Leaving a message on the phone
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Bonhomme
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Usually I'll leave a message and let her call back. Sometimes I'll call again, and sometimes I'll just not leave a message and call back. Depends upon the situation.
Usually I'll leave a message and let her call back. Sometimes I'll call again, and sometimes I'll just not leave a message and call back. Depends upon the situation.
KiInCollege
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According to the bible, the first answer is correct. Don't put the ball in their court by leaving a message, because there is the chance that even if they like you, they won't call back.
Just call again later - no problem. Even if her roommate answers, you may optionally say your name and that you'll call back.
Just call again later - no problem. Even if her roommate answers, you may optionally say your name and that you'll call back.
OddTech
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Personally, I would leave a message. Partially, I do it to test interest level. From experience, if the girl has high interest, she will call me back. Different strokes for different folks.
Bonhomme
Master Don Juan
If they like you enough
They'll often call you first.
Smart gals are hip to the caller ID blocking. Relatively few people block caller ID. If they notice a pattern, they may smell a rat. I rarely block caller ID, and usually leave messages. Most women respect straightforward men.
They'll often call you first.
Smart gals are hip to the caller ID blocking. Relatively few people block caller ID. If they notice a pattern, they may smell a rat. I rarely block caller ID, and usually leave messages. Most women respect straightforward men.
LowPlainsDrifter
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I've gone back and forth on this one myself.
For the most part, I agree with J-man that it's a good interest level test.
There's someone I used to work with that I enounter at the mini-mart across the street. I want to go out with her, but I don't want to leave it to chance - often months go by before I run into her.
So I called her at work about two weeks ago and she responded that she had to get some family stuff out of the way before going out anywhere in the evening. She suggested I call back, so now I think it's time and if she's wishy-washy again, I'll know what the deal is. If I get voicemail, I'll leave a clear message and if she calls back, great - if not, then next.
I also want to date this really attractive woman at a client site - she's a new ad sales rep. She seemed friendly enough, good eye contact, etc. Intending to ask her out, I called around 3:00 or so Fri afternoon. She wasn't there, so I left a message.
Once again, if she calls back - great. If not, I won't ask again and if I see her, I'll let her bring up the message, if she chooses to.
I figure in either case, if they're sufficiently intrigued, they'll call back.
I have two friends who *instantly* pick up their phones, and I'm sure it's because they're afraid of missing a callback from someone they're interested in.
It's actually a good filter - a gal who really is interested will leave a message if you don't get to the phone in time.
In fact, always being available is an IL killer.
For the most part, I agree with J-man that it's a good interest level test.
There's someone I used to work with that I enounter at the mini-mart across the street. I want to go out with her, but I don't want to leave it to chance - often months go by before I run into her.
So I called her at work about two weeks ago and she responded that she had to get some family stuff out of the way before going out anywhere in the evening. She suggested I call back, so now I think it's time and if she's wishy-washy again, I'll know what the deal is. If I get voicemail, I'll leave a clear message and if she calls back, great - if not, then next.
I also want to date this really attractive woman at a client site - she's a new ad sales rep. She seemed friendly enough, good eye contact, etc. Intending to ask her out, I called around 3:00 or so Fri afternoon. She wasn't there, so I left a message.
Once again, if she calls back - great. If not, I won't ask again and if I see her, I'll let her bring up the message, if she chooses to.
I figure in either case, if they're sufficiently intrigued, they'll call back.
I have two friends who *instantly* pick up their phones, and I'm sure it's because they're afraid of missing a callback from someone they're interested in.
It's actually a good filter - a gal who really is interested will leave a message if you don't get to the phone in time.
In fact, always being available is an IL killer.
always leave a message. this isn't a game of hide and go seek. if you are calling its for a reason, it just looks dumb to hang up, and you feel like a wuss.
the thing is, once you leave the message DO NOT call her back again!!!
J
the thing is, once you leave the message DO NOT call her back again!!!
J
I leave a message. If they call me back great, if not, next.
I found that women that have the courtesy to call you back are mature enough to know they want to check you out.
Remember, this is a numbers game. The more you fish the more you will catch.
My 2 cents.
-Sapiens
I agree, I also do not call her again.
I found that women that have the courtesy to call you back are mature enough to know they want to check you out.
Remember, this is a numbers game. The more you fish the more you will catch.
My 2 cents.
-Sapiens
Depends on the girl, really.
If she's someone I just met, I'll call, leave a message, and if she doesn't return the call....NEXT.
If she's someone whom I'm sure can recognize my number, I won't leave a message. Cellphones these days have "Missed Calls" features, and if she sees my number and chooses not to call back, then.....NEXT.
If she's someone I just met, I'll call, leave a message, and if she doesn't return the call....NEXT.
If she's someone whom I'm sure can recognize my number, I won't leave a message. Cellphones these days have "Missed Calls" features, and if she sees my number and chooses not to call back, then.....NEXT.
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First time caller, leave one message. ONE.
Leave your name and number. If she wants to talk to you she will call you back.
Lots of girls don't even pick up the first time...they screen the call and if they dont' recognize the number they let it go to voicemail. If you don't leave a message, you become that "creepy number that keeps calling".
If you leave one and she doesn't call you back, she just wasn't that interested in hanging with you. No sweat. On to the next one.
If you've gone out with her before, you're allowed to call again once or twice after leaving the message. But don't leave a second message...she knows who it is.
Leave your name and number. If she wants to talk to you she will call you back.
Lots of girls don't even pick up the first time...they screen the call and if they dont' recognize the number they let it go to voicemail. If you don't leave a message, you become that "creepy number that keeps calling".
If you leave one and she doesn't call you back, she just wasn't that interested in hanging with you. No sweat. On to the next one.
If you've gone out with her before, you're allowed to call again once or twice after leaving the message. But don't leave a second message...she knows who it is.