Little Update...got girl to call me first, now she wants me to call her.

[shark]

I made a thread about a chick i liked, she said it was a rule for the guy to call first. I said it's a rule for the girl to call first. Well, i got what i wanted and she called first. That was last night. Earlier today, she text messaged me "it's your turn to call tonight". I'd think i should, b/c i don't want to be an *******. (i've been playing the don juan charachter well, and she even told me she's getting tired of herself always being the one to come over to me, and message me)

So, do i call her? Do i just text her? Do i make a excuse? hmm..

 

[coolguy676767]

Call her, I dont mean become her ***** now, but call her, dont text, just call her, but dont stay on the phone too long, make yourself the one that has to go. I would say maybe give it 5 minutes, or whenever teh conversation goes dull.

 

[Maybnoob]

Girls do this all the time.
1.They want to test your interest level
2.If you call all the time they will see you as a *****
3.If you never call they will think you have no interest

You should call but dont get carried away. Remind her you aint no ***** and when she says call me say no you call me im the man here.

 

[shark]

I called her, but no awnser. I didn;t leave a message. Should I call again now or later.

My feeling is to just not call her b/.c she'll see the missed call and i shouldnt call more then once. Agree?

 

[NRM]

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COME ON MAN. USE YOUR BRAIN.

Don't touch that phone again if you life depended on it. If she calls you, you best ignore it. She has callerID, no need for you to call her back, she missed her chance.

There's too much word play. You as a guy should not even bother with a phone. When she told you that "guys are supposed to call first." You should have said "Yeah, pansy guys who talk on the phone all day, I only call for appointments and I'll do them when I need them."

Be for real man. I'll tell you this though. She has interest in you. At least some. Play off that and get her to play your game. Don't play hers or you'll be seen as that pathetic chump that isn't very hard to control. You man up and handle your business.

 

[shark]

I got her to call me after she said her rule was guys call first. Also, she is ALWAYS the one to messsage me online. She TOLD me she hated chasing me, and is getting sick of feeling like a "stalker". I feel like she's a bit more insecure, and may give up on me if i play this game with her...

no?

 

[NRM]

No. It's one thing to PLAY. It's another to actually BE and DO something. Games end, living life the way you want to do it doesn't.

As long as you are showing at least some interest, she'll keep pulling for you.

I totally forgot this from the beginning. Why are you still chatting on the phone with her? Meet her in person. It'll be a foward step and it'll show you have some interest, but she'll still be a little unsure. You need to drop the phone talk all together and step up to the plate and swing.

My main point is drop the phone conversations all together. Use the phone as a tool to set up dates, not as a way to be on one without actually being on one. You think she'll give up if you're actually interested? No, she won't. As long as you play UNINTERESTED. It's a different than not showing you're interested.

Progress, but not over the phone. And don't play these quirky phone games. Like I said in my other post, the phone is for you to make appointments when YOU want them. Not to be a pansy and talk on all day.

 

[shark]

i already hung out with her a few times, and shes not in town so we cant hang out. idk if thats makes a diff but..yea

 

[MrS]

i sent messages after i called / then she called, to no reply. its the same for us all, follow the guys' advice here, they know what thyere talkin bout