After our date, I texted my GF why did she seem not happy throughout the date, like something's been bothering her. At first, she wouldn't answer, but then she admits that it's something I said. But she wasn't telling what it is. She kept acting like there's nothing wrong. Well, she's the kind of girl that's afraid to let it all out. In this situation, what should I've done? Keep trying to pry information from her, or just let the sleeping dogs lie? Sorry for my bad english. Thanks for your advice.
Let the Sleeping Dogs Lie?
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KontrollerX
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I've dealt with the passive aggressive type before.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
The only thing you can do is ask what is wrong and what you said and if she won't answer you reply oh ok and then go back to doing what you are doing.
Hehe, the idea is to teach them if they want conflicts resolved they have to break through their own mental barriers and make their problems known to you without you having to yell and scream and basically force them to tell you whats what.
If something is bothering them enough eventually they will tell you so long as you don't try and force it out but act like everything is ok until they open up the lines of communication.
ready123
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if, it really drives you nuts, tell her you value honesty in a relationship and that when she holds back, it makes you feel like she doesn't trust you enough to communicate. you're just being honest w/ her and if she flips on you, she's got issuesFela Kuti said:
also, how long you been with this girl? is she an actual exclusive girlfriend or someone you're just dating
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Passive aggressive is a person that is holding back on being 0utwardly aggressive.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
Basically they express their aggression in different ways than outright hostility such as physical violence or harsh language which would be outright hostility.
Passive aggressive tactics towards lovers are to go silent, sulk, act annoyed, cause arguments over little things but end the arguments quickly before getting to the root of the problem so no real progress can be made.
Their tactics are used to frustrate and anger the person they believe harmed them without using outright harsh words or physical violence as their payback method of choice.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Actually I was able to make her talk. She said that it's because she doesn't like my sudden change of date plan. Initially the plan is to go to a free concert together. But then I changed my mind, saying that I just want to go there to meet a friend then go home. Is this wrong, btw? I think even though it's wrong, it's no big deal to be bothered about..ready123 said:
She's already my GF for about 4 months.
Rhoto
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It's not a big deal. Just let your girlfriend know that if she doesn't like the way you do things, she can leave.Her responses will largely determine what kind of relationship you're in for.Fela Kuti said:
It seems like she expects you to bow to her demands; she has a higher perceived value than you. Correct that or move on.