Originally posted by toot86
Ok so I dont call her the next day and guess what she calls back..
No!
But you know when a girl calls but she doesnt have a reason to call.. But just calls
to talk..
I've never ever, ever received such a call. I've been told that a number of times, but I am still waiting for that call to come thru...
I think thats why she called..
Wise up, dood
..so we talk for a awhile .. and I mention i would of called to take you to the movies but my cell broke..
Ouch ouch ouch.
Toots, you need to upgrade your phone skills.
If she calls and has nothing to say, just wants to talk, you let her know you are busy without saying what it is you're busy doing (and you should be busy) and get off the phone! Stay on it and she knows you're doing nothing, you have little life and a lame-@ss phone call from her is the most exciting thing you'll get all day. In short: she will see you as a loser good only for giving her attention.
Ok, what I saw about this last bit was that you--by saying that you would have called essentially rushed to apologize (for what, I don't know...) by making a lame-sounding excuse and thereby signaled to her that you are a good, easily trained puppy dog for her.
If you didn't call, you didn't call. You don't need to make any explanation whatsoever. And don't give me any mushy nice guy excuses about being polite or you said you'd call or who knows what else.
...[deleted section containing evidence she's not too interested but likes the attention]...
then we play the whos going to hang up first game.. at the end..
Her :You hang up first
Me.:You hang up first
Her :You hang up first
Me.: [click]
Bad game to get into. It often happens when you're looking for permission to hang up---very bad. Just take charge and end it. Say: "I've got to go, good talking to you, bye." Practise that, then do it on the next 10 phone calls with everyone you talk to.
you know...
BAD OR good.. SHe called for no reason??
They always call for a reason--get attention, testing, checking up on you to see where you are and what you're doing, cancel a date, test you some more, get more attention...
They don't have to make explicit why they called and will likely tell you something other than the real reason. They will probably not make a simple, logical and easy-to-understand explanation for you either, so don't expect one.
And then maybe they'll simply want to communicate with you, but not on this type of phone call, in my experience. And even if they did want to just talk because they liked you, you risk being too available, too easy to access and lose all mystery. Be warned...
what is up with that..
I dunno---she could be, of course, unique and is well meaning and wouldn't play those attention games. Ignore all I said and report back results.
let's test this chump) bla bla bla............. I don't know lets see what's on tomorrow.
