Led on or turned down

[Fruitbat]

Recently came to the realisation that much of the really bad times in my life came from a rejection, but more specifically, the ones that really hurt were the ones where I didn't feel the girl was honest with me and was just leading on.

Breaking up is hard but I dealt with it in a mature fashion with women who I had relationships with. Times change, it's a sadness but it's like a "correct" sadness.

I could never deal with the mind**** of a girl who feigned interests to get attention, or to make another guy jealous, or for whatever reason.

I have had a fair few do this to me. Not going to bore you but one example is a girl being really friendly and then asking me out for a drink, and then turns up with her BF. Some of the intensely ****ed up ways they seem to just try to break you.....I would say on four occasions I got broken by these vampires.

I'm becoming a cynical ******* now. I haven't dated for a while as I can never tell is a woman is straight up.

Did you have an experience like this?

What did you learn from it?

How do you stop it eating you whole?!

How do you reflect on it?

3 years since the woman I had an infatuation for decided it would be good fun to fake interest, play me around and share with my workmates....even with therapy I keep coming back to it as the wounds are still strong. I feel such a pvssy for it but I can't turn the anger off!! It's almost like I am broken forever. Since it happened she's joined a gym and got promoted. I got fat and am currently almost sacked. It's literally like she sucked all the life out of me.

 

[Roober]

only you sucked the life out of yourself. Getting dumped fvcking sucks major! It hurts like hell and you begin to ponder everything you could have done differently. However, you need to use that pain to your advantage. She taught you a valuable lesson such as...

Were there red flags? There were probably things she did that you ignored... I would say almost all women show their true colors in some way, shape, or form...
Use the anger to your advantage. Do activities and get out of the house
Exercise! I can't tell you how much this helps me right now. The psychological benefits are amazing, and the physical are the more obvious

Only you can make the choice to move beyond it. Start spinning plates. If you feel the beginning of an attachment, cut it off. Do this until you can find your happy place... You need to work on you because nobody else will do it for you.