backbreaker
Master Don Juan
I have absolutely nothing to do today (had tooth surgery yesterday, I'm out of commission today), I've been meaning to make this post for a while but have not had time. While I am probably what you would call a self help guru, what I am about to post, does not come from books, it does not come from seminars, these are ten steps that will not cost you a cent, and you can implement in your life tomorrow and see results instantly. These ten steps have made me the person I am today. Some of them are pretty general, but most can be applied to women. Even the ones that dont' directly apply to women, will apply to your life, which in turn will apply to women.
1. Early to bed, Early to raise
Get the **** up lol! As easy as it sounds, this is the one that I personally struggle with the most. It's not the early to raise part I have trouble with, it's the early to bed part. Simply put, when you get to bed, and get a good amount of sleep, get up early, what is early is up to you, the mindset it puts you in to have a successful day. I rarely have a bad day when I get up at 3-4am like I did today. I hit all my goals, I am not running behind and I don't get down on myself. It took me a while to realize that the difference between getting up at 3am and getting up at 8am, was a full work week lol every week just about. I generally get more done before 8am becuase no one else is up to distrub me. I can work non stop. To get the most out of my day, I used to head ot the gym first thing in the morning. Now I work on my business projects, then go to the gym at 9am, I don't care if anyone is in the gym or not but while I love my son, i can't play with him at 9am and work at the same time.
Personally I am to be in bed at 9, up at 3. On weekends I will go to bed at 11 and get up at 5.
2.Make your goals as detailed as possible
It's one thing to say I want to be rich. It's another thing to say by the time I'm 30 years old, I want to be able to own this, and to own this I have to be able to make this amount of money, and to make this amount of money, this is what I am going to do to get this money, and to make sure that these things happen, these are the steps I am going to take.
3. Believe in myself
No one knows what you are capable of except for you. You can do whatever you put your mind on, don't ever let anyone else tell you otherwise. If you dont' achieve something, it's not becuase it's not possible, it's simply becuase you didn't go about it the right way. When you fail, and you will, often, just realize that you figured out another way that doesn't work, and adjust.
4. Do every task to the absolute best of my ability
When you are in the gym, did you really give it your all on the squats? Were you doing half ass squats? You saw a girl in the mall that you thought was so cute, did you chicken out? At work, did you do everything you are required to do to the best of your ability? Every simple task is important to build the habit of expecting nothing but the best from you. Stuff as simple as cleaning up your room, did you half ass clean it up or did you get under the bed, did you vaccum the carpet, did you scrub the room down? If you want to be great, accept nothing but the best from yourself in any and all facets in life, and you have to start somewhere.
5. Do not think negative thoughts
Negativity will kill you before anything else will. If you don't think you can do something, or you shoot yourself down, you have 0% chance in anything you try. Negative thoughts allowed to set seed in your head will grow into weeds which will **** up your yard. Usually, this is just a question of having the right frame of mind. Instead of saying "I can't be a millionaire" say "I don't have the tools to be a millionaire yet, but with the right application of my time, and if I apply myself, I will eventually have the tools to be a millionaire". Instead of saying that girl will not talk to me say "what has this woman done to show me that she would not talk to me, nothing, and if she doesn't respond favorably to me, it's her loss not mine". See how much easier it is to approach with that mindset?
6. Take time to think everyday
By total accident, I found that my best thoughts come while laying down trying to go to sleep. It's because it's the only time in the day when I allow myself to really think about things. Most of my eureka moments happen in this time frame. Take 15 minutes, cut off everything and sit back and just think about the day, what you did right, what you did wrong, how you can improve on the day. You will be surprised at how much this helps.
7. Money over women
You have to take care of you before you can take care of anyone else. That is going to hurt some people here's feelings but screw it, I'm being honest. Not only that, women that you really want to date, with their head on straight, want a man with their head on straight, and a man who is ambitious and wants to achieve, does not put a woman, or chasing women over his career. We chase, boy do we chase, but on our terms and on our time frame. People say life is too short. That's not true. Life is extremely, long, and longer if you make the stupid decisions, you have the rest of your life to pay for them. If you have plates, you have to keep life in perspective. You have a client that wants to talk to you at 8pm, or one of your plates wants you to come over, money over *****es, stick to the script. My fiancee knows not to take it personally anymore. But this is one you can't bend on.
I learned something very important, that, at least I do, I have this built in bull**** detector. See, even if I were to try to justify going on a date when I had work to do, the bull**** detector will not allow me to have any fun anyway. There is nothing wrong with the date, it is wrong to go on the date when you have work to do. Instead of choosing which you should do, get up earlier so you can get everything you need done and do both with a free conscious. Nothing is better than taking my fiancee out to eat, knowing I have done everyhting I was supposed to do. I'm funnier, I'm more flirty, I have more fun, and usually get more nookie when I get home. She has my full attention. I'm not thinking about all the crap I have to do. That's just me, I can't in good conscious leave work on the table. In short I allow myself to be myself.
By money, that applies to anything that will make you money not just a job. School work, future business you want to own, research, whatever.
8. Live a balanced life
Think about the person YOU want to be, not what people want you to be. What does that person do? What does he like? What are his interests? What does he want to accomplish? Write this down and create what I call a balance checklist and make sure you hit on this everyday. This is more for mental sanity than anything else. you don't want to make the mistake I made when I was young, I worked too hard, and by the time I quit my first company all I wanted to do was sit at home, smoke crack and sleep. Life a balanced life. If you have a family, make sure you talk to them everyday. Play with your kids, read a book, watch a TV show, hit the gym, learn a foreign language, etc. Whatever it is you want to do, make sure you are doing it and not giving 1 thing way too much time to neglect every other aspect of your life.
9. Take care of your body to the best of your current ability
If you are too broke to hit the gym, eat to the best of your ability. Walking outside is free. So is doing pushups and situps. Something. And when your situation improve you improve with it. Nothing is stopping you from drinking 8 glasses of water a day (which I do with the help of crystal light). The better shape you are in, the more work you are able to do. Plus you look better and women respond better. It's just win win
10. Do not blame other people for my circumstances
This last one, was the real turning point in my life. The day I stopped throwing a pity party for everything wrong in my life and started taking some personal responsibility. The day I realized, that circumstances do not make the man, it revels him to himself.
Look around you right now. Look at your house, look at your car, look at your body, look at your relationships you have, look at your job. YOU created all of that. No, it's not her fault, no it's not your mom's fault, it's not your dad's fault, its' not TV's fault, it's not woman's magazines faults. The turning point in my life, was when I realized that my circumstances to not create who I am, but I create my circumstances. Every negative thing that has happened to me, I played some part in int, one way or the other, rather I want to admit it or not. Figure out what part you played in it, fix it, and move on.
Everything you do, has a consequence, good or bad. Everything, you do. My mother, sales amway, has for almost 2/3rds of my life. My mom is retired now becuase of amway. Now, when I was 11, 12, 13 years old, every damn day, she would pick me up from my grandmothers house and take me to my grandmothers house which is where I caught the bus to get to school. It was a 20 ish minute drive. Everyday, she would play these amway motivational tapes instead of listening to the radio. What she did not bank on, was me remembering word for word every damn tape 7 and 8 years later, when I told her I wanted to start my own business instead of go to school. you can't undo a decision, good or bad. the decision she made, to make me listen to the tapes, made me the stubborn to a fault entrepreneur that I am today. To the point where I let her kick me out. She did not comprehend that she made me who I was, her decisions to force me to go to the conventions with her (she did) and to listen to the tapes, had no choice but to have an impact on me. Something as little as putting in a 5 dollar tape, changed my life.
1. Early to bed, Early to raise
Get the **** up lol! As easy as it sounds, this is the one that I personally struggle with the most. It's not the early to raise part I have trouble with, it's the early to bed part. Simply put, when you get to bed, and get a good amount of sleep, get up early, what is early is up to you, the mindset it puts you in to have a successful day. I rarely have a bad day when I get up at 3-4am like I did today. I hit all my goals, I am not running behind and I don't get down on myself. It took me a while to realize that the difference between getting up at 3am and getting up at 8am, was a full work week lol every week just about. I generally get more done before 8am becuase no one else is up to distrub me. I can work non stop. To get the most out of my day, I used to head ot the gym first thing in the morning. Now I work on my business projects, then go to the gym at 9am, I don't care if anyone is in the gym or not but while I love my son, i can't play with him at 9am and work at the same time.
Personally I am to be in bed at 9, up at 3. On weekends I will go to bed at 11 and get up at 5.
2.Make your goals as detailed as possible
It's one thing to say I want to be rich. It's another thing to say by the time I'm 30 years old, I want to be able to own this, and to own this I have to be able to make this amount of money, and to make this amount of money, this is what I am going to do to get this money, and to make sure that these things happen, these are the steps I am going to take.
3. Believe in myself
No one knows what you are capable of except for you. You can do whatever you put your mind on, don't ever let anyone else tell you otherwise. If you dont' achieve something, it's not becuase it's not possible, it's simply becuase you didn't go about it the right way. When you fail, and you will, often, just realize that you figured out another way that doesn't work, and adjust.
4. Do every task to the absolute best of my ability
When you are in the gym, did you really give it your all on the squats? Were you doing half ass squats? You saw a girl in the mall that you thought was so cute, did you chicken out? At work, did you do everything you are required to do to the best of your ability? Every simple task is important to build the habit of expecting nothing but the best from you. Stuff as simple as cleaning up your room, did you half ass clean it up or did you get under the bed, did you vaccum the carpet, did you scrub the room down? If you want to be great, accept nothing but the best from yourself in any and all facets in life, and you have to start somewhere.
5. Do not think negative thoughts
Negativity will kill you before anything else will. If you don't think you can do something, or you shoot yourself down, you have 0% chance in anything you try. Negative thoughts allowed to set seed in your head will grow into weeds which will **** up your yard. Usually, this is just a question of having the right frame of mind. Instead of saying "I can't be a millionaire" say "I don't have the tools to be a millionaire yet, but with the right application of my time, and if I apply myself, I will eventually have the tools to be a millionaire". Instead of saying that girl will not talk to me say "what has this woman done to show me that she would not talk to me, nothing, and if she doesn't respond favorably to me, it's her loss not mine". See how much easier it is to approach with that mindset?
6. Take time to think everyday
By total accident, I found that my best thoughts come while laying down trying to go to sleep. It's because it's the only time in the day when I allow myself to really think about things. Most of my eureka moments happen in this time frame. Take 15 minutes, cut off everything and sit back and just think about the day, what you did right, what you did wrong, how you can improve on the day. You will be surprised at how much this helps.
7. Money over women
You have to take care of you before you can take care of anyone else. That is going to hurt some people here's feelings but screw it, I'm being honest. Not only that, women that you really want to date, with their head on straight, want a man with their head on straight, and a man who is ambitious and wants to achieve, does not put a woman, or chasing women over his career. We chase, boy do we chase, but on our terms and on our time frame. People say life is too short. That's not true. Life is extremely, long, and longer if you make the stupid decisions, you have the rest of your life to pay for them. If you have plates, you have to keep life in perspective. You have a client that wants to talk to you at 8pm, or one of your plates wants you to come over, money over *****es, stick to the script. My fiancee knows not to take it personally anymore. But this is one you can't bend on.
I learned something very important, that, at least I do, I have this built in bull**** detector. See, even if I were to try to justify going on a date when I had work to do, the bull**** detector will not allow me to have any fun anyway. There is nothing wrong with the date, it is wrong to go on the date when you have work to do. Instead of choosing which you should do, get up earlier so you can get everything you need done and do both with a free conscious. Nothing is better than taking my fiancee out to eat, knowing I have done everyhting I was supposed to do. I'm funnier, I'm more flirty, I have more fun, and usually get more nookie when I get home. She has my full attention. I'm not thinking about all the crap I have to do. That's just me, I can't in good conscious leave work on the table. In short I allow myself to be myself.
By money, that applies to anything that will make you money not just a job. School work, future business you want to own, research, whatever.
8. Live a balanced life
Think about the person YOU want to be, not what people want you to be. What does that person do? What does he like? What are his interests? What does he want to accomplish? Write this down and create what I call a balance checklist and make sure you hit on this everyday. This is more for mental sanity than anything else. you don't want to make the mistake I made when I was young, I worked too hard, and by the time I quit my first company all I wanted to do was sit at home, smoke crack and sleep. Life a balanced life. If you have a family, make sure you talk to them everyday. Play with your kids, read a book, watch a TV show, hit the gym, learn a foreign language, etc. Whatever it is you want to do, make sure you are doing it and not giving 1 thing way too much time to neglect every other aspect of your life.
9. Take care of your body to the best of your current ability
If you are too broke to hit the gym, eat to the best of your ability. Walking outside is free. So is doing pushups and situps. Something. And when your situation improve you improve with it. Nothing is stopping you from drinking 8 glasses of water a day (which I do with the help of crystal light). The better shape you are in, the more work you are able to do. Plus you look better and women respond better. It's just win win
10. Do not blame other people for my circumstances
This last one, was the real turning point in my life. The day I stopped throwing a pity party for everything wrong in my life and started taking some personal responsibility. The day I realized, that circumstances do not make the man, it revels him to himself.
Look around you right now. Look at your house, look at your car, look at your body, look at your relationships you have, look at your job. YOU created all of that. No, it's not her fault, no it's not your mom's fault, it's not your dad's fault, its' not TV's fault, it's not woman's magazines faults. The turning point in my life, was when I realized that my circumstances to not create who I am, but I create my circumstances. Every negative thing that has happened to me, I played some part in int, one way or the other, rather I want to admit it or not. Figure out what part you played in it, fix it, and move on.
Everything you do, has a consequence, good or bad. Everything, you do. My mother, sales amway, has for almost 2/3rds of my life. My mom is retired now becuase of amway. Now, when I was 11, 12, 13 years old, every damn day, she would pick me up from my grandmothers house and take me to my grandmothers house which is where I caught the bus to get to school. It was a 20 ish minute drive. Everyday, she would play these amway motivational tapes instead of listening to the radio. What she did not bank on, was me remembering word for word every damn tape 7 and 8 years later, when I told her I wanted to start my own business instead of go to school. you can't undo a decision, good or bad. the decision she made, to make me listen to the tapes, made me the stubborn to a fault entrepreneur that I am today. To the point where I let her kick me out. She did not comprehend that she made me who I was, her decisions to force me to go to the conventions with her (she did) and to listen to the tapes, had no choice but to have an impact on me. Something as little as putting in a 5 dollar tape, changed my life.
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