List your best conversational questions to ask on a coffee date...

mecca411

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What kind of things can we talk about to keep it interesting and her interest level high?
 

ZeeOwl

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I dream of Genie.

This is my favorite during the "building rapport" stage:
"If I were a Genie, and could grant you three wishes, what would they be, ending with the most important?".

Fabulous way of eliciting values, more original than "What is most important to you?". She'll be busy for a while thinking about the order. Listen attentively, and use the opportunity to do some deep EC on her. You'll also have some time to read her body language and evaluate her IL. You'll not only get to find out what her values are, but also how important each one is. You can then use this info to qualify her and build rapport.
 

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I don't mean to complain but what is the deal with all this "coffee date" topics on the board lately ?
I guess that explains why we have a Starbucks on every corner nowadays - you guys are driving their stock up !
 

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Oh come on... you can't knock the coffee date.

Great for first dates, it's cheap, coffee shops are everywhere (ie starbucks), allows for great convo opportunity. I hope these guys have other date ideas though.

Of course there is a downside to the coffee date... you gotta be good if your gonna take that girl home from a coffee date.
 

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Stay on the topic!

Hey guys lets not diverge from the question, its a good one and deserves responses.

I like to ask girls this one:
"If money was not an issue, what kind of job would you ideally love to do day-in, day-out, and why?"

Thats a great one and usually end up with them asking you the same, and thats an opportunity for her to see your greater qualities.
 

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this thread can be really good if people stop posting off topic, dont give advice on what to do, how to end it, what you think of coffee dates, etc

JUST GOOD CONVERSATION TOPICS!!!

when have you been the most scarred?

talk about sex
you- i was reading this magazine the other day and i came across this party saying that 30% of men prefer doggy and 75% of women prefer doggy. i was discussing this with one of my friends and they didnt agree witht his at all.
her- no way! i like blah blah blah
(or ask her what she thinks)


-tell me a secret
-tell me something i want to know about you
-whats the craziest thing to happen to you at a club/bar/party etc
-whats the drunkest youve ever been

hope these help, they are just a few ideas to play around with
 
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1. go with the flow.
2. when you try to remember which questions to ask you put too much pressure on yourself and afterwards you will remember something that you forgot and will kick yourself.
3. just take an active interest in her:

ask her questions about her and follow the conversational ques to their end result example:

so you said you went to a high school back in ohio, how was that for you..blah blah..
what did you like about ohio ..blah blah..
what bough you out here..blah blah.
what do you like about living here vs back in ohio..blah blah..

then remembering how she made a comment about something she did in ohio say needle point team champion you follow another thread...

so you mentioned that you were the needle point champion tell me about that...

how did you get into it
are you still into it
where did you learn
how was it ...ect...ect..

it's that easy...one subject and you can develop 30 minutes of convo. You listen for convo clues to other threads to develop
 

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Here we go, not for the timid

Here's some fun topics,

1) Complain about how some girl keeps hitting on you

2) Poke fun at her outfit

3) Anything about sex, thats a good topic. (unless she's a "good-girl", and don't worry, "good-girls" are anything but.)

4) Tell her to stop flirting with you, especially if she's not.

5) Make sure you don't lean up in her face while talking, sit back, slightly slouched. The "CEO slouch" as it's called.

6) be sarcastic.

7) don't ask a lame question about where she went to school, or how many siblings she has. It's not a job interview, avoid the questions intentionally and she will tell you. At which point you can call her on forcing boring subjects upon you.



*Note- these aren't traditional topics but they get the ball rolling, she'll start telling you about something."
 

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do not ask question during coffee dates or else it will be boring.


DYDevotee hit the spot and he only has 3 posts.
 

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I've both begun dates, and ended dates with a trip to starbucks, fantastic date place if you ask me!

Anyway, I've moved away from coming up with stock or pre thought out questions. Just go with the flow of the conversation as some others said. I often comment on anything and everything in the surrounding area! I've done this my whole life, so I just bring it with me on a date.

Not only do I bring dates to starbucks but the girls who work there often flirt with me lol. So it's become a sort of dating focal point for me :D
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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