Little bits of information
So - the biggest building in our city had a huge painting hung at it recently. You could see it for miles. It happened two days before party so many people didn't know what was it about. I knew that there was a gallery opened in this building and this was some form of an ad.
I go to a party. I begin convo with a girl. From window we see that building so I say that this painting is about gallery opened inside it. She asks me how much are the tickets..
Seems like nothing? Wrong!
I gave her a little bit information about me. That information was that I knew that there is a gallery inside the building. That was enough for her to assume that I was there, I know art and I visit galleries.
You see - other people tend to take the bits of information about you and imagine that they are parts of your personality.
Let's say that you walk into the mall with group of your friends and you say sth. like "Oh, Bach as the background music!". And then change the subject. Think about effect that it would have on them. Even not entirely conscious effect. Even if they already know you pretty well. From that moment they would imagine that you know various classical artists, perhaps even got a collection of classical music in your apartament.
Now - you do things like that quite often. You will be percieved as someone with deep personality and colorful life. That won't change your kernel, but your background will be bigger.
Movies..
Think about Bond. We see bits of information about him. If in next movie we'll see him ski jumping for a second we'll assume that he ski jumps once for a while when in reality that could be his first and the last jump in his life. That information won't change our general perception of Bond - he will still be a ****y&funny secret agent, but somehow different. His personality will be just a little deeper, more colorful. We see a lot of those bits in every James Bond movie - that's why we consider him deep.
Think about some other movie character that you consider flat. Notice that you didn't see those bits of information in his case.
And think about some movie character that you don't like because you consider it unrealistic. In many cases - it will be those bits of information too.
So..
You have to understand this effect. What does it give you. Why does it exist? When does it occur? Find situations in your past when you could create it by giving that piece of puzzle, delivering it in a different way or acting different afterwards.
Think about it.
Regards,
Carbani
When I put my finger into your eye, you will have a finger in an eye and I will have a finger in an eye but it won't be the same
So - the biggest building in our city had a huge painting hung at it recently. You could see it for miles. It happened two days before party so many people didn't know what was it about. I knew that there was a gallery opened in this building and this was some form of an ad.
I go to a party. I begin convo with a girl. From window we see that building so I say that this painting is about gallery opened inside it. She asks me how much are the tickets..
Seems like nothing? Wrong!
I gave her a little bit information about me. That information was that I knew that there is a gallery inside the building. That was enough for her to assume that I was there, I know art and I visit galleries.
You see - other people tend to take the bits of information about you and imagine that they are parts of your personality.
Let's say that you walk into the mall with group of your friends and you say sth. like "Oh, Bach as the background music!". And then change the subject. Think about effect that it would have on them. Even not entirely conscious effect. Even if they already know you pretty well. From that moment they would imagine that you know various classical artists, perhaps even got a collection of classical music in your apartament.
Now - you do things like that quite often. You will be percieved as someone with deep personality and colorful life. That won't change your kernel, but your background will be bigger.
Movies..
Think about Bond. We see bits of information about him. If in next movie we'll see him ski jumping for a second we'll assume that he ski jumps once for a while when in reality that could be his first and the last jump in his life. That information won't change our general perception of Bond - he will still be a ****y&funny secret agent, but somehow different. His personality will be just a little deeper, more colorful. We see a lot of those bits in every James Bond movie - that's why we consider him deep.
Think about some other movie character that you consider flat. Notice that you didn't see those bits of information in his case.
And think about some movie character that you don't like because you consider it unrealistic. In many cases - it will be those bits of information too.
So..
You have to understand this effect. What does it give you. Why does it exist? When does it occur? Find situations in your past when you could create it by giving that piece of puzzle, delivering it in a different way or acting different afterwards.
Think about it.
Regards,
Carbani
When I put my finger into your eye, you will have a finger in an eye and I will have a finger in an eye but it won't be the same