LJBF? Born dead or did I blow it?

[Fallen]

Just a question in general. I´m interested in your opinions. I met this girl a couple of months ago in lawschool and she seemed quite interested in me ( for whatever reason ???? ) cause she frequently called and dated me ( for schoolbusinness as well as leisure activities ). After about a month ( of multiple daily SMSing and calling ) I started to feel "funny" in her presence and thought of more than just a friendship or whatever we shared. But because we both had a lot of work to do and lots of other sh*t going on in our lives I hesitated to make my move instantly and played along for one more month without saying or doing anything. ( Of course being all AFC and stuff ). After things slowed down a little in school, I made my move an ended up being LJBFd for the first time in my life. Now I am wondering if the whole deal was "born dead" or if I just blew it AFC-style. Any opinions?

BTW: Hiya! I´m the new kid in town. Great Site! Have been watching it for the last couple of weeks hoping for me being able to straighten up again soon

 

[21-Q'z]

Chances r uve blown it...I know what thats like man. Maybe it was born dead I cant tell u for sure, but the same thing happened to me more than once and now that I got rid of my AFC ways those situations usually work out.

 

[Fallen]

No other comments? Come on! I need advice on this one. What if stuff like that happens again without me beeing prepared when the enemy tries to sneak in from behind and catches me off-guard.

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by Fallen
Just a question in general. I´m interested in your opinions. I met this girl a couple of months ago in lawschool and she seemed quite interested in me ( for whatever reason ???? ) cause she frequently called and dated me ( for schoolbusinness as well as leisure activities ). After about a month ( of multiple daily SMSing and calling ) I started to feel "funny" in her presence and thought of more than just a friendship or whatever we shared. But because we both had a lot of work to do and lots of other sh*t going on in our lives I hesitated to make my move instantly and played along for one more month without saying or doing anything. ( Of course being all AFC and stuff ). After things slowed down a little in school, I made my move an ended up being LJBFd for the first time in my life. Now I am wondering if the whole deal was "born dead" or if I just blew it AFC-style. Any opinions?

BTW: Hiya! I´m the new kid in town. Great Site! Have been watching it for the last couple of weeks hoping for me being able to straighten up again soon

The multiple daily SMSing and calling without ANY physical stuff is a one-way express trip into the friendzone. If you think you will have any interest in a girl romantically DONT do that again.

You should be having sex with a woman for a good amount of time before you start communicating with her on a daily basis (even then it is important to maintain SOME scarcity and mystery).

Read the Bible.

 

[Frosty]

BTW: Hiya! I´m the new kid in town. Great Site! Have been watching it for the last couple of weeks hoping for me being able to straighten up again soon

have you watched the DJ Bible?


We can never know unless you ask her at this point. There is not enough info here to take a stab of where you got trapped in the LJBF zone or if you was immediately thrusted into it. Did she ever flirt with you? Did you ever flirt with her? If so, what was her response?

At this point, I can only advise you to make your move quicker. You must realize that the moment you decide that you are attracted to someone and would like to get with that person is the moment you must behave in a manner to attract them. Don't take a detour and start with the friendly asexual outtings. That detour leads to the friend zone.

Welcome to the board.

 

[Jake Steed]

The answer is simple. Next time, make out with the girl on the first or second date and DO NOT BURY YOUR SEXUALITY. You figured it out the hard way this time. Only time will tell if you actually learned anything from it.

Jake