Letting Girl know she’s part of the rotation

[jaymbrs]

a girl I’ve had interest in a while is now single and while we were out casually day drinking she asked me if I was dating anyone. I played it as cool as I could and basically told her I was single and playing the field. There was a lot of flirting that evening between her and I. Towards the end of the night before saying goodbye I made my intentions clear that i wanted to be more than friends and start dating. She was reluctant giving me a hard time about dating other girls. I didn’t deny that she would be part of the rotation, as I didn’t want to overcommit to anything but I was wondering if that was a wise move. She’s aware she’s just another girl on my list but I would say this girl does trump the others in looks and personality.

Thoughts?

 

[jaymbrs]

i Never do. Most of the them assume it anyway and if they badger me about it I never really confirm or deny. If she’s not sleeping with me I owe her nothing

So what do you say? I couldn't think of what to say on the fly as it was an unexpected question from her.

 

[skinnyguy]

i Never do. Most of the them assume it anyway and if they badger me about it I never really confirm or deny. If she’s not sleeping with me I owe her nothing

Even if she’s sleeping with you, you owe her nothing

 

[sazc]

"How many other girls are you seeing?"

"I date, but I haven't found anyone who has drawn my interest like you have" or some sh1t like that

That's good enough. Then you keep dating, her and others, and wait for her to try to lock you down eventually.

 

[devilkingx2]

Well it depends a lot on the girl, you haven't told us anything about her really, but you seem to know her well enough so ask yourself these questions:

If you tell her you have a girl, is she gonna stay away, or wink and say that she can keep a secret from her?

If she thinks she's a part of your harem will she just laugh and say she has dibs on Saturday nights, or be turned off and think you're just a player who wants to use her?

Etc.

The key is to figure out what kinda girl she is and then you know if she needs to know about what you do with other girls

We all know girls who would suck us off while our girlfriend was on the phone, but we also all know that plenty of girls wouldn't intentionally jump into drama like that for no reason

 

[CMNILS87]

Literally most girls on dates now ask this question. Likes it’s a ducking standard question now. You owe her nothing and she’s snooping trying to find out info that’s none of her business.

I did this one to my now GF on 3 or 4th date.

Her Seeing any other girls right now???
Me: well let’s see, I count 1, 2, 3, 4 other girls at the bar here. Another girl over there with s bf, I can ask her over for a ménage date?

Play dumb, count out number of women in bar or area. If secluded, reverse and say you can’t see anyone else since you’re out hiking and it’s only trees. But that tree right there has a nice hole in it, I bet that’s a girl tree, gimme one sec while we make out.

Stupid question gets a stupid answer

 

[marmel75]

There is no need to ler her know anything unless she asks. You dont get any cool points for bringing it up yourself, it just looks try hard.

 

[skinnyguy]

Literally most girls on dates now ask this question. Likes it’s a ducking standard question now. You owe her nothing and she’s snooping trying to find out info that’s none of her business.

I did this one to my now GF on 3 or 4th date.

Her Seeing any other girls right now???
Me: well let’s see, I count 1, 2, 3, 4 other girls at the bar here. Another girl over there with s bf, I can ask her over for a ménage date?

Play dumb, count out number of women in bar or area. If secluded, reverse and say you can’t see anyone else since you’re out hiking and it’s only trees. But that tree right there has a nice hole in it, I bet that’s a girl tree, gimme one sec while we make out.

Stupid question gets a stupid answer

It’s interesting because most girls we date are going out with 20-30 other guys but act all innocent like they only date one guy at a time. Women are the real players in 2018.

 

[CMNILS87]

It’s interesting because most girls we date are going out with 20-30 other guys but act all innocent like they only date one guy at a time. Women are the real players in 2018.

Women have men and guy friends on tap. Women are collectors of things. Chick friend wants to workout together this and that. I see it everyday at college.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

TS, are you retarded?

 

[zekko]

It’s interesting because most girls we date are going out with 20-30 other guys but act all innocent like they only date one guy at a time.

They do just date one guy at a time. One guy on Saturday, one guy on Sunday...

 

[lizardking82]

I have had this come up with every single girl I've been bangin recently. Before sleeping, after sleeping, doesn't matter, it will come up. One of the girls I really like and let's say is my main plate right now, is particularly worrysome about this. She's 25 and she's really "innocent' let's say, has only had one boyfriend her whole life and is the kind of chick that wants to settle down somehow so she's had trouble accepting the fact I meet other girls, although I never confirm LOL

When you're mysterious and they're uncertain about you, they love you. It gives them a thrill and although many of them say they would want something stable, never trust what women say they want, they don't know what they want until you show them and educate them.

 

[lizardking82]

I have no issues about being open and honest with a woman about how active my dating life is and that there are other women I see. I would never, however, tell a woman she is "part of a rotation".

There is a significant difference between being open, honest and unapologetic for being a bachelor... and just being a deceptive pig who plays games.

Women are typically cool with the former, and they even get a competitive sense about them to a degree that aim to please you to draw you in and win you over. You can certainly come across as honest and trustworthy man this way even if you do get around.

Women often despise the latter, and will ghost you at the drop of a hat if you show any signs of being like that.

Agree. I think men who behave shadily do so because they are too worried to keep the woman/women (I doubt they have women, as in plural, but anyways) around and that is just being insecure and playing games. You could sometimes be mysterious about it, I think, but if she pushes, show her your true self. Women love a man who is unapologetic and embraces what he is and the way he lives, not one who thinks hiding it from them is the way to go.

 

[jaymbrs]

I have no issues about being open and honest with a woman about how active my dating life is and that there are other women I see. I would never, however, tell a woman she is "part of a rotation".

There is a significant difference between being open, honest and unapologetic for being a bachelor... and just being a deceptive pig who plays games.

Women are typically cool with the former, and they even get a competitive sense about them to a degree that aim to please you to draw you in and win you over. You can certainly come across as honest and trustworthy man this way even if you do get around.

Women often despise the latter, and will ghost you at the drop of a hat if you show any signs of being like that.

This was my initial thought. To let her know I can be straight up with her while at the same time letting her know I’m a sought out prize with options. I don’t intend on not seeing other girls. At least not until it gets serious with one of them.

 

[Glassguy]

I have no issues about being open and honest with a woman about how active my dating life is and that there are other women I see. I would never, however, tell a woman she is "part of a rotation".

There is a significant difference between being open, honest and unapologetic for being a bachelor... and just being a deceptive pig who plays games.

Women are typically cool with the former, and they even get a competitive sense about them to a degree that aim to please you to draw you in and win you over. You can certainly come across as honest and trustworthy man this way even if you do get around.

Women often despise the latter, and will ghost you at the drop of a hat if you show any signs of being like that.

I am the same way. Upfront and honest. I have NEVER had a chick tell me "well I dont want to see you again if you're dating a bunch of different women".

Chicks: You are very attractive and a lot of fun. How are you single?
Me: I choose to be single and happy instead of in a relationship with the wrong person. That way I can still do what I want and not have to explain things to someone I really dont want to be with anyways

Chicks: So are you seeing anyone else?
Me: I date often and will continue to do so until one separates themselves as someone I would want more than dating with.

Letting chicks know 2 things is imperative to get them working harder for your attention and chasing you:

1.) You are happy single and in no rush to force things
2.) You will continue dating multiple women until one stands out.

Women do not want to be a second option, but they cant walk away from a little competition. After all, what woman with high value wants a man who doesnt have several options at his fingertips?

 

[Toddz]

I have no issues about being open and honest with a woman about how active my dating life is and that there are other women I see. I would never, however, tell a woman she is "part of a rotation".

There is a significant difference between being open, honest and unapologetic for being a bachelor... and just being a deceptive pig who plays games.

Women are typically cool with the former, and they even get a competitive sense about them to a degree that aim to please you to draw you in and win you over. You can certainly come across as honest and trustworthy man this way even if you do get around.

Women often despise the latter, and will ghost you at the drop of a hat if you show any signs of being like that.

Completely agree. Women never want full disclosure. It's better to remain mysterious in discussing your dating life and let a woman use her imagination rather than being overt and direct. I don't want to know or care about how many dudes she's currently dating, so why should she want to know how many I am? Nothing beneficial comes from sharing that information. I keep it at "I'm interested in a monogamous relationship if I meet the right woman." boom done.

I will however ask about when her last relationship was. I'm screening her to know if she has any ongoing issues with an ex (on again off again, still in contact, is rebound dating). This is all important to know and women will ask the same.

 

[Toddz]

I am the same way. Upfront and honest. I have NEVER had a chick tell me "well I dont want to see you again if you're dating a bunch of different women".

Chicks: You are very attractive and a lot of fun. How are you single?
Me: I choose to be single and happy instead of in a relationship with the wrong person. That way I can still do what I want and not have to explain things to someone I really dont want to be with anyways

Chicks: So are you seeing anyone else?
Me: I date often and will continue to do so until one separates themselves as someone I would want more than dating with.

Letting chicks know 2 things is imperative to get them working harder for your attention and chasing you:

1.) You are happy single and in no rush to force things
2.) You will continue dating multiple women until one stands out.

Women do not want to be a second option, but they cant walk away from a little competition. After all, what woman with high value wants a man who doesnt have several options at his fingertips?

Yup. Women know if you're a high status male that you're dating other women, they're not stupid. Same as I know that she's dating other men being an attractive woman.

I always get the "You're such a catch! Why are you still single?" to which I reply, "Well, I haven't been caught".

The key is to not come off like you are a player. It's that you are highly selective with who you become involved exclusively with. Which you should be.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

Bit stupid that she's asking considering she's probably seeing 6 guys at once as well at this stage.

Weirdly enough I've noticed that if I'm flirting with a girl it seems to act like an aphrodisiac for nearby women.

I was just walking round a student bar to find a seat with a friend-girl with me and I was catching glances at me from everywhere. At least 5-6 different girls gave me a good 3-second stare.

Yet if I go there alone I'd probably get nothing.