As if you need more reasons 'why' excessive compliments don't work, here's another. But this the evolutionary bottom-line. Prefacing that, I spend some free-time researching dating, sexuality, relationships, etc.
Women seek the best mate for her potential because she, being very similar to an egg, can truly only have 1 mate. Sure, she can divorce, etc, and remarry. But as she incurs more "liabilities" I will call them, her value amongst men declines. Every chink in her armor sends her further off the pedastal.
For instance...
*Excessive romantic partners.
*Bad genes.
*Kids.
*Even having a husband or mate counter-part.
*Aging.
These are all severe deterents to 'cheating' or even to 'settling upon one man.' She has to know, in at least a long-term relationship, that she is getting the best bang for her buck (or fvck if you like). Because the excessive costs of child-rearing impart a sort of subconscious spell on her, she is inclined to do the best for herself, and her 'children' with little regard to feelings or logic. If she 'assumes' or gets a signal that a potentially better evolutionary mate is available she'll go for it.
By and large, a women are insecure, more so if you ever date below your relative potential. For instance.
A female '10' dating a male '6' probably wouldn't worry to much about finding a great mate. There's alot of potentially suitable males from 6 through 10.
However, a female '10' dating a male '10' would be insecure, as she realizes few 10's exist, and their demand amongst her female competitors increases. Which is why to her, very little can go wrong, and aside from the attractive mechanism, a woman who sees a man as her equal value will very unlikely stray.
BUT...men throw an evolutionary wrench in the mix when they give excessive compliments. Compliments by and large give us a temporary sense of self-confidence. When you complete a job, or a task, or even meet a cute stranger, the rush of endorphins makes you feel invincible, until the next lull. You can't always be high, but certainly the iron armor you wear once you hear one even makes men say "well if this cutie thinks I'm hot, what about other girls?"
The same train of thought occurs in women. Excessive compliments feed her sense of confidence, giving her the "trigger" that she is very valuable, and in-turn, could fetch a higher value on the dating market. When that happens, she might test the waters by discreetly cheating, or completely killing off the whole relationship. She no longer sees you as an equal as she once did before, she sees you below her, or at least not evolutionarily equivalent for her dating needs.
Most of the people I know that lost a woman who could claim they were "good men," did this sort of behavior. Compliments, gifts, even super excessive passionate sex that exalted her feminity to the point of goddessdom.
To us, it isn't logical to see 'why' women do that. BUT, it's emotional to her, and the 'logical' reason why us men shouldn't do that. Yes, make her feel special when she does something...THAT IS POSITIVE REINFORCE. Ya know, like GOOD DOGGIE for going outside, as opposed to on your bed spread?
But what happens when you reinforce behavior haphazardly, for no reason? That's where the hubris sets in and she gets the feeling of superiority, or at least the communication that you're not her equal, and you couldn't do better than her.
A-Unit
Women seek the best mate for her potential because she, being very similar to an egg, can truly only have 1 mate. Sure, she can divorce, etc, and remarry. But as she incurs more "liabilities" I will call them, her value amongst men declines. Every chink in her armor sends her further off the pedastal.
For instance...
*Excessive romantic partners.
*Bad genes.
*Kids.
*Even having a husband or mate counter-part.
*Aging.
These are all severe deterents to 'cheating' or even to 'settling upon one man.' She has to know, in at least a long-term relationship, that she is getting the best bang for her buck (or fvck if you like). Because the excessive costs of child-rearing impart a sort of subconscious spell on her, she is inclined to do the best for herself, and her 'children' with little regard to feelings or logic. If she 'assumes' or gets a signal that a potentially better evolutionary mate is available she'll go for it.
By and large, a women are insecure, more so if you ever date below your relative potential. For instance.
A female '10' dating a male '6' probably wouldn't worry to much about finding a great mate. There's alot of potentially suitable males from 6 through 10.
However, a female '10' dating a male '10' would be insecure, as she realizes few 10's exist, and their demand amongst her female competitors increases. Which is why to her, very little can go wrong, and aside from the attractive mechanism, a woman who sees a man as her equal value will very unlikely stray.
BUT...men throw an evolutionary wrench in the mix when they give excessive compliments. Compliments by and large give us a temporary sense of self-confidence. When you complete a job, or a task, or even meet a cute stranger, the rush of endorphins makes you feel invincible, until the next lull. You can't always be high, but certainly the iron armor you wear once you hear one even makes men say "well if this cutie thinks I'm hot, what about other girls?"
The same train of thought occurs in women. Excessive compliments feed her sense of confidence, giving her the "trigger" that she is very valuable, and in-turn, could fetch a higher value on the dating market. When that happens, she might test the waters by discreetly cheating, or completely killing off the whole relationship. She no longer sees you as an equal as she once did before, she sees you below her, or at least not evolutionarily equivalent for her dating needs.
Most of the people I know that lost a woman who could claim they were "good men," did this sort of behavior. Compliments, gifts, even super excessive passionate sex that exalted her feminity to the point of goddessdom.
To us, it isn't logical to see 'why' women do that. BUT, it's emotional to her, and the 'logical' reason why us men shouldn't do that. Yes, make her feel special when she does something...THAT IS POSITIVE REINFORCE. Ya know, like GOOD DOGGIE for going outside, as opposed to on your bed spread?
But what happens when you reinforce behavior haphazardly, for no reason? That's where the hubris sets in and she gets the feeling of superiority, or at least the communication that you're not her equal, and you couldn't do better than her.
A-Unit