with intelligence backing you. Gaze into her eyes, when what she says is meaningful, stare away when it is useless jabber.

Have you ever stared a blabbermouth in the eyes and held their gaze for ever... and than walked away with a bunch of mumbo jumbo in your head? You didn't get any feedback, and that person is still going to be a blabbermouth who now knows you are obediant. Try staring them in the mouth, would you rather have a friend, a confidante, a lover, or a teacher as your soulmate? Don't choose just yet, of course your going to probe the waters a bit before you start to stir them. It's your mindset you are luring her into remember? Don't smile to try and make her happy, don't look at her at certain times to try and induce her, do it when it feels right, no, when it IS right. Don't wait for her to give you signals all the time before you make your move, that will only create moments of silence, as you wait, for her to strike, and you yourself (block?) defend yourself in some way(or JKD, interception).

Sesar, just nailed the subject, eye contact should be used for hypnotism, slow her down... use a powerful gaze, if your going to use it, do your damndest, do your damned best. When she's talking to you, make a quick comment while she speaks, Something that hits her nerves about how she really is a princess, it will... slow.... her... down... and... the... gaze... will... be... that, much, sweeter.

Don't flitter with anything(compliments of checkmate kid) don't stare at the floor or the ceiling, don't do anything USELESS in the conversation... Keep the vibe high, and drive it higher... make her wet.

 

[Warrior Princess]

You mean to tell me it's part of the act? DAMN!

I've been victimized by a few of you boys, but then again I've victimized a few myself LOL.

 

[piri]

duds! I'm not ahvin problems with staring, smiling and conversation...

I only wanna know if when I see a girl in the street and she is not looking at me should I try to look her in the eyes and smile anyway to "force" her to look at me.

Cuz I noticed that a few girls, when I pass trought them in the street, won't look me in the eyes when I try to loom at hers'.

 

[ethnomethodologist]

Well stop right there, ask the right question before we start answering what we THINK you should know.

So...

Tell us why you are worried about walking down the street and random girls not holding eye contact with you... is there a reason that they SHOULD?

We cater to the intellectual man, no matter how scrawny, misshapen, stout, or grotesque you are... so we prefer to help the unfortunate to see that there is more to seduction... than looks(pun intended)

 

[piri]

I did not say that you answared the wrong question. In fact you did help me

I was just wandering if itw as possible to look every girl in the eyes when I'm walking on the street.
and for that I asked if I needed to be smiling before I look her in the eyes. That's all...

 

[JJMcLure]

EC is one of the most powerful tools you have.

You always want to look people in the eye and maintain EC. When you're talking, it shows your being truthful and it makes your message more powerful. Critically, it is a major sign of confidence.

When other people are talking, it shows you are listening to them. Looking away when someone is talking signals disinterest or disagreement. BUT there is one use for it by a confident person (unlikely to be useful in a pickup context), that is to take pressure off the other person when they are speaking - e.g. if the subject being discussed is a difficult one for them.

You have to be smiling (at the minimum a relaxed expression ready to smile). Or you will look like you want to kill her. This is particularly important when making EC on the street.

If you look her in the eyes to the extreme (unbreaking) the message of your intent is unmistakable. Is that what you want right away? Well, that's a whole other question (direct vs indirect game). And if you do signal your intent like that, you have to follow through, it is signalling you have the confidence to get what you want, and that what you want is to fvck her.

In summary, you can't overdo EC, and make sure you do too much rather than too little.