Overall I had a pretty good experience with this last girl. I applied a lot of the knowledge I learned from this website and some of it went really well. I failed at a few parts and learned some new stuff. I thought I'd share it here to put a positive spin on the whole situation. Yesterday I was kind of beating myself up about it, but I realize I'm still learning.
Things I learned:
-stay busy enough that you don't overthink things, you do come off as a fun busy guy, and you're prepared if things go sour
-keep all interactions fun, playful and witty. if you can't, why are you talking/seeing her?
-don't put too much pressure on yourself for the sexual parts. This website can give you the impression sex is all to women, and if you don't **** good you're screwed. If you're game is solid, girls will give you a chance to improve and shouldn't hold it against you.Take your time to get comfortable and want to improve.
-Stay positive and don't read into things they do or say. If you find yourself asking why about anything related to this girl, stop yourself right away. You should know when you're being disrespected and setup some ground rules for when you walk so you don't need to analyze.
-Dating girls takes a lot of energy and time. Something has to be sacrificed for you to do this. You should miss the things you're giving up to see this girl. If you don't, do not misinterpret this as her being "special" or "different". You obviously haven't found enough interests/hobbies to miss. Work on this and it will help you qualify this girl and ensure she's worth your time.
-Do not avoid her texts/calls to appear busy. Answer her by telling her you're busy and what you're doing. This shows respect and suggests the fun things she might be able to do in the future with you if this continues. If you're avoiding her calls because you actually aren't busy but want to appear this way, you're already failing. You put the cart ahead of the horse. Go get a life.
-Don't get involved with her problems. Avoid complaining to her about yours. Every interaction should be fun, light and witty. That's what you're adding to her life and what she should be adding to yours. You don't need another mother and she shouldn't need another father.
-Good looking girls date a lot, but most girls don't date many quality guys. Don't get insecure when you realize there are previous guys or even current guys. Spend time developing yourself and take some pressure off yourself. You don't need to think up the best introduction and way to get her number. Going with a "B" approach is better than nothing. As long as you avoid looking like an idiot/douchebag/creeper, you're ahead of the game and most other guys.
-Just because she comes off as happy, positive and fun in the beginning don't rush into the assumption that she's great LTR material. Most girls seem to put up a good front to keep a guy around. Hold your ground and keep qualifying. I'm gonna try to push it next time to see if I can bring out a reaction to see what she's really like when she's mad lol.
That's it for now. I might add to this later.
Things I learned:
-stay busy enough that you don't overthink things, you do come off as a fun busy guy, and you're prepared if things go sour
-keep all interactions fun, playful and witty. if you can't, why are you talking/seeing her?
-don't put too much pressure on yourself for the sexual parts. This website can give you the impression sex is all to women, and if you don't **** good you're screwed. If you're game is solid, girls will give you a chance to improve and shouldn't hold it against you.Take your time to get comfortable and want to improve.
-Stay positive and don't read into things they do or say. If you find yourself asking why about anything related to this girl, stop yourself right away. You should know when you're being disrespected and setup some ground rules for when you walk so you don't need to analyze.
-Dating girls takes a lot of energy and time. Something has to be sacrificed for you to do this. You should miss the things you're giving up to see this girl. If you don't, do not misinterpret this as her being "special" or "different". You obviously haven't found enough interests/hobbies to miss. Work on this and it will help you qualify this girl and ensure she's worth your time.
-Do not avoid her texts/calls to appear busy. Answer her by telling her you're busy and what you're doing. This shows respect and suggests the fun things she might be able to do in the future with you if this continues. If you're avoiding her calls because you actually aren't busy but want to appear this way, you're already failing. You put the cart ahead of the horse. Go get a life.
-Don't get involved with her problems. Avoid complaining to her about yours. Every interaction should be fun, light and witty. That's what you're adding to her life and what she should be adding to yours. You don't need another mother and she shouldn't need another father.
-Good looking girls date a lot, but most girls don't date many quality guys. Don't get insecure when you realize there are previous guys or even current guys. Spend time developing yourself and take some pressure off yourself. You don't need to think up the best introduction and way to get her number. Going with a "B" approach is better than nothing. As long as you avoid looking like an idiot/douchebag/creeper, you're ahead of the game and most other guys.
-Just because she comes off as happy, positive and fun in the beginning don't rush into the assumption that she's great LTR material. Most girls seem to put up a good front to keep a guy around. Hold your ground and keep qualifying. I'm gonna try to push it next time to see if I can bring out a reaction to see what she's really like when she's mad lol.
That's it for now. I might add to this later.
