Let it go or try one mo time

[matius]

I asked a hottie for her # on a cold approach. She said no, but her actions suggested otherwise...I felt like she was shy and it was bad timing. So we go to the same school, and I run into her an awful lot. I mean, she comes into where I work - and though it seems like she has legitimate business in there, she is in there quite a bit. And I mess around with her every single time now- She told me I was funny and we just smile at each other through the whole time...I'm very attracted to this woman.

I want to ask her out again because I feel she is somehow making attempts to show interest by her coming into work. I guess in all reality I could be making excuses to talk myself up...but this one for the thinkers here...should I ask her if she has a boyfriend, why she is so hesitant and/or shy around me, just why she won't fork the bloody number over! Anything like that? Don't really feel like getting rejected twice, but if I can help it I want to get the number.

This 'running into each other' has been happening for the past few weeks and with each time I get a bit more mental trying to get through. BTW- I'm not fixated, I get other numbers and date.

 

[crotchrocket]

If there is a mutual attraction going on, give it time, keep up the
c & f, some women are incredibly timid, she might need more time to feel comfortable with you.
When you're ready, try getting her email instead.

 

[Starman]

No dont ask her again..get a little creative..

say something like.."You know you spend wayyy too much money in this store..how are you ever gonna save up enough cash to take me out sometime?"

or say something like "Ya know for each time you come here and purchase something $20 and up..I will give you 1 digit to my fone number"

 

[matius]

Starman- I can appreciate that except there is no buying/selling going on. And then what, is she just suppose to spit out her digits after that...

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

no man..not necessarily..it goes in the "bank"

Just do C and F in whatever your situation is, but dont ask her out again yet...it will totally kill everything. Let it build up.

 

[Starman]

what kinda store do you work at where there is no buying or selling going on???

 

[drixsa]

these are all aight suggestions but what i would do to try to answer all these questions is getting into a detailed convo with her about whatever u want then switch the subject,

"so why are u always comin by to see me?"

i find that by switching the subject quickly after a little while of chatting they are more likely to spit out the true answers

u could always be more direct but i like my way better

im jus guessin that u work in a restuarnt and that she may jus really enjoy the food or whatever your place sells

i consider myself more of a person who shops for necessity (not that i dont look good) but i do know ppl that go to the same stores, restuarnts, bars, etc. more than once a week

 

[matius]

No, I do random things in the schools print shop, and she could just be coming there for what she needs- absolutely. However, most girls would do everything in their power to avoid some creep that asked them out and continues to talk to them (I know that's a fact). Besides, she seems very shy and apprehensive. Time is running out no matter what the reality of the situation is, school is almost out and she gone after this round...that's somewhat why I'm asking about being more direct...

I mean, if I asked her if she had a boyfriend, she could easily say sure...and it has nothing to do with me anyway. Perhaps the fact alone that she isn't making it extremely apparent or easy for me to ask her out again is nuff for me to walk away. But man, but I feel crazy energy when she is around

 

[TheDoppler]

Hmmmm...tough call...she's giving the signals she wants to be around you or enjoys you but won't give up the digits.

Maybe to HER, giving you her number means a surrender. There's a major mental game going on here I can tell that much...and she probably is genuinely interested but you either need to find the right combo to the lock or else she needs some coaxing that this isn't a setup.

Mention someplace that you're going to be later on that day or that week...preferably a party or somewhere else where showing up doesn't make it a date. Tell her if she shows up it would be cool with whoever the host is. If she shows up at all then it means she's open to suggestions and might give you digits there or at least lead to a real date.

I realize giving her your phonenumber gives certain signals but maybe you need to consider it if she's starting to get to you. It's not going to make you her bee-atch unless she really is running a game here.

There's also a possibility she sees you as friendship material and thinks giving you her number will give you the idea she thinks you're dating material instead. And yeah, maybe she's with someone or has other reasons why she wouldn't want you calling...those are possibilities but it doesn't make them true...

Rich

 

[matius]

Hey Rich-

Interesting. No, I'm not friendship material though, I'm sure I don't come off that way. Perhaps I should think about trying to become more peoples friends so that I would have a party to go to as you've mentioned.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Keep us updated on your situation.

In the system Doc Love says to never ask a woman more than once for her number and id like to see if anyone can prove his theory wrong.

Everyone here is telling him to go for it but have any of you actually had success with a girl who initially wouldn't give you her number?

 

[drixsa]

aight i say go for some senior girls regardless of if she is interested in u, that is if u work in a high school and not a junior high

jus go for it

"so what do u do for fun round here?"

her: "blah blah blah (some random activity)

"oh yea, does your BF like doin that with u?"

her(hopefully): "who said i had a BF?"

"oh, i thought u told me that u were seeing somebody?"

her: "nope..."

"well i would like to (insert activity) with u some time?"

her(hopefully): yea that sounds great
...and hopefully u would know where to take it from there

OR

bring up something controversial

"Did you hear bout what Pres. Bush is doing( or somethin in school she'd know about)?"

her: "Yea i think it is really awsome!"

"hmmm...what would your boyfriend think about that?"

-i think u get the drift-

 

[matius]

Matius = 24 Years of Age

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by matius
Matius = 24 Years of Age

and that is great

i did see that on the left hand side as well

but still, some senior honeys? c'mon now their aint nothin wrong with that

hell i am a senior and i know a bunch of girls datin guys your age